indierockbhoy

Hi Folks.. I've Posted a few times on this board asking for advice about a girl I liked and well i'll let you know the run-down. i met a girl in july, we exchanged numbers and met about 2/3times went for lunch, a trip to the zoo and the cinema. We went out one night had a few drinks and got drunk and then we kissed, She texted me nxt day saying she was sorry to lead me on but seen me only as a friend. I was a little hurt but I was ok about it I deceided to be friends but I tried to move on. We hung out more and did cool things and had lots of fun, Then she asked to kiss me one time about a month after she said she wanted to be friends, we weren't drunk but i know i shouldn't have but i did kiss her. we kissed a few times now and then. and last few weeks i began falling for her and last night she told me she cared so much for me and she wanted me to be her boyfriend. I was shocked and very happy, the truth was inside I was getting over her but the last 2 weeks i began falling for her again so I deceided to go for it. We are officially going out as boyfriend/girlfrined. What I am trying to say is thank you to all for their help and posts and also for people who like a girl or a guy just hang in there it could work out, my girl seen me as the guy I wanted her to see me but it took her 4months to admit to it.. Honestly.. Nice guys don't always finish last.. anyone else been in same situation and it worked out well in the end.. take care folks and best of luck

hey folks.. once again i am needing advice, i think all your advice is great and so helpful maybe one time i will not need so much but if anyone neesd some advice and wants to ask a guy i am here. There is this girl, we are friends and have been friends for 2months or so and well we went on a couple of dates and we kissed one night when drunk and then next day she sent me a msg saying she wanted to be friends so i was cool with that, well a bit gutted inside but really enjoyd her company so i wanted to be friends. Then one afternoon, she said again she really wanted to kiss me so we kissed again and then we kiss almost all the time now but we are friends.. i have not asked her about the boyfriend situatoin but i really like her but i think we are friends with benefits? i dunno though i am so confused.. we kiss but are good good friends.. A few wks ago she was saying stuff like "we need to get you a g/f" and then she would say "your so cute" and she also says "i adore you" aswell alot recently but I don't want to ask her out again as the last time she turned me down when we were first knowing each other.... I think she's hsappy with the friends thing we do.. everyone of my friends think i am going out with her and which we are not... What I really want to know is ...does the girl have some kinda feelings for me? deep down but scared to admit for soem reason.. or is she just enjoying the fun with me.. we have planned to go a trip to a different town and stay over and go out have fun and go shopping and talking about going on holiday together. the truth is i really like her but i don't want to look like a fool if i ask her out again.. thanks so much for reading.. all advice appreciated..

hi folks thanks for all your advice. I'll take it bit by bit and see how it goes....a few of her friends have birthday parties this week she has invited me to go along with her to them.. and i'll see how it goes.. honestly i can't thank you enough.. if any of you need advice.. ask for indierockbhoy hehe cheers.

hello folks.. I've posted a few times here about this girl i have made with friends with. We have known each other 2months(our anniversay last night) and well we are friends but we always end up kissing and snogging, getting intimate in places. It doesn't happen all the time but it happens alot when we are alone in my room or alone walking or something, like it's a only a moment kiss... On our second date, we kissed and then the next day she sent me a msg saying she wanted to be friends. What happened was around 2wks into our friendship she did not want me as a boyfriend and then yeah i was really quiet hurt at the time when she said that but I accepted it and I liked her as friend so I tried to keep it inside and remained friends. We did things together for around 2wks and no kissing was involved at all. Then one day we were lying about in the grass on the beach and she said "i really want to kiss you" and then we agreed to kiss but just as friends. So we kissed and then again we met up and kissed again but after kissing for a while we said we should maybe stop kissing as it probs confuses things and we both agreed. Then last saturday we went to a party together, we are very comfortable around each other and we will hug, hold hands and have fun but i was kinda drunk she was driving and we got out the party and she said to me she needed a hug(the paty was filled with beeps, and she was so bored) so I hugged her and kissed her on the cheek as being drunk. We said we shouldn't do this as it complicates things, then we got back to my house I showed her my garden and she said "i really wanted to kiss you earlier," can we go back to lie in your room? so we went back and kissed and stuff... again... we broke our friendship promise by kissing. Last night we rented moulin rouge, watched bits of it and ended up kissing again. We have begun to stop kissing by sayin" back to buddies" then we spoke again about this, we spoke about what we want from life and all. she said "happyness and marriage" and we talked and we hugged and kissed.. Sorry this has become long but i was jut want to know if anyone else is in this situation or been in this with agirl in the past? I am so confused... I mean I really did like her at the start and always kinda have but I want to be her friend as she's so much fun.. I just cannot understand what we are? are we friends with benefits? I don't think she sees me as aboyfriend and she says you'd be a great boyfriend, your a good catch, let's go out and find you a girlfriend and things like that but she told me weeks ago she didn't want me.. do you think she has some of feelings? or are we just experimenting.. I am 20 she is 18. thanks for your time.. sorry for this being so long...

Ok I have been friends with this girl for around abouts 2months and we have alot of fun together, we always go out and do original things together. We have snogged before on a drunken date but she decided that we should be friends and didn't want me in the boyfriend form. Whenever we go out we always laugh and joke about and we went for a drink last sat and we were tickling each other and hugging and she put her feet accross my knees when we were sitting in the pub. Most folk think we are couples.. We have begun to call each other, and we phone each other every day or every 2nd day and we text/sms on the mobile phones every day about 5-10 times a day. We are friends, Very good friends.. We go out and do fun things together and spend evenings out and about. she's said she really likes me but doesn't see me as a boyfriend and enjoys my company alot she has told me. Basically What I wanna know from people with past experience and others aswell if she will ever change her heart? and see me one day as a boyfriend.. She says she speaks to the most out of her friends and we have only known each other for 2months or so. but we are getting very close building up a friendship.. I wonder with her hugs and tickles that she might be more or am I just be silly? When she said to me 2weeks back that she wanted to be friends i accepted it and said it was cool and thanks for being honest but can we be friends? and i dunno.. it's so confusing.. hehe

hey jess. Your situation basically sounds identical to mine. I'am a boy in the same shoes as your friend. We met we hung out we even hold hands and cuddle and talk for ages, we have a laugh. we got drunk one night she kissed me i kissed her back. she tells me she doesn't like me but likes me as a friend.. monday night my friend told me that she didn't want me as a boyfriend.. she said she really likes me but doesn't see me as a boyfriend and enjoys my company.. basically "thanks but no thanks". you will hurt the boy alot, yes you will but he needs to be told. i was told on monday and i'am hurting alot but it's the best way. I admire my friend for telling me, She hugged me and said sorry.. you need to tell him asap. hey you guys could still be friends, My friend and I are going out for a drink tomorrow night..

Ok I have been on this forum for the last few weeks as I really liked this girl that is a friend and right now this feeling is so weird. I feel like I can't breathe and I remember people saying that if you get hurt your heart feels like you've been knifed well i kinda feel like that right now. i met a girl like 4weeks ago in a club and we became friends, we snogged/kissed on a date and then she sent me a text saying she'd like to be friends and didn't want me as a boyfriend. well last night we spoke for ages in my car and well she pretty much confirmed to me that she really likes me but doesn't want a boyfriend and doesn't want me as a boyfriend. I have to thank her for her honesty but i'am so gutted inside. She wants to be friends and do things together, We have a great laugh and joke together.... Yeah we do but she doesn't want me i dunno.. i don't want to be a *beep* and stop talking but i liked her in a different way that she liked me? can we still be friends? Her and I are going out for a few drinks on Saturday night which I don't know could lead to a wrong situation but I'll have to see how it goes.. you know drink and a guy in love with a girl doesn't go... she's wanting me to take her to a gay bar is she telling me something?

Ok I have been on this forum for the last few weeks as I really liked this girl that is a friend and right now this feeling is so weird. I feel like I can't breathe and I remember people saying that if you get hurt your heart feels like you've been knifed well i kinda feel like that right now. i met a girl like 4weeks ago in a club and we became friends, we snogged/kissed on a date and then she sent me a text saying she'd like to be friends and didn't want me as a boyfriend. well last night we spoke for ages in my car and well she pretty much confirmed that to me that she really likes me but doesn't want a boyfriend and doesn't want me as a boyfriend. I have to thank her for her honesty but i'am absoultly gutted inside. She wants to be friends and do things together, We have a great laugh and joke together.... Yeah we do but she doesn't want me i dunno.. i don't want to be a dick and stop talking but i liked her in a different way that she liked me? can we still be friends?

Hi Folks, Well I've met this great girl, 3 Weeks ago and We have met up a few times in the past couple of weeks and well on Friday night we went for a few drinks in the city after having a couple of drinks, we were kinda tipsy not drunk but kinda of the way. We walked to a shop to buy cookies and a drink of pop juice. So we went and spoke on a bench near the riverfront and we were very pretty much sober as it was nearing the end of the night and we hadn't had any drink. She then said "I really wan't to kiss you" and I said I would like to do that aswell, So we made out a few times and held hands and walked for a taxi. On Saturday we spoke and she said "i really like you but i feel that being good friends our friendship will last longer" so that was kinda confusing as it makes me think she regrets kissing me or does she want to be friends first and then take it day by day. I told her we can be friends for just now and she what happens through time and she said that sounds cool. I just don't know if she likes me when she said good friends... What I'd like to know is, What is the dividing line between good friends and a relationship? I mean we made out, We are due to meet later today or tomorrow and I don't know if i should make out with her or not? or if we do make out reguarly when we do see each other, to me that would mean we are good friends that kiss but don't officially go out.. i dunno.. any ideas.. thanks for reading.. p.s. what was really bizarre was in the taxi home "friday, I'am in love" by the cure came on ..

Hiya Folks This is my first time on this message board but I'd like to say thanks to Arman for helping me setting up my account.. This is my problem.. A) I met this girl that I went to school with at a club one night and we started to talk and we were getting on well and we swapped phone numbers etc, I've always know this girl well and she used to be in a 3 and half year relationship with someone I know and he finished with her so I said I'd like to be her friend. Through time we talked/went out etc and then I began to get more attached to this girl which eventully ended up with me liking her, I asked her if their would be a chance? And she said Yes their would be a chance but she needed time after her last relationship and she said it wouldn't be fair on me if we went out as she wasn't ready to commit to a relationship. Ok So that was cool.. We were still close friends.. My cousin comes to visit from Canada, I introduce them and yes you guess it right.. She goes off with him behind my back and tells me when he goes home.. Of Course I was disappointed and deeply hurt by a family member betraying me... and a friend who said their could be something for us.. just crushing it all.. Ok So I was gutted!! for a while and hurt but i didn't let it get me too much down.. B)I went out few weeks later and meet this great girl, We again swapped numbers and began to phone/text each other. I asked her out one day and she said come round and make pancakes with me for breakfast, We were ment to spent the whole day but I was called to work, So it was a morning and we had fun.. We spoke later tht night and agreed to meet up on the Thursday but she cancelled at the last min, I had cancelled the following sunday before, maybe this was payback? Anyways she's at a music festival but last thing she messaged me on Thurs was "hopefully we can meet up after the festival next week?" I've not spoke to her since Thursday.. What I guess I'am trying to find out is from a girls perspective and a males advice is do you think this girl is being nice to let me down? and she's not interested? I have been hurt before and when my cousin did that with my last crush that hurt but I don't know I always seem to have a hard time when it comes to love and get screwed over all the time. Sorry for this post being sooo long for a first newbie rookie. but thanks for reading... hope i didn't bore you..