Veronique

I don't think she wants to be involved with you - but just be friends.

Yes, it is possible for someone your age to start dating again! You are just starting life and most of those people who are telling you that time is running out will be divorced in 10 years. Take your time, when you find someone you are comfortable with you will find the courage to ask her out. The more mature you are when you find that right person the more likely that your marriage will last. (Some women find guys that are a little shy attractive.)

I think it is a strange thing and I sure as heck wouldn't let him take one of me so that he could leave it up there and tell his next girlfriend what it was! I would run as fast as I could! Not so much because this seems weird but because he doesn't respect you enough to try to understand how you might not want to look at his ex-girlfriend's anus each time you are at his house!!!

My absolute favorite postion is on my knees - from behind. Deep pentration and seems a little naughty!

Hi! 25 years in a marriage is a long time and does indicate your commitment to your husband. My husband and I have been married for 26 years and I have thought of divorce at times, too. We were recently separated and I found that to be very lonely so I came home. No guts no glory, I guess. My suggestion to you is to go to counseling on your own and get some help figuring out what you want. I can suggest not having an affair - that will only end up hurting you - I know, I've been there. I can say for sure that you have lived long enough without the companionship and intimacy that you deserve!!!!!!!!! Best of luck!

The Dance - Garth Brooks It says it all

My personal opinion is that it isn't that big of a deal, provided that he doesn't do it every day. If it feels like he is cheating in some sort of weird way then maybe you could suggest that the two of you find a site that you both like to look at that has stuff for men and women. Keep an open mind! However, if it is something that you just can't tolerate you need to let him know that - clearly. The fact that you had 2 kids before you got married does not mean that you have to tolerate things in your marriage that are objectionable to you. Best of luck~!

Hi. Which of you doesn't want to participate in the sex? If it is you then maybe you haven't let go of what happened, if it is her then maybe she hasn't dealt with the embarrassment and grief that comes from being the one who is unfaithful.

Hi! I have been married for 26 years. During the first 4 years of my marriage my husband was a practicing alcoholic who was physically abusive to me. Anyway, he went through treatment and hasn't been abusive to me since. You would think that I would be able to get past the physical abuse - since it has been 22 years since it happened. However, I still have resentment towards him that he did it. He is kind to me now and I know he would never hit me again. Is there anyone out there who has stayed in a relationship after the physical abuse stopped? If so, how do you feel about it now ? How did you leave it in the past? Thanks!

Hi! I need some advice to help me sort out my feelings and actions. 15 years ago I had a brief affair with a man that I felt I really loved. I was married, young, had 3 children and didn't leave my marriage. After the affair ended I never had contact with the man until 9 months ago when I saw his name on link removed. I emailed him and have been in contact with him off and on since. At the time of the affair 15 years ago my marriage was terrible; we argued all of the time, my husband had been physically abusive in the early years of our marriage but had gone through treatment for alcoholism and hadn't been abusive to me since. I stayed because I wanted my kids to grow up in the same house as their father (dumb choice) and because I was stupid enough to believe my mother when she said I wouldn't find anyone who would treat me better. But, the strange thing is that for the 6 years before I initiated contact with my former lover I thought I was pretty happily married. We didn't argue, we traveled, did things together. Physically our sex was great but I never had sex mentally with my husband - it was always someone else or some kind of fantasy. If I tried to make myself focus on the fact that I was actually having sex with my husband I wouldn't get aroused at all. So here's my confusion. I left my husband for about 5 months this spring hoping to rekindle a romance with the former lover. That didn't happen - the former lover is very cautious, having just gotten divorced and didn't eant to go into a relationship with me while I am married. We met for coffee one time but other than that we haven't seen each other. I know he has feelings for me and I definitely have some feelings for him. I moved home for the summer because I missed my house and yes, things my husband offered me - like companionship and acceptance. But, I still feel empty inside, think about the lover all of the time and still have issues with sex. Has anyone else out there experienced any of this? Does anyone have any good suggestions to help me to decide to leave or stay in my marriage?