jacobtyker

I don't want to stop drinking, and, unfortunately my loniless is the sacrifice I have made for my future, it sucks, but its the best option. Hopefully only a year to go. I hate having no friends where I have moved

I'm so drunk right now and I find it has been the best way to deal with the fact that this is the most lonely I have ever been. Although it is making me feel better as long as I keep drinking... this sucks and isn't right at all

Hi all, I was wondering if I could get a little advice. My girlfriend and I live far apart, I made the trip to her place last week and was there for a week. Now that I have left she's doing really badly. She seemed better the last couple days, but today shes not good at all. I was talking to her on the phone and she was crying, I didn't know what to do. She was so upset, in person I'd just hold her and stuff, but over the phone, I didn't know. She wants me back there, but Ic an't do that yet, so, I don't know. She'll be coming to visit me in 2 weeks but that seems little consolation to her. After that it will be a couple months until we see each other. I'm not sure what I can say to make her feel any better, does anyone have any suggestions, I try stuff, but it doesn't seem to work at all. Thanks guys

I live in Montreal, my girlfriend lives in Edmonton, it really sucks. I get to go back in a week or so though, really looking forward to that.

My girlfriend occasionally does it to me, it feels good

I was about a month short or 21, the girl was 18 I believe, wow, that sounds terrible, I dated her for almost 2 years after that and don't know how old she was, nice.

Yes, she is definitely interested in spending more time with you. Go to something she invites you to and see if you two have chemistry and get along, she is absloutely giving you the opportunity.

If you can find a really physical job that'll take you on that may work better. I used to be 5'9" and about 130 lbs then I got a job at a concrete plant and in 3 months I weighed 170lbs. It may be tough to find a company that will take you on, but keep looking. Working 12 hour shifts lifting sometimes 300lbs stuff bulked me up really fast, hopefully it can do the same for you. The great thing is that you get payed to do it too and you do it 5 days a week.

Over year ago I went through a very similar thing, girl I was totally in love with and had lived with for a couple years broke up with me. I did not give up on the relationship at all after we broke up. A few weeks later she told me she was dating someone else. Unfortunately circumstances made it so we moved in together right after she told me that (like the next day). So, unlike you, I knew a lot, pretty much everything. That was terrrible, although not knowing hurts, knowing is so much worse. I'd know the nights she wouldn't come home and such, that is the most horrible feeling you can imagine. Looking back, the lesson I learned was that you have to give up at a certain point. I didn't give up on her and I fast enough and it destroyed me. The whole time I knew she still wanted me, she told me, but you have to make yourself happy and living day to day to get her back doesn't do that, dispite what it may seem.

My ex broke up with me about a month age after we had been dating for almost 2 years. For that 2 years we lived together with some other roommates. This year at university we were going to live alone togerther. We were meant to be (and still are) we were happy all the time and I loved her wth all my heart. Then she broke up with me. This suprized the hell out of me. I know we wern't doing great but we just had to talk and work on our few problems. But after a few days I was ok with the breakup. It gave me a chance to do some thinking that I couldn't do if we were together. I realized that I had changed and that I wasn't the person that she had fallen in love with, and I also wasn't the person that I wanted to be anymore. After I had realized this it was easy to change back. I was excited that I may now have a good chance of dating her again. We are best friends so we thought that we could still live together, since we had already rented the apartment. I thought this would be the beginning of us getting back together. Then about a week age, 3 weeks after we had broken up, and a day before we were supposed to move in together she told me that she was seeing someone else. This was some guy she had meant over the summer while working with him. As the relationship got closer to the break up I became more jealous of him. In fact she used the jealousy as an excuse to break up with me. She didn't start anything with this guy until we had broken up, but it still made me feel like a piece of crap. then I saw her the day we were supposed to move in together and I was ok. She was a complete mess, she was crying at the sight of me, she hadnt slept in a long time, an seemed very confuzed. So now we live together and she is dating someone else. It is important to note that we lost our viginities to each other (note: Im 22 and she is 20 now), and I have to watch her spend the night over at his house. I am not doing very good, it is everything not to kill myself sometimes, but I know i won't. But on top of that I am wathing my best friend be a complete wreak and not even realize it, and I can't really talk to her completely about it otherwise it seems like jealous ex-boyfriend. Her mom is soo worriwd about her also, but there is nothing I can do. I really know we are meant to be together, just because we were so happy together, I have NEVER seen a couple as happy as us. I think my lesson in this is patience because I have none and it will also just take time, not that Im going to sit around and wait for her, once I'm ready to date. I honestly never thought I would love anyone like I love her, I didn't think it possible. We also had a fight a few days ago while living together. It started when we planned on spending the night together and I wanted to go to the bar together, and she didn't, so whatever. We stayed home and watched TV. Then her boyfriend phoned and asked her if she wanted to go to the bar, and she said yes she wanted to. I had to ask why shed go with him and not me, she said she didn't trust herself drunk with me. I asked if this was fair to the new gut and she said yes because he knows shes not over me. I took a chance to confess my love for her, and she said that she wasn't ready for the serious relationship that we were in, which I understand. I was hurt but it was nothing I didn't expect. The important thing is that I wasn't mad at her. But somehow the conversaton progressed and I don't remember how. I ended up calling her a liar and stuff, basically being a big jerk. She ran out to her new boyfriend (smooth move, way to go, that'll get her back). I apologized to her the next morning when she got home. Thats about all I can think of Thanks for reading, any comments are very welcome