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Im sure there were more problems then just the drug usage. But the speed is defiently what drove her away. I know first hand how addictive that drug can be. It really sneaks up on you. But trust me she has deeper problems then just the drugs. Drugs are only a symptom of the problem not the cause.

I have bipolar disorder I have been locked up a few times and battled with addiction and I am only 20 years old. I managed to climb of all that for the most part, I now have moved out of my parents house, work full time, goto night school so I can get into UT and just got a lexus. I still have my bad days but I can deal with them. I think you need to get away. The environment your in is not any help at all. Their are places for abused women to go who have children to help them out trying finding out info on that. Wish I could do more to help -Josh-

Wow, thats great man someone came back to the forum to tell us how it worked out. Well good luck man, as long as you both are willing to think about how the other person feals things will work out..

Space is a good idea, this is cheesy but it makes my point time to love is like wind to fire. If the fire is small the wind will blow it out, if its large the wind will make it stronger.......

It sounds like you have been really controling I have been in similar situations to you. It's hard to ever be happy with someone you can not trust. I dont blame you for not trusting her totaly either but you werent going out when she slept with that guy Allen. Now if some hot chick came up to you the same night and was totaly all over you can you say that you would have turned her down. I would guess no cause after all you were not going out. It also sounds like she knows how much you hate the bull that she puts you through but she does it on purpose. I think you might be alittle to attached to her, I mean you made a website all about you and her. I know its easy to say but as an outsider looking in I would say walk away man you will just cause yourself more hurt trying to make this work cause it will never ever be the way that you want it be. Now if only I could take my own advice good luck

Yea I guess your right. I guess there is nothing wrong with playing the field for awhile.

Im only 20 and in the past 8 months ive have delt with these stupid relationship games with 3 diffrent girls. One minute they are into one minute they arent, why cant people make up their mind? I have no patience for it anymore, im tired of having my emotions go up and down over this stupid shit. I would say screw it and just not even date anyone for awhile but im not happy being alone right now. Is it just girls around my age that play these games, do people grow out of it? I mean is their anyhope for the future or is this something I should expect my whole life. Any advide would be great.

Just like 2 fast 2 furiouse!!! YEAH!!!! On the real though, you wont be able to afford a car to street race without an education, if you wanna live on your own and afford a car note and all the money ricing it up, that money isnt gonna come from McDonalds. So unless you got family money and plan on doing illegal activities its not gonna happen. And if you want to get a respectable car to rice out, take a look at the WRX.

Ok a few things 1. Maybe she is showing up at the club every friday cause she knows thats were you will be. 2. It sounds like she is attracted to you, holding you hand/Dancing with you, people dont do that with people they just met unless they like things about that person. I say you need to move to the next level, which in my opinion would be invite her to go someplace with you outside the club, a movie during the day lunch etc... Those are both not threatening to a girl and you will get a good idea if she is interested in more by judgeing how receptive she is to you. And just keep raising the stakes but slowly.

I appreciate the feedback, it has given me alot to think about. I realize I have not treated this situation in the best way also and I needed other people to tell me in order for me to see that I guess. TNX

Ok here is the deal a girl that I like for years started dating one of my friends they never really got passed making out. And me being the guy I am just left them alone. Well they stopped seeing each other. So I asked my friend if its was ok for me to make a move on her and he said sure cause they only went out a few times. Well so she come over my house a few times for partys and 1 night she came over and I was totaly trashed when she got their and she started drinking with me and we got tanked she was hardcore coming on to me the whole night so we started messin around this is the first time we ever hooked up. So she spent the night but we didnt have sex (i dont need to go into details). The next day her friend tells me that she dosent remember it, well I know that is bullshit but anyway maybe she was embarrased for being so drunk and acting like that infront of her friends. So I figure maybe it was just drunk fun and nothing else. Well about 2 weeks later she comes over again and we end up sleeping in the same bed together and just cuddling. I didnt kiss her on purpose cause I guess I just wanted to play games with her like she was with me. Well here it goes that part that ***s with my head. I have another party at my house (yea i have alot of partys) well she comes over and then leaves my hopes were crushed. Well about an hour later she calls me and ask whos all over at my house still and I tell her almost everyone split except for 1 person and my roomate and his girl. Well she came over when I got to the door she told me that she lost her cell phone at my house witch is Bs cause she was calling me from her cell phone. So we end up messign around and she spent the night but didnt have sex.. She tells me that I make her nervouse. I asked her why but she just said "i dont know" . So I left it at that . Well after this to make it short she still hangs out with me, she still flirts with me and answers all my phone calls. But yet she has made out with another guy infront of me and has flirted hardcore with 1 of my friend since that point. I saw her last thursday at her job and she said she wanted to hangout with me this weekend cause she was going out of town for over a week. Well i didnt call her Im tired of being hurt. I dont know what to do I dont know if i love her but their is something special about her. Please guys/ and girls espicialy i need your help. AND TO THOSE THAT READ ALL THIS THANKS!!!!!!!!!

Just like how not all people want the same thing, not all guys want the same thing. Some guys just want to get laid as much as possible. Some just want a cool friend to hang out with and do stuff with. And some want/ are ready for the real deal.

I know if I like a girl it depends on what situation im in but lets say im in a party atmosphere I will try to hang out with the girl I like more then the other people in the room and joke around with her and try to get a feel for how she feels about me.

Man that seem similar atleast in certain aspects to my situation. I was friends with this girl for a few months then all of a sudden she just started to come on to me. We kissed and have messed around a few times since then but she never seems all that interested and disinterested either and our friends all say she really likes me. Just like you she has been on my mind alot for the last few months. Only thing I can think of to explain your guys and my girls behavior is maybe they arent sure what they want. I dont think this is of much help, but who knows. I hope some other people weigh in on this.