suziered723

If you both love each other the way that you say you do, he'll repect you and all of your decisions. If you aren't ready he should be willing to repect that choice, and do whatever to make you feel comfortable and then some day you'll be ready. Honesty is truly what you need to keep in mind. Don't lead him on into thinking that you're ready for such a jump in your relationship. -Good luck! -then you seduce me with your plastic eyes, yeah your lips and your ponytails-

Probably some cool down time, would be good for the both of you. It's good to know that you'll be there for each other, but that you shouldn't be telling eachother every detail about the pain and suffering that you may be going through. Just try and keep your chin up and be a friend to her, I'm sure she'll appreciate it down the line. -for have i, belong to no where-

Every girl is different, and I think depending if they have a boyfriend or not thats also factors in. And why would they do it if they don't like it? eh? It's your choice to do it or not, so "we" must like it. right? Though I'm sure once a week- once a month is probably average. --

You should get to know her a little better, and if things "click" just the way you want them to. Then by all means you should think about asking her out and starting a relationship, but give it a little time so that you're sure you want to begin such a commitment. -Good Luck!

So I need to start off with a little background information before I get into my confusing dilemma. I started dating this guy in November of '01 and I was a senior in high school, and he was a sophomore. I went off to college while he still was chugging along through his high school days. I came home most weekends to see him, but it got to a point where I felt I just had to experience college, and had to break up with him. After hurting myself more than ever by breaking up with him, we got back together and we were together for a nice long time. (almost a year and a half). I came home from college and lived at home just going to a community college so that I could see him more, but then I felt as though I was seeing him too much and that I really didn't know who I was, so once again I broke his heart. Knowing how i reacted the first time towards the breakup, I came up with this crazy idea to just rebound as soon as possible; and only four days after the break-up with my boyfriend I had found a new guy, only to have him mess with my head. So I was upset and emotionally mangled with by two different guys. A week after I broke up with my younger boyfriend, I went on a week and a half vacation away where I didn't talk to him much. Him being at home, he talked things out with a mutual friend and was able to just get over me, mean while I had been thinking I was over him but upon my arrival home I was confronted with my true feelings for him. I missed him more than ever. I had told him that I missed him, yet after hurting him twice I knew it wasn't right for me to get him back and he told me that he wasn't going to date me again. After one night of me breaking down and crying in front of him at a concert and him being there to comfort me, it gave me such mixed signals about our situation. He kept insisting that he wanted to be my friend, but it's been so hard for me to handle my feelings and balance a friendship. After the concert we ended up making out in my car, and then him telling me that he liked my best friend and that she liked him back. I've been torn apart ever since he told me this. He keeps saying that he needs time before jumping into a new relationship, yet i know he's not going to wait long. My friend doesn't know what to do either, she never gets such good luck with guys, but doesn't want to hurt me; and initially I said, "just go for it, i understand" but more and more i keep getting upset and just pissed off at both of them. I feel so selfish to the fact that they know my feelings yet just continue turning their friendship into a relationship. People keep throwing out the idea that my ex-boyfriend might be using her as a rebound because it's only been a month since we broke up and he's just using her to replace me, yet no ones sure. My feelings towards their relationship goes up and down, where as one day I'll feel as though its their life and they should do what they want, but then the next I'll want them to just fall off the face of the earth and i want their soon to be relationship to fail miserably. Just a day ago I decided to stop talking to them so i wouldn't have to hear anything about whats going on, yet I'm still curious. Should I keep avoiding them? or do I need to be around them to heal? I miss my boyfriend....yet I know I can't have him. I just don't want him with anyone, especially one of my bestest friends. oh well. thank you for listening to me.