I have a problem, and I need some advice....
I have been married 2 yrs 6 months, One of the qualities that attracted me to my husband was his love and devotion to children....I have a 14 year old daughter and that was an important issue with me.
Here is the problem:
He spends two days a week babysitting his children now 12 and 17 at his ex wifes house, he works midnight shift and goes over directly from work...they sleep usually till noon so he actually spends very little time with them.....he's on his daughters computer in chat rooms talking to other females..I have a computer here at home, but he refuses to use it....so I tired to resolve that issue....then when they do get up they have plans of their own and he's left alone and goes into his ex's bedroom and sleeps in her bed the same bed they slept in for 10 years....he's told me he still has feelings for his ex...that had she not asked for the divorce he would still be married to her.
I ask him to bring his children over to our house since it's summer break from school and he says it's easier to watch them at her house, which was their home for 10 years before they separated...and he constantly tells me how I am nothing like her, and never would be and belittles me. He takes her places and I never know until after the fact and it's when she mentions it.....I have never been a jealous person, and it wouldn't bother me but it seems like he's making himself available to her hoping she will take him back.
Am I wrong in feeling cast aside? Is this wrong or is it me? I told him if he didn't want to be married I'd give him a divorce but he tells me he loves me...only problem is I really don't feel loved, and I don't love him anymore....I feel betrayed....tell me what you think.....I finally got the guts to tell it..be honest I can handle it!
