Maya_A

???? And what about what your husband might think of you, which would be warranted... I'm not sure how it is you write about being hurt regarding what someone might think of you in a moralistic sense. It may be deserved.

Brahman wrote: I just want to love her and she love me, I have no idea what she will look like or talk like or act like. Really to define it like that is the start to a great failure. ^^^ I think to over list can make things difficult, yes. To separate on that list, the "would be nice if" from the most important non negotiables is important. The whole list concept is a tool that is used often in manifestation & relationships. Just IMHO I think to have no list at all is going too far the other way... Again, no harm in listing all desirable qualities (I think we are more likely to attract that way rather than with no list) but impt. is to separate the "must be" or "must haves" from simply the "would be nice if".... The list non negotiables should be a lot smaller.

Carnilianbutterfly - I use mine too - I think most do CharlesF... Merci, comme meme, mais, s.v.p. restez où vous êtes. Vous êtes un troll évidemment... J'ai appuyé sur le bouton en haut de votre message, qui indique "pour les mauvais messages"...

Sixteen fingers? lol... I thought the same - at first it sounds strange. I had to think about it then realized they have all their fingers intertwined but their thumbs... That = 16...

moi j'ai restant une peu d'espoir après-demain, quand nous aurons un panier de la foi nous joindrons nos pouces, et nos seize doigts ^^^ C'est beau... J'essayer garder toujours un peu d'espoir et la foi, mais quelque fois il est difficile. Encore, les beau mots!

Most impt. to me are: Kindness Emotional & spiritual: maturity, intelligence, sensitivity Physically active/exercises Humor *Blond hair & blue eyes at least wouldn't hurt either - just an inborn natural attraction...

I couldn't do ongoing long emails & IM type chatting in these instances. It can prove a colossal waste of time (literally) as meeting the indiv. in person is most often a completely different experience. I would do about 3 email exchanges, and always at least two phone calls. Much more can be gaged there than in email. The men would give me their numbers & I would use call block when I called them so they would not see mine. The emails & phone conversations were all info. points in whether I actually still wanted to meet in person (as I'm sure it was the same for them). Most of the time I did, but in talking with some on the phone it became apparent where it didn't via email only, that we wouldn't be a match, so communication (kindly) stopped there, before even meeting. The whole process from first contact to meeting in person was never longer than 2 weeks. Keeping in mind that emails & calls were sporadic, with several days of no contact in-between. It think it's good to meet fairly quickly to see if there is any in-person romantic chemistry. So many times people have such a wonderful rapport online & via the phone, and this does not necessarily translate in mutual physical attraction in "real life". I have seen people spend months before meeting, and so much of their emotional energy & hopes get tied up in the whole thing. Then, it is really hurtful to all when they meet & there is no chemistry after all of that. It actually can feel like the end of a relationship in the true sense. And once you meet you can always go back to emailing & calling for a bit to get to know one another within more if wanted, before a longer second meeting. At least this way, all the while you are communicating online/phone you both are very aware of what chemistry you may or may not have, & can interact accordingly...