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  1. deleted-account
    this is my final post in this section of the site. It took me 7 months, but I'm finally over my ex. A few weeks ago something in my head just clicked and I was free. No part of me wants to be with her anymore. Sure, it would have been nice if it worked, but it didn't and I've accepted that. Many failed attempts at NC, but they all helped me heal. I learned something new every time. No matter what happens between us and our ex's, there is light at the end of the tunnel.
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    You really are doing amazing Lilbear.... that's awesome!
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    Most of the time, a "break" is the coward's way of breaking up
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    LilBear... Congrats! Keep it going strong!
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    So I jumped off the wagon today... made it 5 weeks. I sent her a short email that basically said I was thinking about her and hoped that everything with grad school was going good for her. A few hours later she responded nicely but I think it was just out of courtesy. I'm not sure what I want to do from this point. I'm thinking LC where if she contacts me I will respond but I don't want to be the one to contact her. I'd be lying if I said I'm not disappointed at the short response, but I'm not devastated or anything. I re-opened the doors of communication... if she's interested then she will keep them open.
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    I love how whenever I have a few bad days, it's always followed by a really good day. I've been feeling great today.
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    I'd suggest starting with smaller goals. Set a goal for yourself to go 3 days NC and stick to it no matter how hard it is. It much easier to tell yourself to hold off for 1 more day. Every time you fail, set a goal to make it 1 day longer than you did before.
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    I guess I'm just feeling real lonely lately. I don't want sex or anything like that, but i'm dying to just cuddle up with someone and fall asleep.... grrrrrrrrrr
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    So I almost contacted my ex today. She's been on my mind all morning and I want to see if anything has changed in the past month. I hate that I can always find a way to convince myself that it's ok to contact her. I tell myself worst case she denies me again and it gives me the strength to go NC for another month or so. I won't do it though. I need to move on and contacting her won't help at this point. Grrrrrrrrr
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    I'm in no danger of contacting my ex, but I'm really missing her lately. It feels like it eats at me a little more each day. I just wish I could talk with her like we used to. Oh well.... staying with NC.
  11. deleted-account
    Thank You! I use AIM so I'm not sure of the differences with msn. Depending on where you are at emotionally it might be best to block/delete him. Is he trying to contact you? I blocked my ex for most of november and december, but eventually unblocked her. The reason I did it in the first place was because I found myself checking her away message several times a day and it wasn't healthy. After a while when I got stronger, I unblocked her. My thinking was that leaving her blocked was giving her power and showing that I was weak. Of course, the day I unblocked her she started messaging me so it does peak their interest. However, do what you need to heal. Don't make a game out of it and try to get a reaction out of him.
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    Thanks for the support! Don't beat yourself up for breaking NC. I failed at it many times before being strong enough to get through it. Start again and just make sure you go longer each time. Set a small goal for yourself of beating that 5 days of NC.
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    Made it to 30 days!! Now on to 60!
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    4 weeks in, aka 28 days. Almost to the goal of 30. I've been feeling weak the past few days though.
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    I'm feeling a greater connection with who I am. Lately I've found that whenever I watch a serious movie I tear up and cry a little bit.... and I like it. Because of everything I've been through, I feel a much stronger connection with movie characters and feel their pain. I never used to get so emotionally involved with movies. The movie I watched tonight was Reign Over Me. Very good movie.
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