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Getting back together really does happen!
gee replied to wishingonastar's topic in Getting Back Together
Good story! gee -
Getting back together really does happen!
gee replied to wishingonastar's topic in Getting Back Together
Once they have contacted and expressed sincere interest that they want to try again then things can make a turn for the better and guards can start to go down slowly! You just can't let your guard down the min they call or walk back into your life. Trust me I have gone through hell! I have forgiven and moved on! gee -
Getting back together really does happen!
gee replied to wishingonastar's topic in Getting Back Together
Exactly! And it's not about pride! It's about guarding ourselves. At least this is how I look at it. gee -
Getting back together really does happen!
gee replied to wishingonastar's topic in Getting Back Together
Wishing..., Good luck to you and God bless! gee -
Getting back together really does happen!
gee replied to wishingonastar's topic in Getting Back Together
I was the dumpee and it was hard for me to go NC at first. I just didn't know how to! After ~9months of letting her continue to hurt me I did it. I did and she called 1 month after..she called twice! I ignored it because I had enough of being in pain. Did it mean I didn't care? NO! I was still in love with this girl and she didn't do anything or show any signs that she wanted to try again... 4 months later she is engaged! It has been almost a year since she contacted. Do you think she moved on with her life because I didn't care? I seriously don't think so. She was already with this guy but she never revealed him to me. So, many cases are different and you can go 2-3 years NC and people still do get back together. Some go NC to try to get their ex back, some to heal and move on. This stuff isn't easy at all! gee P. S. NC worked for me because I am in a better place and once again love myself! -
Happy easter everyone. Well, I am back from my business trip and it went well! This trip has healed me more than I expected, but I still feel her inside a lot but not in a way where I would go nuts about her. Things are improving slowly but surely. Day of NC?...I lost count and I don't care anymore. Easier said than done, huh? Not really...It has taken me 3 months of hard work to get to where I am today. It was extremley difficult for me especially 'cause I am a very emotional person. Letting go of her was the hardest thing to do! I have prayed counltless days/nights for God to heal me. At first it was for Him to get her to come back. God doesn't work like that! You must learn to love yourself first and praise Him! I am in a better position today, not 100% but I am getting there. I decided I want to improve myself 100% before I can start dating again. It might take weeks or maybe months who knows but I will take as much time as I need. I'm not in a rush like she was to get rid of me and I think she is already w/ someone. Well, I posted someting in my facebook today.. Laugh as much as you breathe and love as long as you live. Turning point in my life and I have also decided that when I marry I will be adopting a child from China! It has always crossed my mind but my mind is set! I am sure my future wife will agree strongly wih me on this one. Of course I will have children of my own! I really hope I heal to the point where I wake up thinking about me entirely! that day will come. I will continue to keep reading your stories and will try my best to give some advice when I can. I hope everyone is doing well. I wish everyone the best in life! God has something special for everyone here! Just be patient and have faith! Remember, he looks at the heart! Take care. Honey, hope you are doing well! Take care... Gee
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Day 30 I completed 30 days! Last day of the challenge for me! I am dropping out of this challenge NOT because I am weak but because I have decided to completely let go of her! Of course she is still in my heart and my thoughts! I can't let those go it would be impossible! I just decided it is what it is and there is absolutely NOTHING I can do to change the situation! I have exhausted all my resources and the ball is in her side of her court! I have been thinking a lot here while in China. The way she broke up with me, text, emails she sent me were very hurtful!!! Nobody deserves to be treated like garbage! I deserve a lot more than that! Sincerely, I am a wonderful guy with a lot to offer! I know I made my mistakes and all and I asked for forgiveness because I regret it and what I did was not worth it at all (it was wrong I know!), but she chose justice after she forgave me and that to me isn't love! I know it will be an obstacle for me! I have to start all over again and that kinda scares me. I just hope this time will be the time that I find my truelove!!! I can't wait to pour my heart and soul to this wonderful person that is waiting for me! You guys do what is best for you! If it means staying in NC or not. I'm doing what my heart feels. Some of you guys I see are struggling and some are doing well. I know it is tough and if they don't come back I know one day you will find that ideal person that fits just right in your life! That's what I am searching for now but I am not desperate for it! I'm just going to let it happen naturally. Overall, God is with me and he is guiding me to where I need to be. I have prayed a lot about it. I don't use Him as a tool to get her back, but for Him to heal me, give me strength, wisdom, guidance and make my dreams come true! If she is back someday....He has the last word!!!! I will continue o come and read everyones stories and share some of mine once in awhile. keep your heads up! Sam, sorry to hear about that man. Hang in there buddy! Honey, you are awesome! Gee
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dragon lady, thats good that you are feeling great! I hope to get to that point soon! Good luck!
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Day 29 Greetings from China.. I've been thinking about her while in China..more today! This trip has made me focus more about myself and thinking about not doing the NC challenge after I complete 30days. I will not contact her at all! She in the other hand has moved on. I don't think there is a doubt about that! I will continue to express my feelings here once in awhile, though. I like reading everbody's stories. It will be 3months the 22nd of March since we broke up. It has been a week since she left me a voicemail saying she forgives me (I never replied). It is funny how she works. A week before that she said she could never forgive me and wanted to completely forget about me! I don't want to think about her anymore and I am trying to find new ways to do that. It is difficult to! WHen I get back to the states I will try to start to go out more. Dating...I'll do it when I am ready but I do not feel ready, yet! I hope I meet a woman that will just hypnotize me! I miss sharing my love with someone special. I hope I get that chance again soon! I will keep on praying about it and let God do His work! I hope everyone is doing well. Take care. Gee
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Still day 27 in USA, Day 28 in China..haha Guys, I dont think I want to do this challenge anymore. I'm not saying I'm dropping out to call her because that is not my intention. Well, I would love for her to tell me lets get back..haha. Seriously, I don't know if I want to be doing this because it makes me even more sad when I write about it. I just want to completely forget about her..like she said to me. I just want to really let her go and move on. I miss having that person to share my life and love with. I really do!!! I know there are plenty of fish in the sea but there is only one fish I love the most and she kicked me out of her life. I'm still thinking about this challenge if it is best for me or not. I have hopes that she will be back but I am just lying to myself. I hope to bump into my other half someday. I miss that loving feeling! I hope everyone is doing well. I have missed a lot of stories here because of work. I hope to catch up. Honey, I sent you an email I hope you received it.
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Day 27 I am feeling ok for the most part. I have thoughts about here here ad there but as I am in China my mind is distracted a bit with work and seeing new things. I haven't really had a good look at China as I am swamped with work. I miss her so much!!! I think about what she is doing and all. I am going back home next week. I am doing such a good job here that I won't have to stay 2 weeks. The language barrier is tough at times but I have a translator that helps me out. Food is ok, people are humble. I miss home, though. I haven't had a good chance to come here and read about you guys, but I will try to catch up. I think she doesn't care about me anymore since I didn't answer her call. I totally ignored her! i feel bad that I did that. Anyway, I hope everyone is doing well. I think I have to start all over again as far as finding someone new. We belong together, though! Honey, I'll send some pics this weekend.
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GetMe, that stinks! That is why you need to be stronger. How do you think I felt when she called me saturday? I was dying to pick it up and calling back. Wait to see what happens in the next couple of days. Good luck!
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Day 25 Hell all from China!!! I am here and it was a long trip to get here. It is 1:05am and trying to get some things done for tomorrow. I cried when the plane took off from Boston and when we departed from san fran as well. I felt like I was never going to see her again. I'm going to miss her more even though we are not together. I will be brief becasue I am exhausted. I feel ok for the most part. I almost called her from san fran. I just told myself, Don't do it and I closed my cell. Close one. I don't have any intention calling her after the 30th day. Don't know why I would call her after 30 days? She kicked me out of her life. besides she must think I hate her from not responding to her messages. I miss her like crazy and love her deeply!!! take care everyone. i will try to keep in touch. Keep your heads up! Honeyspur, when I get a chance I will send you the pics I promised. Take care.
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It's been 2.5 months since she trashed me and last week I started feeling a bit better. I'm day 23 of NC. She broke NC but I didn't give in. Huge step for me trust me! Hearing her message got me crazy and my heart beating fast! I did want to call her but I know there could be consequences and my heart can't take it anymore. My heart says, no more please BUT deep, deep down inside I love her madly! I have to take care of my heart now and maybe just maybe IF she comes back I will be stronger for her, or I will be ready for my new baby where ever you are!!!! I sound crazy...haha.
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damn starlette, you're going to me make me cry. I'm sorry you feel like that! I understand your pain. 4yrs talking every single day and all of a sudden it disappears! I was driving home from shopping and I thought about her and tears came out. I think it is becasue I am leaving tomorrow and I'm going to miss her saying goodbye I was having a relaxed day today. I miss her sooo much and you think if the other person is missing us as well. I ask myself that question everyday. She called saturad but I ignored her. This is the 1st time she called me since DEC 07 before it was just text or emails. I don't know her true intentions from her call saturday but I will not call her back. i will continue NC. I feel your pain!!!!