i believe people should step up and take responsibility for their actions. if you get married, depending on your beliefs, it should be for life barring abuse or infidelity. if you are 'too young' you still took the dive and you should accept it rather than bail out for 'greener grasses.' i feel like that is a selfish and lazy way to deal w/ the lives of yourselves and others.
everyone 'falls out of love', everyone loses the spark of initial contact. as it has been said before, marriage is hard work and of course it is. how can you be so intertwined and around someone day in and out without getting annoyed or knowing just about all there is to know about them? but the more you see yourself as 'out of love' the more you will be. focus on the positive things and communicate about the negative. let them know THIS IS A REALLY BIG DEAL I AM THINKING OF DIVORCE, and that should get their attention. if not, then get yourself into counseling and beg them to go as well.
marriage should be stable and safe, allowing you both to explore the world and yourselves in appropriate ways with the safety net of a loving, comforting partner. things will be tough at times, there will be some distance, but again 'how could there not be?' - life would be insane if we were madly in love all the time, we need space for ourselves.
but im getting a divorce i didnt want, so what do i know? lol.
a lot of this is based on your religious and social beliefs, some people just dont put that much stock in the concept of marriage or monogamy, personally, i do.
