SilverStar

everyone says to get over it and move on. it is so much easier said than done. i constantly think about the times we shared, i wake up in the middle of the night and expect him to be lying on his side of the bed. i hate it, and its been 7 months for me so far. it has gotten better but i still have my ups and downs, my good days and my bad. i really feel for you and im sorry that happened to you! i really know where your coming from. i thought that we would get old together. we planned out so many things for the future and one day he comes home and is unhappy and leaves. we are selling our condo right now, and all the accounts and titles for the cars have been separated. the hardest part i think is surviving the seperation of not only the person but dividing up all the things you have acquired together over the years.

I was in a 3 year relationship which ended in January, 30th to be exact. I've been told by people I need to move on but it isn't that easy. He came home in January and wanted to break up, right out of the blue. He says he had been unhappy for about 6 months. It was a total shock to me and I was devistated. I immediately crawled to the alcohol for comfort. I have my moments, my up days and my down. It's so hard because we are in the process of selling our condo right now. We had joint bank acount, bought a condo together, cars in each others names, I guess it was about as married as a gay couple can be. Anyhow, last night I went over to his moms because she was watching my cats while I was away for the weekend, and had to get my keys. His car was out front and I really thought nothing of it, until I walked into the house and there he was on the floor with some guy. My ex said hello and his friend looked up at me and gave me a smirk. It pissed me off. I know I have to stop asking his mom for favors like that because I ask for trouble when I do go there. I just wish the pain would stop, I would stop thinking about yesteryear, where I went wrong, and just move on. And if its true that this goes on for 2 years, I don't think I can deal with it that long.