queen_rocks

To be honest, I view that older women know what they want! But in most cases, older women can become more dominant in the relationship allowing the male to be sexually mature and, to a certain degree, be slightly immature. But despite the Americans and Japaneze making the acceptance of the older man and younger women relationship, society has failed to support the idea of older women courting and mating with younger men. However, I suggest that you ignore all of that and get on and have a decent relationship with him. Besides, it's his choice too to have a relationship with an older women and let's face it, you only live once!

Hiya Rev. I have been absorbing some of the things which you recommended and I shall be progressing further by receiving some professional help. And you were not wrong about helping my friend out, since I may have increased the damage rather than reduce it! 8) But I am off now and I am emotionally coping with the personal problem at hand; however it is one long road to becoming emotionally recovered. queen_rocks!

I must be one of the most horrible people on this planet! But before I start telling you why, I shall provide you with some necessary background information: I have a friend who is 12 years older than me and I see her as a big sister who I have never had before. Earlier this year, she helped me face my biggest 'secret' that I held during my childhood and wanted to support me; but I am now trying to sort the problem out without hurting anyone. To a certain extent, I view her as one my trust worthy friends. The problem that I caused: the other evening, we decided to go out clubbing and we were getting drunk and had a lovely time. But the problem I was having were negative flash backs which I was seeing, hearing and feelings. The problem grew and my friend and I went outside of the club. After talking to her, she started to become (emotionally?) sick (or vomitted with fear) and told me something which I had never heard before: she had experienced a negative incident in her life too, which she never wanted to expose. I felt horrible since I felt a lot of gulit and shame. Although she kept on explaining to me that it wasn't my fault, I realise that I had damaged someone during my recovery process. I even check to see if was alright the next day by phoning her, but she explained that she had the flu from her youngest child and blamed her 'illness' on this common 'bug'. I have made the effort to go out and arranging some help to sort this childhood incident; but I view that I being unstable and I fear of losing more close friends because of this minor incident in my childhood. thereforeeeeeee, what can I do to help my friend? I know that I'm really bad for placing stress onto her, but it's doing my 'head-in'! I think I'm being unemotionally unstable!

QUOTE: "You aren't really David Beckham are you? No Beckham would never have these sorts of difficulties! Maybe you are some guy inlove with Victoria! Then you must wait in line...Yes! Wait, all good things come to those who wait!" No offence, but Posh (Spice) is not my ideal women! Yuk! You have to be mad to get in with her! The other thing that I should mention is that people, who become engaged in the UK, do not instantly walk into marriage within 12-months. Instead, from my viewpoint, it is a test run to see whether the couple are suited to each other. I suppose it is a cultural thing, which is different between the US and the UK. Finally, thanks for he advice, but I prefer the first one which was sent to me.

Again, hello. I shall be honest with this since I forgot about this message board! After posting the original message, I decided to speak to her and we called it off. To begin with, it was hard to accept that someone beautiful may dump me for another man. But, whether I liked it or not, it was for the best for both of us. However a couple of weeks later, her bloke decided to call the engagement off due to personal reasons. I viewed that it was my fault, but it was actually an issue which was within him for 3-months! Although there was an opportunity to see her and try something with her, I decided not to and moved on. Without any encouragements, I 'advertised' myself on of these 'love-matching' websites and, without any expectations, I received over 100-hits within 5-weeks. I was amazed and I even receieved a couple of e-mails from some lovely ladies. But that is another story. Nevertheless I did go away to London, UK for the weekend after the 'break-up' to see Korn live, and I was relieved that we met and 'cancelled' the relationship. Otherwise it would have negatively ended in tears for everyone! Don't get me wrong, but the recent reply indicated that I did the right thing and the advise (regardless of the delivery time ) worked a treat. If there are any other people with a similar problem which I recently experienced, then please follow it. You shall not regret it! Peace and love, Queen_rocks 8)

If you love him, then you love him but for your sake, please do not lose your virginity as he may, or might be interested in the sexual aspect of the relationship! From a personal viewpoint, just be sure that you in a non-sexual relationship first; otherwise, he could be another person who wants a sexual relationship but will not confess to this idea.

I have a big problem: recently, I have been friends with a close female friend who has been engaged for over three-years. To begin with, we were just friends and then we became close friends due to common interests and sharing similar thoughts of the world. However, one evening I dropped her off from work and we had a really great laugh after she was feeling depressed, as she having 'bloke-problems'. Soon after I dropped her off, she texted me saying: "I have this weird feeling everytime I am next to you" and I was uncertain what she was talking about. Consquently, I 'caught-on' to what she said and I felt the same feelings too - this was not going to good, as I know her bloke fairly well. The next day, we sat and talked by the pond and we acknowledged our love to each other, but there was a problem: her male companion. Despite this, we carried on firting and texting to each other and stayed fairly close to each other when ever possible; nevertheless, the gulit grew within myself as we starting hugging and eventually kissed each other. Then one evening, there was a big celebration dinner for our work place and she turned up with her bloke: she was beautiful but, at the same time, felt gulity for the 'secret-relationship' which we had; I too felt the same feelings which she secretly showed me. I decided to text her the next morning and told her to meet-up to discuss about this love situation and we did. During the 'meeting', she and I both agreed that we should 'start over again', since certain things occurred without warning. The problem, however, was that I am still in love with her and I cannot get over the love situation! Even now as I type, I find it stressful just feeling the emotions which are presented to me without any warning, and I do not know how to stop this. thereforeeeeeee, I beg the kind people out there the following: please can anyone present to me realistic solutions and ideas which I can apply for this situation. Just present to me a cure to stop continue 'loving' this women without causing any damage to the fragile friendship! I give many thanks for those who offer such advice and peace and love to all the people accross the world: stop hate forever!