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A similar thing has happened to me. One of my best friends for about 4 years has totally changed. He has not grown up at all, and has different friends. and at first it really bothered me that he would just throw away a really good friendship. But, its been almost a year now, and i just dont give a damn anymore. He has called to hang out and i just have told him i dont want to. and it really doesnt bother me. b/c i know if i put the effort into the friendship, he wont..and ill just get pissed off again. SO i just decided to really not care. I have other friends that actually do want to be friends with me, and are worth it for me to put time and effort into. Hope this helped at least a little.

is the ex girlfriend of your friend always hands off? what the situation is that i really like my friend. However, she just broke up with my roomate about a month ago. it was a clean break, and they both remain friends. we all got to know eachother about the same time b/c we all live on the same floor at college. I was talking to her recently and she was saying how friends of ex's are always hands off, its just a rule. but i sometimes get the feeling that she likes me. I of course don't want to hurt my roomate, but he broke up with her and is over her. should i just suck it up, and force myself to get over this girl that i think is amazing, or try to somehow work it out and try to be with her? any advice is awesome. thanks. Josh

the chance is very very low, but if you do decide that most likely you insurance will cover the doctor's visit needed(the morning-after pill is not an over the counter drug, it is a prescription drug). You can goto your local hospitals ermegency room, or if there is a planned parenthood you can get it there. I do know that insurance will cover the doc apointment, and the purchase of the pill itself too. Of course it is up to you. It also isnt necesarly considered abortion like the last person stated. If it were, than Brith Control pills would be also, because tehy are essentially the same thing, just this is a much stronger dose(that doesnt mean u can take birth control like you can this, they are still different). Just be ware, for a few days afterwards you will most likely be very uncomfortable and in pain, that is what happened to my X when she took it. Hope this helped!

first off, if she has a boyfriend then she is pretty much off limits, sorry. But that doesnt mean that you can't be her best friend and show her how important she is to you, and that you would do anything for her. but she says she likes you only as a friend, and unfortunately that is where it will stay until she 1) isnt with the other guy anymore, and 2) changes to start having feelings for you. sorry bud, i have been in the situation, and all you can do is be their best friend.

ok, so here is my perdicament. I welcome all advise, and appreciate everyone who is willing to take their time to read through this, so thank you in advance. I have a history of falling for my best friends. I did it twice in Highschool, but both times the feelings werent mutual, so nothing happened. I'm in college now, and i have fallen REALLY hard for my best friend. She is the sweetest, most caring, cutest, loveable person I think that I have ever met. We are best friends like i stated, and do SO much together. We go out to lunch(just us 2) in little italy, goto movies together, always walk to class together, i call her in the morning to make sure she wakes up, we always talk to eachother, wait for eachother for meals, always hang out in eachothers rooms(we live 2 doors away from eachother), visit eachother and talk over vacationb breaks.ya know? like really great best friends would do. I broke up with my girlfriend awhile ago, and she broke up with her boyfriend, but then started sorta dating this other guy, but that has pretty much ended. She tells me things that i am really good looking, and really smart, and flirts with me in those ways. Im pretty sure she knows that i like her, b/c i think she has talked to her roomate(a mutual friend) about it, and i have gotten some of the story, but i have NO idea how she feels about me! All our friends have always seen us as ending up together, and really perfect for eachother. I am really scared of hurting the friendship, or making her uncomfortable though. I have been "waiting it out" for a while now, and i cant stop thinking about her, everytgime i see her i think i like her even more!! any suggestions on what i should do? THanks!! Josh

i too am not into the college party/alcohol scene at all. But i have found friends/relationships outside of that scene too. THrough ppl that live near me, classes, and friends from things like clubs. in general, i have found that true, some girls will be primarily drawn to a guy that is very outgoing, a partier, and such.....but how often do you see those relationships actually last and stay happy? and besides, you dont want a girl who is looking for that. if there is a girl your interested in, instead of asking her to a party, ask her to go out for coffee, or to a musuem, something that is intilectually stimulating. i think you will be pleasently surprised at how many girls would LOVE to have a guy that doesnt watch tv all day and only care about sports, sex, and drinking/partying. =)

it seems like a hard decision.......my first question would be how old are you? if you are 16 say, thinking of marriage at this early is very risky and i would reccomend it, if you are 25+ this is a different story. And after that, realize that some things are more important than sex. If you really do love her, stay with her until you make that decision of marriage, and then you can decide on having sex or not...there are many other ways to physically please your significant other without having "actual" sex. but like i was saying, if you really do love her, i would personalyl reccomend to stick to her, and be as supportive as you can. good luck, hope it works out well =)

you seem to have good qualities.....and i cant tell from your post but it seems that your problem may not be those..... you arent gunna get dates and relationships by waiting for them to come to you......ecspecially as a guy. go out to clubs, to parties, to bars, social gaatherings with friends, ask one of you friends to hook u up on a blind date, even try internet dating......i dont think its you thats the problem, its your lack of initiative to go out and meet a girl.

i actualyl was taking that into consideration, an X of mine had this problem too, and that solved it for us

i would say b/c she is so tight, finger her. she isnt used to having nething there, so you have to change that to loosen her up. do it frequently, and more fingers/deeper each time.

yes i have, and my name is josh

ok, I have totally fallen for my best friend that I go to college with. She lives 2 doors down, and we always hang out, and she is the most amazing person that I have ever met. When I first started liking her, she had a boyfriend of about a year and a half, so even though she was in my mind it was one of those things that you know just can't happen. However, about a month ago she just broke up with him, and is now single. However, I saw her start to like another guy, and then totally fall for this guy from her hometown. She ended up kissing him on new years, and it seems like they could start dating. I try to hint to her that i like her, and i think she knows(according to her roomate), but i have no idea how she feels about me. Of course, im her best friend first, and then the guy who likes her second, but its really painful to just sit back and watch her fall for another guy, when i really think we would fit so perfectly together. My life is going really well right now, and this is the only thing causing me any emotional pain or stress at all(if it wasn't for her friendship, i would be in such worse shape). Im really scared of losing our friendship if i tell her, and dont want to ruin something that could happen between us in the future. please give any advice , thanks in advance!!! Josh

it soudns liek she is just confused with what she wants. if you still love her, ands he loves you, have faith. show her you love her, let her know what oyu want, and try to help her figure out what she wants. all u can do is give her what she needs, and if its right, you two will be together again. feel free to PM me of AIm me(all is FLAWed) if you wanna talk Josh

many people say that a true loving relationship will always go through a break up. but since the two people truly love eachother, they will get back together. this is really where your relationship is tested of course. you say you still love her, then instead of flat out saying you wanna be with her still, which u said u want to avoid doing), how aobut just spending a good amount of time with her, and see how that works out. try being just friends, and sthat leads to. hope this helped a bit! Josh

hey pancakes, first off ignore that post of jtrcka, whoever he is he should rot in hell. but anyways, like you said, you did nothing wrong. you were totally honest, and never lied to either of them(which is a great quality to have btw). However, there must be something going on in Andy's head for him to react like that. you say you told him about your Ex, and how he is trying to intefere and be an asshole. however, when he saw it first hand, he flipped and lost it and just left without even talking to you. the thing that he SHOULD have done would be to make sure that you were ok, and talk to you and comfort you and calm you down, and reassure you that unlike your Ex, he is there for you. I can not concieve what it may be that made him react the way he did, but there is no reason for him to treat you like that. you have always been honest to him, and thereforeeeeee he should be to you. how much do you like andy? if you are really serious about him, and really truly like him, maybe show up at his door one day, and see how he reacts. if not, maybe its best to have him make the move. hope this all helped. need to talk more you can AIM me is FLAWed, or PM me -Josh