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  1. blue_dahlia
    My ears they hear sounds amidst, The sounds that fill my ears are solace.
  2. blue_dahlia
    My ex and I reconciled 1.5 years after the break-up. There was NC between (I sent three texts that he didn't respond to). I never thought there would ever be a chance again. I healed myself, moved on and had two relationships after him. I completely accepted the break-up. It was over. I read a lot and w/time I became a happy and confident person again. So you never know. Time actually probably helped us. If we would have tried reconcilation earlier the relationship may have failed because we would have carried the same baggage. Today our relationship is so much healthier and it has a solid foundation for a lasting future.
  3. blue_dahlia
    Stay strong! You will feel so much better and proud of yourself tomorrow if you don't contact him.
  4. blue_dahlia
    Hang in there Rosie Girl!! Don't give in. You need to get past the pain or you're just going to keep going around and around and around and around, until one day, you will break the cycle and you will think back about all the time you wasted. So, you can choose, do you want that day to be today or a month from now or six months from now? Life doesn't last forever, and you're too good of a woman to let life pass you by.
  5. blue_dahlia
    Hi ya, Rosie. On his v/m, did you say you would take him back or is that just how you feel you acted?
  6. blue_dahlia
    Hi SS! NC was always for you; to heal and become stronger, independent and to learn to rely on *you* for your happiness. I understand what you're saying; you no longer have to do NC because it's not going to bring your ex back, you understand that there's no going back. But, NC was truly for you all along. I'm happy you posted! I was so waiting to find out what happened last night.
  7. blue_dahlia
    Thank you, Rosie!
  8. blue_dahlia
    8 days of NC. We saw each other ten days ago, our best "date" yet (or whatever you would label it). I'm not texting him. I'm not contacting him first. I won't do it. It's his turn to initiate. I'm going to stay strong. I'm going to be strong. To contact him is a mistake. I know he would reply. But a response is simply not enough. Who wants a response? What does that tell me? That he can read? That he's capable of texting back, yet he's not capable of doing it on his own? I won't contact him. I won't. I'm the prize. I want someone who wants me. Someone who is able to work through the pain and decide that I'm worth it. I'm worth it. I won't contact him. I won't.
  9. blue_dahlia
    Thinking of you!! Sending you lots of support.
  10. blue_dahlia
    6 days NC. Go girl!
  11. blue_dahlia
    That's right! Write it down if you have too. There's a journal section on this site too where you can write down anything you want. You can make your Journal private so that only you can see what was written. NC is about you. Making you strong, happy, confident, independent and self-sufficient. It's about reflection, truth, grieving, understanding and confusion. I know it's so frickin' hard, but in the end it's worth it.
  12. blue_dahlia
    Please don't be too hard on yourself. You're doing a fantastic job. Allow yourself some weakness. You're going to make mistakes. You're a much stronger person then you think, and you will grow so much from this experience. Whatever you decide, we will be here for you!
  13. blue_dahlia
    It's a hard question to ask. I'm speaking from experience - I asked my ex that question a week ago. But I had to know because I was dead-set on moving on if the answer was no chance of reconciliation. And I would have! I learned that from my break-up with (K) (the love of my life) and © a man I dated after (K). You're being very strong! 36 NC days is amazing!! I promise you that you will eventually reach the point when you will just wake up one day, and announce that you're done! Enough is enough! I'm not doing it anymore. Until that day comes, just continue with your grieving and healing. It's all a natural progression. Heal - set-back - heal - set-back. Soon, the healing will outweigh the set-backs. (hug)
  14. blue_dahlia
    I am SO proud of you!! So please, quit saying you broke NC and opened the door because you didn't, got it!? And I'm telling from experience, that your ex is like a drug. You see or hear from him and it gives you this high. Then the distance between sets in and the withdrawls begin. You go a few days and it gets worse and worse. All you can think about is that contact and how it will make you feel better. So you send a text or set up a meeting. Well, it gives you another temporary high. You may not hear from him. This will upset you. Or, you may hear from him, but then nothing more. Now you're left wondering, confused and hurt all over again. This cycle repeats until you break it. Your healing will be delayed that much longer. You have to get past the bad stuff - past the withdrawls. You will eventually get to a point where you understand that talking with him = pain. You will choose and decide that it's not worth it. I urge you to ask him if there's a chance for the two of you. If he says no, I strongly suggest that you don't see him. (hugs)
  15. blue_dahlia
    Did you re-open the door? Did you respond (text, email, phone, in person, sky-writing, braille, um, you know)...
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