Jennkitchen79

O.k....*sigh*, this is what's going on. The fighting is getting worse between me and my husband. It's just badd!! We have agreed to go to counseling for our son's sake, but we only agreed on getting along for our son's sake and nothing else. We just can't stand eachother anymore, really, we can't!! As far as rushing into things with my boyfriend....well, yes I did, but i have known him for quite a while so it's not like I did it out of the blue and me and my husband didn't get along wayyy before I met my boyfriend so, what's the use. I can't love my husband. There are alot of reasons why and I just can't. I don't feel ANYthing there anymore. He is soooo f-ing miserable. Arghh....If it wasn't for my son this whole situation would be a piece of cake because then I would just tell my husband to go somewhere, but I can't. I just don't know what to do. Being with my boyfriend it just feels right. Oh and I would never leave my son. I raise my son 24/7. My husband nevver sees him?!? I get frustrated sometimes because of my son's stubborness, but he is my whole world and if I am not happy, then my son is not happy. I will let y'all know what happens in counseling. My appt. is this Wed. around 2ish. Ta-ta for now!

wow! Thank you Princess777 for the advice. With everything going on, It made me stop and think about the reality of things. I am going to take things one day at a time and see how it goes. Last night my boyfriend said that I have his heart and that he is not going anywhere. He even has his whole family involved in this situation. His older sister, who went through the same situation, is concerned and she wants to talk to me. I understand that I have to focus on myself and my son, but what about the constant bickering/fighting back and forth? My son does not need to go through this anymore. Again, thank you for the advice I'll let y'all know what happens.

At this point, I will take all the advice I can get. My husband and I have been married for about 3 years now. The first year was fine, the second got a little rocky and this year has been horrible. All we do is fight, constantly. I know it is not right for my 2 year old to see us fighting all the time and I can't take it anymore. But seriously, I can't have a decent conversation with my husband. He is an idiot!! Some of the crap he brings up is just STUPID! We have talked about divorce and everything. On the other hand, I have a boyfriend. He is intelligent, sweet, mellow etc... I am 100% attracted to my boyfriend and our conversations are out of this world. We get along so well that most of the time I wish that my boyfriend was my son's father. This is my problem......I just recently left my husband and moved in with my boyfriend. Everything is wonderful!! What's bothering me is that I am afraid that the whole deal will affect my son when he gets older. Will he blame me for leaving my husband for my own selfishness-wanting happiness?!? I dunno. And I notice that my son gets upset when either of us drops him off/picks him up, ya know, the whole back and forth visitation thing. My son gets upset about it and gets confused when I don't get in the car to go to my husband's house on the weekends. He points to the passenger side and says, "Mommy sit, sit." It kills me inside when my son does that. I want my son to be happy too. My husband also tells me that I am screwing up our son's head/life. My boyfriend tells me that if I can't take my husband's pressure everytime he picks up my son, my boyfriend tells me that he will pay for a lawyer, have my husband arrested and so on. I don't want my son to see that, but my husband won't let me be happy I feel like I am in the middle of a river about to drown and my husband is on one side telling me that my boyfriend is crazy, this and that. And my boyfriend on the other side telling me how bad my husband is and this and that and I am about to drown and die. I know that I am not happy with my husband. I am happy with my boyfriend; however knowing that my husband will never stop pressuring me to come back home, this and that is stressful and I am ready to just go home and be miserable with my husband. My son wants to see us together anyway, so I wish I only knew what to do. The right thing to do...I don't yet know what it is. I am so confused. Please, if anybody is/had ever been in this type of situation, please reply to this post. ](*,)

How do I get him to stop screaming, crying, whining etc..... Does anybody know? I'm just frustrated and confused right now that's all. P.s- Thank you all for your help!

No, I would never do anything to hurt my son physically. I would just leave.

Everything is fine now. I was under alot of stress at that point in time.

Girlfriend, you definetly have insecurity issues. I look at porn all the time with my man. It's no big deal. You are pushing him away and you may lose him. It's just a fantasy thng. Tell me you've never fantasized about Brad Pitt or Antonio Benderez or say some other male. C'mon, you are older and more experienced than he is. I think you are being way too dramatic over this. And don't say that you have never masterbated, let's keep it real here, when us girls masterbate we have to fantasize or look at something to help get us off. It's the same thing darlin'..........leave him be, men are perv's, always

A little tip for you, it's hard to understand your spelling, respectfully.

First, I would like to thank you all for your attention to this post. Your opinions and advice are greatly appreciated. Crookster, to answer your question, there was no particular reason/s why we had to part, I had to move and I was too busy and I guess you can say that I lost contact. I'm blaming it on myself aren't I I contacted his younger brother a few weeks after I had moved and he told me that my x moved out on his own; to another state. (sigh)........Ya know what, I'm just getting frustrated over him and I know that it's not worth it because I keep telling myself that he is obviously very disrespectful. I say to myself.....He has a girlfriend and he has no respect for her, meanwhile telling me that he cares for me and wants to see me again. We are just not meant to be I suppose.......I'll be alright....lol. I've been through much worse

I met him a few years ago and it was love at first sight. We parted without ever saying goodbye. He had to move away and I moved away also. Just the other day I called him(he moved to Maryland and I live in New Jersey now.) and I called him out of impulse I guess. He picked up the phone and I asked him how he was doing and he said, "I'm married now" and I said "You are?" he replied, "No, I'm in a long term relationship. Then he said that he will never get married because he knows that he can't get a divorce I have no idea what that meant?!? Then he told me that the past is the past and said "I care for you alot" Then he said that he would like to see me again?!?!?! Oh my, I am so confused as to why I called him in the first place and now that he has told me these things, I feel like I still have very strong feelings for him as it was just yesterday that we were together. Why would he say all these things to me if he is in a long term relationship????? WHy?? Why??