cheer4bama

Hi, If you only see him once a year, what is the point of having a boyfriend. Mine just moved to Miami to take on a new job. We get along great, but decided to part because it's way to hard to keep up a long distance romance and hardly spend time together, and it's not fair that both of us be lonely. I want to remain friends with him, but that will be hard too. I just think you should move on, because if you're really in love, you'd be together.

Alana, I know exactly what you're going through. My boyfriend of 2 years just left for a new job 14 hours away. The difference is: YOU ARE YOUNG!! You have your whole life ahead of you. He is still your boyfriend, but you are just apart. My best friend and he boyfriend dated for 5 years and then he went off to college for 4 years. She said it was very hard, but it didn't take her long to get over the feelings of hurt and loss with time. Also, when he DID come back, she had already met someone else and they broke up for 2 years. They are NOW married because they can handle a serious adult relationship. They were too young back then to make a serious committment to each other. I understand that you are home-schooled but there are other placed to meet people... You are very very young. I'm 37 and lost my boyfriend but I dont have the time that you do!!! Girl, it may take time to mourn a bit, but you still have him in your life. If it's meant to be, it will be. Take time for yourself, keep yourself busy and things will come together. I promise!!!! I've been through it more then once!!!! You'll be ok!!!

Hi Guys, I have been reading this forum and see all the views that each request for help has gotten but nobody is posting any advice. Why??? I'm hoping someone can give me some......as I would appreciate it. I met a guy a year and a half ago. He moved in with me after a few months and at that time I was building a new home. He helped tremendously with the moving and handling the problems I had with builders, and such. He was a Godsend. He is an attractive guy but our personalities really didn't mesh. He is very introverted and I'm very outgoing. Anyway, we moved in and at that time he had JUST gotten laid off from his 60K job over an hour away. I told him that because I lived in a bigger city, the opportunity to get a new job may be better. He moved in with me and all went well, but his struggling with job prospects was getting stressful for the both of us. I can handle all the bills alone but it was tight. He is very good at keeping my utilites down and always finding ways to save money by clipping coupons, finding sales, etc, but he still didnt have a job. He would put groceries on his credit card and pay them with his unemployment but I still felt as if I was giving too much and not getting enough in return. Before we moved in together ( when he was working ) he surprised me with roses on Valentines, and nice gifts for holidays and my birthday, but he's been out of work for a year and I know he cant afford it anymore. He did ALOT around the house, as far as lawn maintenance, keeping up with house cleaning, etc which helped me out alot while I was at work but I paid for everything "financial". I loved him and we got along great. He has been looking for a job for so long and he's gone on interviews but he is in a niched business and it was just difficult for him to find something in his field. He took some part time work on and started to help again with buying groceries etc, but I bought him a new wardrobe so that he could go on interviews etc....and now all of his clothes are what I bought him. I filed bankruptcy 5 years ago and I only have one credit card. ( I filed because I maxed out all my platiunum cards to lend my friend money only to find out he skipped town & I've known him for 11 years and that is why I trusted him ) Anyway, my boyfriend has perfect credit and he let's me use his credit card to pay for my hotel expenses when I work out of town. I get re-imbursed every 2 weeks and just give him the money. He has helped with that and I couldnt work without his help, so this has been wonderful for me. Anyway, to sum up this problem: He just got offered a job in Miami Florida ( his old employer called him back ) He went down there to check it out and see if it's still the same company,etc. He then called and said he was accepting the position. I was devestated but he really DID try to get a job around here and nothing panned out. They also offered him 20K more then when he left them. He had to take it. He came home last Weds. and told me he found a roommate because to live in a one bedroom in Miami in a decent area would be over 800/mo. I DID find his ad on a few roommate sites so I knew he wasnt planning this for awile. The "roommate" is a 34 year old woman with a 7 year old. She lives in a really nice 4 bedroom home in a very nice town outside of Miami. He went to see it and really liked it. He told me her first name and so I went on the roommate site and saw her. She is a FITNESS trainer and gorgeous!!!! I asked him if that was her and he said yes, but she was a roommate and nothing else..... Anyway, he left yesterday but I'll see him in a few weeks at my sister's wedding, but cant help thinking....did he WANT to move out because he felt we were going nowhere? Do you think that he'll try to make the moves on this woman? Can I trust him? I paid for his trip to the wedding ....so could that be the only reason he is going???? HELP!

Sara, I am in a credit counseling program. I have been in it for a year. They have helped lower and on some cards, even eliminate my interest. They close your credit cards out and you can't use them anymore so the temptation is gone. It has really helped chizzel them down. My counselor is Kim Fascaldo and she is really helpful in regaining my financial life.... Good Luck~ Missy