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So i posted this last night and apparently forgot something i wanted to say in it... Once you read i will clarify what i forgot. Ok so i have two questions... the first is mainly to get a girls point of view or a guy that knows very well. 1. So i have had a friend for a little over a year. At a halloween party in college (neither of us had been drinking), we danced all night long and hung out all night long. We were having a good time. We went outside for a break and this kid came up and asked us/her "So are you two going out? Is he your boyfriend?" Her answer was "Its complicated" I have no clue what that means. I was expecting a probable no, and definitely not a yes, but thats what i got. I understand how its complicated but i dont know if that means she is interested. A little background... She went out/ hooked up for a while, with one of my good friends and fraternity brother. She has a boyfriend, which she never mentioned she still had for a while until one time and hasnt mentioned anything else since then about him. We talk at least 3 times a week, depending on the week. She had me over and cooked for me just before christmas and we talked for like 3-4 hours. So what does complicated mean and what should i do? 2. I guess this question involves the same as that. If she is interested from what you read above... what should i do and how should i go about it? Im pretty sure she knows although she may not that i like her. We both have very busy schedules but do talk a lot and see each other as much as possible with school, work, and other college things. So i would like advice on how to deal with the situation. Thanks So what i forgot to mention was the info about her boyfriend. Apparently they have been together for a couple of years but she started doing to stuff with one of my friends and they broke up and the reason they got back together was she saw something better in him than the other guy and didnt have other options. So technically they have een back together for about a year. When i recently went over i found out from one of her roomates who was drunk that she doesnt have any sex with him and that they arent together that much, as he lives 3 hours away and with her busy schedule and everything. Its a somewhat long distance relationship. I know they have been together for a while but she doesnt seem too happy about the whole thing especially when her drunk roomate brought it up. I guess thats all i can think of on that situation. Give me whatever you can!

Ok so i have two questions... the first is mainly to get a girls point of view or a guy that knows very well. 1. So i have had a friend for a little over a year. At a halloween party in college (neither of us had been drinking), we danced all night long and hung out all night long. We were having a good time. We went outside for a break and this kid came up and asked us/her "So are you two going out? Is he your boyfriend?" Her answer was "Its complicated" I have no clue what that means. I was expecting a probable no, and definitely not a yes, but thats what i got. I understand how its complicated but i dont know if that means she is interested. A little background... She went out/ hooked up for a while, with one of my good friends and fraternity brother. She has a boyfriend, which she never mentioned she still had for a while until one time and hasnt mentioned anything else since then about him. We talk at least 3 times a week, depending on the week. She had me over and cooked for me just before christmas and we talked for like 3-4 hours. So what does complicated mean and what should i do? 2. I guess this question involves the same as that. If she is interested from what you read above... what should i do and how should i go about it? Im pretty sure she knows although she may not that i like her. We both have very busy schedules but do talk a lot and see each other as much as possible with school, work, and other college things. So i would like advice on how to deal with the situation. Thanks

finally thank you for a reply that really hit me... i had posted this a couple times trying to get a good word of advice and this was perfect!!! thanks a lot man

Alright well i have an old message and i need help with that and what happened recently. I will cut the old message down here so you can just get a jist. Just skim through it really i need advice about what is on the bottom. ***Well lets see... where should i start Well first a little info about me. I am 19 years old and in college. I am in a fraternity, but definitely dont fit the stereotype. Im basically a hopeless romantic and always want to make girls feel the best they possibly can. So now for the situation and girl... Well it began a couple months ago when i met her at one of our huge parties (well really met her, i had seen her a couple times before). We hung out but in the beginning she liked another guy. I convinced her that he was no good and we ended up developing an alright friendship. I then took her to my fraternities formal and we had an incredible time (think college prom with your closest friends and lots of alcohol). Before the formal she told one of my brothers that she saw me as a friend but after then she hasnt really mentioned the friend thing anymore. So after formal and for a while until now, about 2 months, we have gotten to know each other very well. Everytime we see each other we flirt all the time. And its not an innocent flirt. I do a wide variety of things. i have listened to things she said she loved when guys do them to her and have done them. We hug all the time and not just a quick one or anything. She is very complicated though. No matter what i do things are different from day to day. Some nights will be the nights we are hugging and she is in my arms, i run my fingers through her hair. Other nights its a little different and im not sure if it is because of her friends or not (although i have gotten to know them very well also). We basically hung out at least once a week if not 2 or 3 times. And that doesent count when we would text message or IM each other. We didnt talk for a while once and she sent me a message saying she really missed me and i needed to call her cuz we had to hang out. Lately we have been doing other things There was a party where i came to her rescue and small things happened but i figured id let it go cuz she was extremely wasted. After the whole thing she said that i made her night like usual. So she left lfor a month but i made sure to take her out to dinner before she left. When i asked her to go i did it in a discreet way but did say hey lets go out to dinner which we had never done before. "*** Now heres the thing. She came back this weekend just for the past two days. We ended up partying both nights but not extreme or anything just chilling and playing some drinking games. The first night we all had an awesome time and me and the girl flirted a lot like always. Its innocent for a lot of it but it does get more intense sometimes. She kept flaunting her camera which had "pictures" of her that i wasnt allowed to see. But she made sure to not let me see them about 20 times she went through them? (i did see the pictures by the end of the weekend). By the end of the first night we had an awesome time and i was laying with her on a couch (one hand on her thigh in skirt and the the other holding her neck and head) and we were just talking. It sucked though cuz we werent alone and couldnt be cuz her best friend was there. The night ended and because of her friend i was nice enough to let them share my bed but i was pissed off. The next day i worked and came back and she was here for another night. We did basically the same thing as the first night but it was more of just 6 of us hanging out instead of a bigger group. I proceeded with what i did the night before but last night it was different a little i think. Its weird how it happens. But i went on with my flirting and we ended up at the end of the night her laying on my lap and we were talking. I wanted to kiss her so bad but i just get worried especially since her friend and another person were in the room. By the way they wouldnt shut up. We ended up somehow getting on a topic later on about relationships and nice shy guys(me). She said im shy but not counting when im drunk. Now im not socially shy but i guess the term would be relationship shy. Very scared and worried about that. I figure thats what she meant cuz im not really shy around her at all. But i know she said stuff about how she wants a guy kind of like me but i know she isnt into just the nice guy. I just dont know what to do know. I snuggled with her a little when we all finally went to sleep but gave her her space just in case she felt uncomfortable (there i went thinking again). \ I know its been long but here is where i need advice. She left again until late august unless i go to see her. I wanted to talk with her before she left but her friend got in the way again. So what should i do. I know its better to do things in person and i really want to but thats just possible unless i wait a month. I can contact her through online or on the phone or text message whatever. Should i tell her how i feel? or that if she only knew how much i wanted to kiss her that night? i dont want her to think im shy or scared of her even though im scared out of my mind of not having her! what should i tell her if anything and how should i do it. I really dont want to suffer the next month or two with this inside of me again its tearing my emotions up and stressing me out. and i want her to know how i really feel even though i tell her things all the time i just want to make it official that she knows and get an answer. I just wanted to kiss her this weekend and see what happened but i let my mind get in front of me... HELP

i can truthfully say that i wish there were more girls out there that would do this... guys get stuck making that first step and it sucks... definitely dont try to hard because guys dont like that easier... why would a guy want someone he can have so easy but yet its awesome to be the guy that has a girl come up and you know she is interested rather than the constant hunt... it all depends if ur going after a guy for a one time thing or more serious though because that would make it two different ideas... you have to use your personality in a way that would lure a guy in and show ur interested... im sorry if this didnt help but i guess what i was just trying to say is that you have to make sure that it isnt looked on that u r going to be an easy sure thing but asking a guy ur interested in out is not accross any line whatsoever... dont be too aggressive though and make sure you arent making it seem as though hey u can do what u want with me... hope this kind of helped i know it was kind of a mixed up reply

Alright well i have an old message and i need help with that and what happened recently. I will cut the old message down here so you can just get a jist. Just skim through it really i need advice about what is on the bottom. ***Well lets see... where should i start Well first a little info about me. I am 19 years old and in college. I am in a fraternity, but definitely dont fit the stereotype. Im basically a hopeless romantic and always want to make girls feel the best they possibly can. So now for the situation and girl... Well it began a couple months ago when i met her at one of our huge parties (well really met her, i had seen her a couple times before). We hung out but in the beginning she liked another guy. I convinced her that he was no good and we ended up developing an alright friendship. I then took her to my fraternities formal and we had an incredible time (think college prom with your closest friends and lots of alcohol). Before the formal she told one of my brothers that she saw me as a friend but after then she hasnt really mentioned the friend thing anymore. So after formal and for a while until now, about 2 months, we have gotten to know each other very well. Everytime we see each other we flirt all the time. And its not an innocent flirt. I do a wide variety of things. i have listened to things she said she loved when guys do them to her and have done them. We hug all the time and not just a quick one or anything. She is very complicated though. No matter what i do things are different from day to day. Some nights will be the nights we are hugging and she is in my arms, i run my fingers through her hair. Other nights its a little different and im not sure if it is because of her friends or not (although i have gotten to know them very well also). We basically hung out at least once a week if not 2 or 3 times. And that doesent count when we would text message or IM each other. We didnt talk for a while once and she sent me a message saying she really missed me and i needed to call her cuz we had to hang out. Lately we have been doing other things There was a party where i came to her rescue and small things happened but i figured id let it go cuz she was extremely wasted. After the whole thing she said that i made her night like usual. So she left lfor a month but i made sure to take her out to dinner before she left. When i asked her to go i did it in a discreet way but did say hey lets go out to dinner which we had never done before. "*** Now heres the thing. She came back this weekend just for the past two days. We ended up partying both nights but not extreme or anything just chilling and playing some drinking games. The first night we all had an awesome time and me and the girl flirted a lot like always. Its innocent for a lot of it but it does get more intense sometimes. She kept flaunting her camera which had "pictures" of her that i wasnt allowed to see. But she made sure to not let me see them about 20 times she went through them? (i did see the pictures by the end of the weekend). By the end of the first night we had an awesome time and i was laying with her on a couch (one hand on her thigh in skirt and the the other holding her neck and head) and we were just talking. It sucked though cuz we werent alone and couldnt be cuz her best friend was there. The night ended and because of her friend i was nice enough to let them share my bed but i was pissed off. The next day i worked and came back and she was here for another night. We did basically the same thing as the first night but it was more of just 6 of us hanging out instead of a bigger group. I proceeded with what i did the night before but last night it was different a little i think. Its weird how it happens. But i went on with my flirting and we ended up at the end of the night her laying on my lap and we were talking. I wanted to kiss her so bad but i just get worried especially since her friend and another person were in the room. By the way they wouldnt shut up. We ended up somehow getting on a topic later on about relationships and nice shy guys(me). She said im shy but not counting when im drunk. Now im not socially shy but i guess the term would be relationship shy. Very scared and worried about that. I figure thats what she meant cuz im not really shy around her at all. But i know she said stuff about how she wants a guy kind of like me but i know she isnt into just the nice guy. I just dont know what to do know. I snuggled with her a little when we all finally went to sleep but gave her her space just in case she felt uncomfortable (there i went thinking again). \ I know its been long but here is where i need advice. She left again until late august unless i go to see her. I wanted to talk with her before she left but her friend got in the way again. So what should i do. I know its better to do things in person and i really want to but thats just possible unless i wait a month. I can contact her through online or on the phone or text message whatever. Should i tell her how i feel? or that if she only knew how much i wanted to kiss her that night? i dont want her to think im shy or scared of her even though im scared out of my mind of not having her! what should i tell her if anything and how should i do it. I really dont want to suffer the next month or two with this inside of me again its tearing my emotions up and stressing me out. and i want her to know how i really feel even though i tell her things all the time i just want to make it official that she knows and get an answer. I just wanted to kiss her this weekend and see what happened but i let my mind get in front of me... HELP

Alright well i have an old message and i need help with that and what happened recently. I will cut the old message down here so you can just get a jist. Just skim through it really i need advice about what is on the bottom. ***Well lets see... where should i start Well first a little info about me. I am 19 years old and in college. I am in a fraternity, but definitely dont fit the stereotype. Im basically a hopeless romantic and always want to make girls feel the best they possibly can. So now for the situation and girl... Well it began a couple months ago when i met her at one of our huge parties (well really met her, i had seen her a couple times before). We hung out but in the beginning she liked another guy. I convinced her that he was no good and we ended up developing an alright friendship. I then took her to my fraternities formal and we had an incredible time (think college prom with your closest friends and lots of alcohol). Before the formal she told one of my brothers that she saw me as a friend but after then she hasnt really mentioned the friend thing anymore. So after formal and for a while until now, about 2 months, we have gotten to know each other very well. Everytime we see each other we flirt all the time. And its not an innocent flirt. I do a wide variety of things. i have listened to things she said she loved when guys do them to her and have done them. We hug all the time and not just a quick one or anything. She is very complicated though. No matter what i do things are different from day to day. Some nights will be the nights we are hugging and she is in my arms, i run my fingers through her hair. Other nights its a little different and im not sure if it is because of her friends or not (although i have gotten to know them very well also). We basically hung out at least once a week if not 2 or 3 times. And that doesent count when we would text message or IM each other. We didnt talk for a while once and she sent me a message saying she really missed me and i needed to call her cuz we had to hang out. Lately we have been doing other things There was a party where i came to her rescue and small things happened but i figured id let it go cuz she was extremely wasted. After the whole thing she said that i made her night like usual. So she left lfor a month but i made sure to take her out to dinner before she left. When i asked her to go i did it in a discreet way but did say hey lets go out to dinner which we had never done before. "*** Now heres the thing. She came back this weekend just for the past two days. We ended up partying both nights but not extreme or anything just chilling and playing some drinking games. The first night we all had an awesome time and me and the girl flirted a lot like always. Its innocent for a lot of it but it does get more intense sometimes. She kept flaunting her camera which had "pictures" of her that i wasnt allowed to see. But she made sure to not let me see them about 20 times she went through them? (i did see the pictures by the end of the weekend). By the end of the first night we had an awesome time and i was laying with her on a couch (one hand on her thigh in skirt and the the other holding her neck and head) and we were just talking. It sucked though cuz we werent alone and couldnt be cuz her best friend was there. The night ended and because of her friend i was nice enough to let them share my bed but i was pissed off. The next day i worked and came back and she was here for another night. We did basically the same thing as the first night but it was more of just 6 of us hanging out instead of a bigger group. I proceeded with what i did the night before but last night it was different a little i think. Its weird how it happens. But i went on with my flirting and we ended up at the end of the night her laying on my lap and we were talking. I wanted to kiss her so bad but i just get worried especially since her friend and another person were in the room. By the way they wouldnt shut up. We ended up somehow getting on a topic later on about relationships and nice shy guys(me). She said im shy but not counting when im drunk. Now im not socially shy but i guess the term would be relationship shy. Very scared and worried about that. I figure thats what she meant cuz im not really shy around her at all. But i know she said stuff about how she wants a guy kind of like me but i know she isnt into just the nice guy. I just dont know what to do know. I snuggled with her a little when we all finally went to sleep but gave her her space just in case she felt uncomfortable (there i went thinking again). \ I know its been long but here is where i need advice. She left again until late august unless i go to see her. I wanted to talk with her before she left but her friend got in the way again. So what should i do. I know its better to do things in person and i really want to but thats just possible unless i wait a month. I can contact her through online or on the phone or text message whatever. Should i tell her how i feel? or that if she only knew how much i wanted to kiss her that night? i dont want her to think im shy or scared of her even though im scared out of my mind of not having her! what should i tell her if anything and how should i do it. I really dont want to suffer the next month or two with this inside of me again its tearing my emotions up and stressing me out. and i want her to know how i really feel even though i tell her things all the time i just want to make it official that she knows and get an answer. I just wanted to kiss her this weekend and see what happened but i let my mind get in front of me... HELP

Alright well i have an old message and i need help with that and what happened recently. I will cut the old message down here so you can just get a jist. Just skim through it really i need advice about what is on the bottom. ***Well lets see... where should i start Well first a little info about me. I am 19 years old and in college. I am in a fraternity, but definitely dont fit the stereotype. Im basically a hopeless romantic and always want to make girls feel the best they possibly can. So now for the situation and girl... Well it began a couple months ago when i met her at one of our huge parties (well really met her, i had seen her a couple times before). We hung out but in the beginning she liked another guy. I convinced her that he was no good and we ended up developing an alright friendship. I then took her to my fraternities formal and we had an incredible time (think college prom with your closest friends and lots of alcohol). Before the formal she told one of my brothers that she saw me as a friend but after then she hasnt really mentioned the friend thing anymore. So after formal and for a while until now, about 2 months, we have gotten to know each other very well. Everytime we see each other we flirt all the time. And its not an innocent flirt. I do a wide variety of things. i have listened to things she said she loved when guys do them to her and have done them. We hug all the time and not just a quick one or anything. She is very complicated though. No matter what i do things are different from day to day. Some nights will be the nights we are hugging and she is in my arms, i run my fingers through her hair. Other nights its a little different and im not sure if it is because of her friends or not (although i have gotten to know them very well also). We basically hung out at least once a week if not 2 or 3 times. And that doesent count when we would text message or IM each other. We didnt talk for a while once and she sent me a message saying she really missed me and i needed to call her cuz we had to hang out. Lately we have been doing other things There was a party where i came to her rescue and small things happened but i figured id let it go cuz she was extremely wasted. After the whole thing she said that i made her night like usual. So she left lfor a month but i made sure to take her out to dinner before she left. When i asked her to go i did it in a discreet way but did say hey lets go out to dinner which we had never done before. "*** Now heres the thing. She came back this weekend just for the past two days. We ended up partying both nights but not extreme or anything just chilling and playing some drinking games. The first night we all had an awesome time and me and the girl flirted a lot like always. Its innocent for a lot of it but it does get more intense sometimes. She kept flaunting her camera which had "pictures" of her that i wasnt allowed to see. But she made sure to not let me see them about 20 times she went through them? (i did see the pictures by the end of the weekend). By the end of the first night we had an awesome time and i was laying with her on a couch (one hand on her thigh in skirt and the the other holding her neck and head) and we were just talking. It sucked though cuz we werent alone and couldnt be cuz her best friend was there. The night ended and because of her friend i was nice enough to let them share my bed but i was pissed off. The next day i worked and came back and she was here for another night. We did basically the same thing as the first night but it was more of just 6 of us hanging out instead of a bigger group. I proceeded with what i did the night before but last night it was different a little i think. Its weird how it happens. But i went on with my flirting and we ended up at the end of the night her laying on my lap and we were talking. I wanted to kiss her so bad but i just get worried especially since her friend and another person were in the room. By the way they wouldnt shut up. We ended up somehow getting on a topic later on about relationships and nice shy guys(me). She said im shy but not counting when im drunk. Now im not socially shy but i guess the term would be relationship shy. Very scared and worried about that. I figure thats what she meant cuz im not really shy around her at all. But i know she said stuff about how she wants a guy kind of like me but i know she isnt into just the nice guy. I just dont know what to do know. I snuggled with her a little when we all finally went to sleep but gave her her space just in case she felt uncomfortable (there i went thinking again). \ I know its been long but here is where i need advice. She left again until late august unless i go to see her. I wanted to talk with her before she left but her friend got in the way again. So what should i do. I know its better to do things in person and i really want to but thats just possible unless i wait a month. I can contact her through online or on the phone or text message whatever. Should i tell her how i feel? or that if she only knew how much i wanted to kiss her that night? i dont want her to think im shy or scared of her even though im scared out of my mind of not having her! what should i tell her if anything and how should i do it. I really dont want to suffer the next month or two with this inside of me again its tearing my emotions up and stressing me out. and i want her to know how i really feel even though i tell her things all the time i just want to make it official that she knows and get an answer. I just wanted to kiss her this weekend and see what happened but i let my mind get in front of me... HELP

Well lets see... where should i start Well first a little info about me. I am 19 years old and in college. I am in a fraternity, but definitely dont fit the stereotype. Im basically a hopeless romantic and always want to make girls feel the best they possibly can. So now for the situation and girl... Well it began a couple months ago when i met her at one of our huge parties (well really met her, i had seen her a couple times before). We hung out but in the beginning she liked another guy. I convinced her that he was no good and we ended up developing an alright friendship. I then took her to my fraternities formal and we had an incredible time (think college prom with your closest friends and lots of alcohol). Before the formal she told one of my brothers that she saw me as a friend but after then she hasnt really mentioned the friend thing anymore. So after formal and for a while until now, about 2 months, we have gotten to know each other very well. Everytime we see each other we flirt all the time. And its not an innocent flirt. I do a wide variety of things. i have listened to things she said she loved when guys do them to her and have done them. We hug all the time and not just a quick one or anything. She is very complicated though. No matter what i do things are different from day to day. Some nights will be the nights we are hugging and she is in my arms, i run my fingers through her hair. Other nights its a little different and im not sure if it is because of her friends or not (although i have gotten to know them very well also). We basically hung out at least once a week if not 2 or 3 times. And that doesent count when we would text message or IM each other. We didnt talk for a while once and she sent me a message saying she really missed me and i needed to call her cuz we had to hang out. Lately we have been doing other things I have continued to do the same things for the past couple weeks that i did a little while ago. Lately she had been coming over more cuz she was going to leave for a while. Here is something i really found complicated. One night she went to a party, i did too but not the same one. I got back from my party and was getting ready to watch a movie when some mutual friends come in very drunk. They tell me she is somewhere even more drunk then them where she shouldnt really stay overnight so i venture into our rival fraternity's house to see if i can get her. The moment she sees me her eyes light up and tells me to come over to her. I spend like an hour just trying to get her out of there and finally do. She wraps her arms around me and we walk back to my house. When i get her to a place she can sleep she stays awake for another hour or two. During this time i am standing right next to the bed and her. She keeps pulling me in towards her and everytime i turn away for a second she tells me to come closer. She is rubbing my arm and shoulder then my face. Everything was great except for a couple things. 3 people were in the room, she was very drunk and had puked, and i wasnt sure if she remembered. After the whole thing she said that i made her night like usual. So she left last weekend but i made sure to take her out to dinner before she left. When i asked her to go i did it in a discreet way but did say hey lets go out to dinner which we had never done before. Now she is going to be gone for like a month and a half. She will come back for a little less than a week sometime in about three weeks but i dont know what i should do with this situation because it is very complicated. Any help would be awesome.

Well lets see... where should i start Well first a little info about me. I am 19 years old and in college. I am in a fraternity, but definitely dont fit the stereotype. Im basically a hopeless romantic and always want to make girls feel the best they possibly can. So now for the situation and girl... Well it began a couple months ago when i met her at one of our huge parties (well really met her, i had seen her a couple times before). We hung out but in the beginning she liked another guy. I convinced her that he was no good and we ended up developing an alright friendship. I then took her to my fraternities formal and we had an incredible time (think college prom with your closest friends and lots of alcohol). Before the formal she told one of my brothers that she saw me as a friend but after then she hasnt really mentioned the friend thing anymore. So after formal and for a while until now, about 2 months, we have gotten to know each other very well. Everytime we see each other we flirt all the time. And its not an innocent flirt. I do a wide variety of things. i have listened to things she said she loved when guys do them to her and have done them. We hug all the time and not just a quick one or anything. She is very complicated though. No matter what i do things are different from day to day. Some nights will be the nights we are hugging and she is in my arms, i run my fingers through her hair. Other nights its a little different and im not sure if it is because of her friends or not (although i have gotten to know them very well also). We basically hung out at least once a week if not 2 or 3 times. And that doesent count when we would text message or IM each other. We didnt talk for a while once and she sent me a message saying she really missed me and i needed to call her cuz we had to hang out. Lately we have been doing other things I have continued to do the same things for the past couple weeks that i did a little while ago. Lately she had been coming over more cuz she was going to leave for a while. Here is something i really found complicated. One night she went to a party, i did too but not the same one. I got back from my party and was getting ready to watch a movie when some mutual friends come in very drunk. They tell me she is somewhere even more drunk then them where she shouldnt really stay overnight so i venture into our rival fraternity's house to see if i can get her. The moment she sees me her eyes light up and tells me to come over to her. I spend like an hour just trying to get her out of there and finally do. She wraps her arms around me and we walk back to my house. When i get her to a place she can sleep she stays awake for another hour or two. During this time i am standing right next to the bed and her. She keeps pulling me in towards her and everytime i turn away for a second she tells me to come closer. She is rubbing my arm and shoulder then my face. Everything was great except for a couple things. 3 people were in the room, she was very drunk and had puked, and i wasnt sure if she remembered. After the whole thing she said that i made her night like usual. So she left last weekend but i made sure to take her out to dinner before she left. When i asked her to go i did it in a discreet way but did say hey lets go out to dinner which we had never done before. Now she is going to be gone for like a month and a half. She will come back for a little less than a week sometime in about three weeks but i dont know what i should do with this situation because it is very complicated. Any help would be awesome.

see the funniest part is that when she first met me it was at a party an di was really drunk and flirting with lots of girls... she still remembers it... i want to get her a present as a friend but possibly more... something that wouldnt leave me being only a friend

Alright i need some help quick on this one!!! There is this girl at college that i have known for about a month. I became interested really quick and now i am trying to show her that i could be dating material. She has already expressed that she isnt really interested in me to a friend of mine that is also a friend of hers (HOWEVER, this was very early in us knowing each other). Now this was befoer she even really knew me which i think could mean that she could change her mind if i show her reasons. Now i dont want to be too straight forward and i am trying not to be because thats how i always have been. So i have died down on trying to talk to her all the time and always be around her. So first does anyone have input on this situation. Second is that i want to get her a christmas gift and dont know what to get her??? I have been trying to think and i know that i dont know muh about her except she likes chicken parm. but i dont think that would be a proper xmas present. Looking at the situation above what would be a good gift??? Remember i dont want to be too straight forward about me liking her but maybe give a little hint. Please help quickly Just to clarify... the real thing i want to know is what to get her as a present. No matter what opinion on th efirst subject leave it aside kind of for the gift part. please help me figure out a gift.

I would say keep it going for the time you two can spend together wherever you two are and see what happens. If you both can continue the relationship after you go back good. But if not you will still have that time you spent together even if it was as short as it was. You two will still have a fling for each other and it could possibly develop into something. So my advice is to just go with what happens. Dont hold back cuz i learned my lesson that way.

Alright i need some help quick on this one!!! There is this girl at college that i have known for about a month. I became interested really quick and now i am trying to show her that i could be dating material. She has already expressed that she isnt really interested in me to a friend of mine that is also a friend of hers. Now this was befoer she even really knew me which i think could mean that she could change her mind if i show her reasons. Now i dont want to be too straight forward and i am trying not to be because thats how i always have been. So i have died down on trying to talk to her all the time and always be around her. So first does anyone have input on this situation. Second is that i want to get her a christmas gift and dont know what to get her??? I have been trying to think and i know that i dont know muh about her except she likes chicken parm. but i dont think that would be a proper xmas present. Looking at the situation above what would be a good gift??? Remember i dont want to be too straight forward about me liking her but maybe give a little hint. Please help quickly

I am 18 and truthfully never had a girlfriend. However there was this girl who was a freshman and had I wanted I could have dated her. Now I flirted with her a lot as did I with other freshman, but I would never do much more because of the age difference. I know how 18 year old guys are and I am just telling you to be careful. Think about what is going on and what will happen (your parents). He was having thoughts originally about how you were too young and even though he might have feelings it is wrong. He obviously let his feelings get a hold of him. Now it probably can work out if you try to have a relationship but I would beware. Depending on what type of guy he is you never know what he could want. However if he is a good guy then it could work it really well. It is a hard situation that basically you have to make a decision yourself. My opinion is that at the ages you two are at now it shouldnt really happen. A little later down the road maybe but right now you are just too young. It could easily work out but if i was 18 I wouldnt date a 14 year old. Just my opinion take it anyway you want it.