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My ex and I were together for about 8 months, and we were fairly happy for awhile. we were forced to live together, and a lot of romance was killed because of this, but I don't see that as relevant to the prolem I currently have. We both decided I should move out, and start looking for a job, and I did just that. unfortunately we fought still after I left. the two of us weren't getting along at all. This morning, she threw some really harsh news in my face. a week ago, just before she decided we should finally end it, she cheated on me. Yes, it hurt, Yes I wanted to scream. what I did though was tell her how angry and hurt I was. she said that no matter how mad I got, I'd never be as mad at her as she is at herself. she refuses to let herself forgive herself, and she's being very hard on herself. She's made mistakes in the past, none this bad, and she's hated herself for them too, and she's also let me love her even though she hated herself. she won't let me love her now, even though it's the only thing I want to do. I truly think it was a mistake, and I think that she feels really bad about it. the problem is, she always takes the easy way out, she always tries to find the easiest thing to do. what I need to ask is what do I do? I don't want to forget about her, I still love hr, and I'm willing to forgive, not soon, but eventually. the problem is, I want to force her to see what she needs to do to grow up, and to become honest with me. whenever seh's pushed, she's very stubborn, she holds her spot, even if it's a bad one. I don't know what to do to get her to understand that runnign from guy to guy looking for love will only hurt her more. Everyone that knows her says she looks for ove all the time, yet with me, she had something more than with everyone else. I want to try and forgive, and I want her to as well, what should I do?

OK in order to make it a little more clear... I do want to be with her. Moving out was an attempt to give us some time to ourselves and to try to start some things over. I just want to know how to be there and have her open up to me, and what I can do about her talking to someone else. I don't think it's healthy in a relationship for someone to seek comfort in other places.

My girlfriend of about 8 months and I recently went through a fairly hard time. she has a very hard time coming to me with things. she constantly tells me that things that I ask her about "aren't any of my business" or "I don't have to tell you everything" when I really don't feel like I ask that much. For about 2 months I was going through a rough time, and I was a really bad boyfriend, and to give her credit she tried through the whole mess. eventually she started talking to one of her exes, and I got unnecessarily jealous. I decided that I was being really crazy, and I shouldn't worry, I mean we're in love. then one evening she left a conversation she had had with him open on the screen. I read it, much to my own selfhatred. and discovered that she was flirting heavily, and even told him that she loved him. I confessed to her and told her that I read it, and she said that she purposefully left it open, so that I would read it. I asked her why, and she told me she just thought it would be easier to talk to me if I had an idea of what was already going on. She also told me that she loved me, and she hated herself for wanting to talk to him. I tried to comfort her, and tried to tell her that I knew we were having a very difficult time, and I would try to help things, I would try to be a better boyfriend. She calls this guy occasionally, and it was bothering me when she would. which I felt wasn't too unreasonable. I never asked her to stop contact with him, because that's crossing the line. she would get really upset with me whenever I would start to feel upset about her talking to him. she said I was being controlling and that I wasn't giving her freedom or privacy. today I moved out, and decided that maybe we could be better off if we weren't always together. I want to gain this trust back, but I really know in my head that I need to just leave her alone. she'll either come to me, or she'll decided to severe what little bit is left. what I do know is that I'll always have a hard time trusting her again while she's still having contact with her ex. anything anyone has to say would be greatly appreciated, any ideas or just talking would make me feel better too, thanks. Darryl

too bad she didn't like it... she just read it and went, oh, ok

She doesn't have a reason... that's my biggest problem. she also isn't letting me be friends with her. she's pushing me away very much.

I did tell her how I felt, and she still said, "we'll never be together, I just don't feel it. I'm not in love with you, I don't really love you, and I never will." she just doesn't want to be with me. no matter what. I"ve changed, and I understand that me changing isn't a big deal. I told her I changed, evven though I was never bad, and I asked her why she wouldn't let that have a chance. she told me that she just didn't want to. she said she wouldn't be happy with me. but how can she know that, if she won't give it a chance?

I wasn't really looking for advice, and I hate hearing all tha, even if I know it's true. I do love myself, those are the changes I want to share. UNfortunately I had to set her free, and I can't do anything to get her back.

I had an ex that could only rech orgasm when she masturbated by laying on her stomach. I tried to help her laying on her back, and when I did it, she reached, but she couldn't do it herself. It probably has to do with pressure.

Everyone says you didn't love me, Everyone says you didn't care. They all tell me that you felt obligated, You had to stay with me, Because you didn't know any better. You tell me I don't know you, When for two years, You were all I knew. You tell me I can't understand you, That you're someone I can't comprehend. You say that like it won't ever happen. Maybe I wasn't open enough, Maybe you weren't open enough. When I was with you, Everything still felt right. I felt like I could hold the whole world, I felt like I was holding it when I held you. We became different people, You're right about that. I became someone I want you to know, I open up to you at the same time you close yourself. My life seemed to end the day you left, I had built myself up to you, Then I had to adjust. I've changed so much, And I'm a better person. I gave you me when I wasn't this good, And I want to give you me now. I want to open up to you, I want you to see me for who I am, And I want to see you for who you are, A beautiful soul, A loving friend, A gentle lover. I want to bring the romance back, I want to sweep you away, Take you into the sky. I want to make you dizzy. I want to make you feel something special. I want to make love to you and have it mean something special. I want to be a part of you, I want to be inside you, I want to be connected to you. Our worlds aren't the same, I live my own life and the one person I want in it, You, Can't be there.

I was doing a lot of thinking the other day, and I decided to write it all down. I just thought that maybe all of you would have some responses to what I feel my biggest fear is. I edited out names, because I don't want to invade other people's privacy. I've always thought I had no major fears. Nothing has ever crossed my mind, made me feel empty, alone, and small. Heights have never made me dizzy, and water never made me shudder. At 19 years old, I've even come to terms with mortality. Someday, people who mean a lot to me are going to die. Someday, I will die. I've accepted this. My biggest fear isn't death, yet in a lot of ways, it could be. After a long period of introspection, after looking deep into myself, after looking into the period that my life has just traversed, I've decided that my biggest fear is the future. I had finally come to a point in my life where I was comfortable. I had a full family, I was in school, and I was deeply in love. All these things were a part of who I was, and I regret to say I took them all for granted. It wasn't until two of them were removed, that I finally realized how much they all meant to me. I had always felt that my life was centered on my family. My parents would always be there, regardless of the reasons, and be an important part of my future. In a way, that's still true. Unfortunately, not all things are meant to perpetually exist. My father grew unhappy, and decided to move on. I don't fault him for this, although I believe there were some things that he could have done, so things that he may have overlooked, and some things that he needed to take care of. So my father left, in turn upsetting my mother. Who reached out frantically. In a way, she left too. I often worry about my sister. I feel that she has attachment issues. I believe she needs to learn that she doesn't need someone else's approval. To succeed in life, she will need to learn to be happy, and to love herself. Until then, I can only support her. A very important part of my life was *********. She truly was my best friend. She was my pillar, the one who held me up when the weight was too much. Not only was she my best friend, she was my deepest love. I made mistakes with her, and I didn't do everything perfect, but I was the best I could be. I gave her all of me, every bit of my love. I personally feel like she shares my fear. The fear that the future is nothing but an empty hole. A place where, like my parents and so many others, the love that they had disappears. I fear that love withers, because I haven't really seen anything else. I feel that she needs to find herself, to face her fears, and fight them. Right now, I'm very much under the impression that she doesn't want to see them, maybe she has, and maybe she's doing what she has to do, but I can't help her. As much as I want to, I have my own fears and problems to face. I can't fault her for leaving me. The truth is, there was little love for us near the end. The romance, the tenderness, and the freshness had worn thin. As much as I want to revive it, I don't believe I could have. After my parent's split, the love inside me faded in a way. The hope that I had that love is forever dissipated. I'm not a victim, and I'm not at fault either, but in a way, I feel that the love we had began to fade when the love I had inside me to give to her faded. The biggest fear I have in moving forward. I intend to face this fear. I intend to go into my future, unsure of what it holds. Unsure if it will be full of love, or cold and empty. I will be there. Anything less that moving forward, would be too close to death.

I've always had the girl tell me what she likes, I was just wondering if anyone in here had any suggestions.

any girls in here want to give me some tips on what your favorite postions are? I want to try something a little different, and I want to know what a lot of you in here like. thanks in advance

hey, good luck, I think it's great when anyone gets the courage and resolve to do something like that let us know what happens!!!!!

you can't really make her become your girlfriend. Just tell her you really enjoy being with her, and spending your time with her, and you would like to see her exclusively. usually it comes naturally, but if you have to ask, straight up is the best.

oie, I'm in a closely the same situation. you have all my support, and I feel for you. really, prepare for the worst, hope for the best, and support her if you love her. do what it takes. give her space, give her time. all you can really do is hope.