cloud9

thanks for all the advice guys i still dont know what i want to do so im just gonna feel things out.

So this is my second posting about my girl. Heres the facts: About 3 weeks ago I was visiting my GF in Seattle where she is working for the summer. While there I saw her emailin a male coworker saying "good night sexy" I asked her about it and she said nothing. When I looked through her computer while she was away and found out she has been telling her friend how she has "the hots for him" and that she wants to "hook up" with him. She was even emailing him directly and telling him how she wanted to kiss him " a supposed bet at a paty made by someone else" and wanted him to see her new sheets which she claimed she bought for me. I confronted her we broke up twice and got back together before i came home. I said id give her space. In the weeks following she has started partying with this guy all the time. She claims he needed a place to stay for the summer but she turned him down for me. (for all i know they are living together) She then started to stop calling and i got drunk and her friend got on the phone acting like him so i cussed her friend out and I figured it was over, but then I wrote her an email telling her why I was so mad and jealous even though she claims she would not do anything with him and she is entitled to find someone else attractive because she wouldnt act on her feelings. Now since the email she has been much nicer to me calling me sweetie and saying I love u again. What should I do she will be with me for only the weekend and then a month longer in Seattle. I know I should dump her but i love her so much. Can I trust her or should i even try to? I have no pure evidence that she has hooked up with this guy however the fact that she spends alot more time with him plus the fact he now lives four doors down from her is naking me paranoid. Any suggestions would really help, this is my first big relationship and i dont know what to do. I want her as my girl but not if she is cheating. Thanx

proceed with caution she probably still has feelings towards her ex. Most girls want to remain friends with thier past bf's so it could be harmless however since she took off in front of your face like that you need to explain that this is not cool. She wants to date hmmm.. that sounds like dating you and possiblly someone else. She sounds like she is not intrested in a ltr so I would prepare yourself for the possiblity of her running off with soemone else or hooking up on the side. Just protect yourself but dont coem accross as jealous or controlling towards her. Hope it works out.

thanks everyone this is a hard time to go through and all of your suggestions and ideas help. So thank you and I hope everyone finds true love cause in the beginning it was fantastic and exciting, I just have to say fellas and ladies make sure you are truly in a loving relationship becasue for a while i was convinced I had the girl who would have my back and stand by me but people can be decieving. Again I appreciate all the responses.

My girlfriend and i have been together for 7 months. For the first 6 it was incredible. She said she loved me and wanted to be with me. Then she got a summer job (we are both in college) and she had to leave for 3 months. I helped her move in and she would call me every day to say how much she missed me. Then she flew me up for a week and I saw her emailing a guy friend calling him "sexy". I asked her about it and she acted like it was nothing. Then I snooped in her computer while she was gone and found out she was telling her friend that she has "the hots" for this guy and wants to hook up with him and has been flirtinbg woth him all week. When I approcahed her about this she replied with "its only thoughts and feelings, I would never act on my desires" we fought broke up and got back togther again but she said she needed some space. Now she barley calls anymore and gets upset when I call her. She started hanging out with this guy all the time and apparently he needed a place to stay but she said no because of me, so instead this guy moved four doors down the way. Now they party and get drunk almost every day. She says she is doing nothing physical or sexuall with this guy but there is no way for me to know so i am jealous, and when i get jeaolus she says im pushing her away and not supportive of her new friends and job. Now she says lest take a break and we will talk in 2 weeks. She says she still loves me, but I dont see how she can if she decides to treat me this way. Should I wait and see what happens, or should I leave. I want her more then anything and i cant sleep or concentrate anymore without thinking of her and this guy and the fact she says im to blame for the distancing between us, how do i save this, is it worth saving? Thanks for listening Im misreable without her.