sensual_buttafly

Hello Some of you may know my story but just wondered if there would be anymore input as im still confused as what to do, to make a long story short, Ive known this guy for 7 years we have been out in the past but nothing serious just as kids. For the past year and a half I have been madly in "lust" with him, its just getting worse now and I cant sleep. Loads of friends went clubbing the other night and me and him ended up in the backseat of a car, we kissed, held hands but it went no further (We got inturrpted!!!) Anyway so two days later my friend goes round his house and asks if I can go round to chat, but he makes loads of excuses sayin hes goin out and has things 2 do,so I thought this was to stop me going round, but yesterday I found out he hadn't slept for 2 days (due to parties)so could it be he just wasn't in the mood or is he trying to stay away from me? What should I do!!??!

You cant "get" a girl to like you, liking someone involves feelings and you cant change feelings be them right or wrong so getting someone to like you is like getting all the money in the world. If somebody likes you then fair enough but if somebody doesnt like you then dont try and change yourself to suit the needs of that person otherwise you will be lying and it obviously wasnt meant to be. Good luck.

so how do i tell this guy ive liked for a year and a half i really like him and wont take no for an answer...lol...no seriously any ideas???

I do think your reasons are some what reasonable but have you tried speaking to her about it? like telling her you dont find her sexually attractive anymore? I think you need to address these things with her instead of finishing the relationship and then maybe regretting it later on...and if you really do love her yes you would care about the outside but you would be some what willing to comprimise with her,its the inside that counts remember. And if she is the same person she was when you first got together and you are trying to change her then you shouldnt try and change someone to the way you want them to be you should find out what you really want and need instead of trying to get someone to adapt to your needs. Good luck hope this helps.

to stop me re writing all i just wrote i replied in the other post where u put the pic

Good reply hopefully the girl will listen she needs someone to talk to.

I'm not quite sure what to say, all i can say is every word of everything you have wrote i can understand, ive been their ive done it and i wear the t-shirt. Although it doesnt seem like it now life does go on and it will go on, everything happens for a reason! Its like a grieving process everyday will get better and its true it does take time but in the end I believe you will have the last laugh. Smile.

Well what do women go through when they have an abortion...this is a subject i would normally stay away from as me personally i cant stand people that have abortions..I have never and would never have one...I feel sorry for women who feel the need to do this..I dont think women actually grasp the fact they have a living and breathing life inside of them until its over and they cant turn back, its just an easy way out and i do believe they suffer their whole life with it..it sounds a bit drastic but its like murdering a baby, yes the baby might not be born but its still a living organism and if any women or man is foolish enough to get pregnant not wanting kids then thats their mistake for opening their legs....and they should deal with it not just take the easy way out...sorry i know my reply is harsh but its a point of view.

Just tell her straight and if she still doesnt understand then ignore her, sounds like shes got a screw loose...

Good answer. Lost for words for a change!

Well Joe personally i think you do still care about her or you wouldnt be here making the effort to write down these things..but thats just my opinion..and to me she sounds like a (I apologise in advance) bleeeeeeeep! lol sorry but shes just messing with your head and trying to make you jealous i would just forget about her she sounds confused and i dont think she knows what shes wants...she messing with ppls feelings and thats wrong...she is a waste of your time mate. (Soweeeee)

hahahaha babe i think thats the best advice ive ever been given thats exactly what im going to do haha no only joking and by the way its easy me saying ill just forget about him but this guy keeps me awake at night i cant just click my fingers and make these feelings disappear as much as i would like to it just doesnt work like that...and what makes it worse he lives 2 minutes away from me so i see him everyday.....oh dear what to do what to do....lol

Joe you can tell me in a short story if ya like..I can give my opinion but keep in mind my head isnt very good at getting around relationship probs at the mo hence why im on this site...lol

If you think you can wind your way around a grandmother..ha think again, i think talking to her grandma on the phone is a good one but i dont think she will let you see her even then she sounds strict but at the end of the day if you arent willing to wait a month for your g/f then does she really mean all that much to you?!? I know a month sounds a long time but ive been waiting a year and a half to tell some one i like them!!! Compare! Good luck

Well if you asked her out before and she said no...it depends on why she said no...i had a similar occasion where my best friend asked me out and i said no but it was purely due to the relationship we had, we could speak about anything and i didnt want to ruin that bond between us because even if you think it wont change things it does change everything, she is your best friend so i suggest you sit down and talk to her face to face and find out whats going through her head. good luck