badmotorfinger

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 7 months. We went out in high school about 5 years ago, so we're pretty close considering we have a lot of history together. Everything is great with our relationship except for the fact that he hasn't said the "L" word yet. I feel like if he feels that way towards me, then he will say it. But, I'm kinda getting impatient. I've been so determined this whole time that I wouldn't say it first. I've always wanted him to say it first. But now, it's so hard just to hold it in. Every minute I am with him I get the urge to say it. I guess in a way I'm just really scared that he might not say it back or if he does say it he won't mean it. Any advice?

I have a great boyfriend. He's sweet and caring and he treats me like a princess. But whenever we are around his friends or at a party, he ignores me. Not completely, but just enough to upset me. I know that more than likely, the reason is because he doesn't want his friends or anyone new that he meets to think he is *beep* whipped. Which, I can't get too mad because I know a lot of guys are like that. Is it something guys get over after they have been in the relationship for a while, or is it just a personality trait? Should I tell him how I feel or try to ignore it? I just feel like if I did tell him how I felt he would get offended because he would feel cornered.

I'm a stripper and on Friday and Saturday nights I do a girl-on-girl show on the main stage. I've talked to a bunch of girls up there about getting an STD from a girl by doing this. I've been told that it's hard to get anything from what we do. It's just for show, so we don't really have "sex", but we do go down on each other. We don't get lubricated because we're actually not turned on--so we don't really swap anything. Is it really as hard as they say it is to get something from what I'm doing?

I met this guy a few months ago and I can tell that he is pretty sexually experienced. He has never really talked about his past relationship or sexual encounters, so I don't know for sure how experienced he is. I don't know why it kills me so much, but I can't help but wonder how many girls he has actually had sex with and how many he has cared about also. He has told me in the past that in his opinion, sex is just something physical. I don't understand how someone can think like that. How can you be that intimate with someone and not feel any deeper? Anyway, I know they always say curiosity killed the cat--so should I not get into his sexual past or let my curiosity run wild? I'm kinda scared I won't like the answer.

I'm 20 years old and am still living with my parents. I had a good office job for three years but about a year ago I got layed off. Ever since then I have been searching for a new job. It's hard because that is the only job I had and no body really wants to hire a 20 year old in an office with little experience. I recently found a job I really like..... at a strip club. I love it, the pay is great, and I like the people that I work with. I lied to my parents and told them that I had gotten a job bartending at a local club so that they wouldn't ask where I am all the time. They didn't really like the idea, but said for now it would be a good part time job. I hate lying to them; I feel like a bad daughter for not only lying to them, but also for having a job that I like that my parents would be ashamed of my for. My mom and I are like sisters and I don't know what I would do if she kicked me out of her life. I don't really know what my question is-I was just looking for an opinion, maybe from another mother.

i just recently got dumped by my boyfriend of two years. i was actually pretty relieved when he did break up with me; it was time for me to be on my own for a while. but, to make a long story short, he did something pretty bad to me after we broke up. i've been pretty depressed about it ever since it happed. okay, so you know what's going on, there is another guy in this picture. let's call him L. me and L went out in high school for about a year and he was basically the first guy i had ever really loved. after we broke up, i could never be in the same room with him because i still had strong feelings for him--i still do to this day. i had never felt emotions that deep. anyway, the day my ex broke up with me, L calls at 2:00 in the morning to ask if i wanted to come over his house to watch movies. i thought it was kinda weird because he had never called me any other time in the past. ever since then, me and him have been pretty close. we've done stuff together, but never had sex. the feelings i had for him in high school are starting to come back. i'm starting to care for him and think about him all the time. i finally realized that if i stayed in this position with him, i would eventually get hurt. so i backed off. he called me one night and asked if something was wrong and if i was pissed about something. i told him no and said that it wasn't his problem so he didn't have to worry about it. he asked if it had something to do with him and i said yes. he told me that if it has something to do with him, then i should tell him, but i never did. now he thinks that i am mad at him. it's so hard to back off from him because we have the same friends and i see him quite frequently. i think to an extent he likes me too; it's the little things that he does to me that i know he would never do to one of his other chick friends. but, i doubt that he cares for me as much as i care for him. i don't know if i should tell him what is bothering me because what if he doesn't think of me like that and he gets weirded out and starts acting funny? but at the same time, what if i'm missing out on a special thing with him. i wouldn't date him right now because i just got out of a bad relationship and i have so much other drama to worry about. i am also scared of the way i feel about him. my feelings are so strong for him and i don't like that. i'm so use to keeping my guard up with my boyfriends and i know that i could never do that with him. i would basically put myself in a position where i could get hurt. as you can tell i have a lot on my mind about him. i don't think i will ever get fully over this guy. he has been in my heart for the past three years. none of my other boyfriends have ever compared to him, and that scares me a whole lot. what i am basically trying to ask is should i tell him what is on my mind and if i do how much should i tell him. if i keep backing off, he may eventually get the clue that i don't want to be with him like that or keep asking until i tell him. what to do, what to do.

There was this guy I went out with in high school. He was probably the only guy I've ever met that I had a lot in common with. We clicked as soon as we began talking to one another. I liked him a whole lot. Still to this day, I don't know if it was pure infatuation or if it was really love. Well, three years later he starts calling me again. Ironically right after me and my boyfriend break up. In my mind, the feelings that I had for him never went away, and I'm starting to have feelings for him again. The problem is that this is the kind of guy that I would fall head over heels for. I know because I did it before. There is just something about him that makes him stand out in my eyes. I guess I'm just scared because I know if I let my feelings get ahead of me I will fall hard for him. I know this sounds stupid, but those kinds of feelings scare me. You know, the kind of feelings you have for a person that are on the borderline of being obsessive. I'm just wondering if these feelings are normal. Should I keep my distance from him and try to forget about it?

Me and my boyfriend just recently broke up. Well, it's more like he broke up with me. He is 22 and I am 20. He said that he needed some space to figure out what he wants in life, to find a good job to support himself and to be able to find a place to live because he still lives w/his parents. I can understand that he would feel this way because at some point in everyones life they want to get their life started. But I don't understand why that means he needs to break up with me. And there's another thing; every year for the past 2 years he does this. It makes me think that once he gets married and something happens to stress him out, what will he do then. I love this guy. He makes me extremely happy and he's like my best friend. I would do anything to make this work, but I don't know what I should do.

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a year and 1/2. When we first started going out we acted like two dogs in heat. Things kinda fizzled down. I still love him and I feel that our relationship is stronger now than when we first started dating. Last weekend me and my boyfriend took a trip to Nahsville and stayed with one of his good friends, named Jeremy. Jermey just started dating this girl; she really cool and I get along with her. The first day we were there, Jeremy and his girlfriend kept cuddling and kissing and making out. I think they had sex about four times that day. I was a little jealous because me and my boyfriend aren't like that anymore. We still have sex and cuddle, but not like we use to. It just sucks when we're up there because I feel like me and my boyfriend are the old, married couple. Is is wrong to feel like that? What can I do to make our relationship feel more young and carefree, like Jeremy and his girlfriend?

I have a problem. I can't trust anybody. I'm always thinking that someone is talking about me behind my back, I'm going to get cheated on, or I'm going to get stabbed in the back. I'm just the kind of person that sees the glass as half empty. I always look on the bad side of things and always expect the worst out of people. I don't trust my boyfriend of a year and 1/2. He hasn't done anything for me to suspect that he isn't trustworthy, i just don't trust him. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to be normal. I'm just sick of always looking over my shoulder or getting hurt when no one hasn't even done anything to me. I just want to be happy again.

Its not really that i hate my job, i just hate this one girl that i work with. i like the job that i do and the fact that they will work around my school schedule. but, the girl that shares the desk with me is a b*tch. she never does any work, she is always blabbing to the guy that is training her, and she treats me like i'm 9 years old. a lot of people up there treat me differently because i'm so young. they treat me like i don't know what is going on in the world; like i have never been through anything in my life, so i wouldn't understand what they're talking about. i hate this girl so much and i have never hated anyone like i do her. i'm not really a hateful person. when someone pisses me off, i usually get over it and move on. but she pisses me off everyday. she makes me feel like i'm the dumbest person in the whole world if i don't get something the first time and whenever i decided to check my e-mail when i have free time, she makes a deal about it; even though she is always either on the phone, talking to that guy, or on the internet. my boss know that she is like this and she won't do anything about it. my boss really doesn't like her. the girl knows so much about the company and what she doesn't that it would be hard for my boss to replace her. i just hate going into work now; it feels like jail to me. i hate her and i just wish that she would get the karma she deserves. i don't know what to do because the job is a good job because it gives me time for my schooling and to actually have a life. it's hard to find a decent job, so i really don't want to give this one up. does anyone have any advice on how i could handle this girl and how i can handle hating my job. i would just like to know that i'm not alone with feeling like this.

I'm 19 years old and have been smoking for three years. A whole lot of people have told me that when a person quits smoking, they have more of a chance of getting lung cancer. I'm sure this is true, but could i really get lung cancer from quitting? Now i'm scared to quit.

My dad got put into the hospital for emphysema and pneumonia of the lungs about a week ago. I love my dad to death, but we have never been that close. He is always at work, so i never see him; and when i do, he usually pisses me off. hes never really acted like he was proud of me. when i wanted to go to college, he got mad because he would have to pay for the schooling. he is a whole lot better now and he's coming home today. for some reason i'm not that excited about him coming home. it just feels a whole lot better when its just me and my mom. is there something wrong with me?

I've been smoking for about three years. Just recently, my chest started hurting everytime i lit one up. It felt like my lungs were getting tighter. So, i decided to quit. I got some of that nicotine gum. it works great, but evertime i use one, my chest feels like it's tightening up like when i would smoke. Am i having an allergic reation to nicotine? or is nicotine bad for your heart?

I work at a manufacturing plant as a receptionist. It started as just internship for the school that i was going to. My mom works here, so basically, that's how i got the job. I'm a temp, so i only work about 12 hours a week. Which is good for me because i'm still living with my parents and going to college. I don't have big bills to worrying about, I just need time to study for school. Anyway, when i first started working here, it was great. It's so laid back and everyone was so friendly to me. But, i just can't stop feeling like, now, everyone is treating me like i'm only 9 years old. I'm 19 and most of the employees that work up in the office are over 35. I don't work as often as everyone else does, so i don't know everything about this business. so when i ask a question, like which paint line teamleader works 3rd shift, they get all huffy puffy like i should already know the answer. And this one girl that works down the hall from me has bipolar, so when she's in a bad mood, she's really in a bad mood! She loves to make people feel stupid, and i'm usually the one that works with her the most because we share some of the same responisbilities. She loves to tell people when i've made a mistake, asked a stupid question, or had a brain fart and forgot something. And then they all laugh and act all jolly. I just feel like i'm getting made fun of all the time. Some days i just feel so angry or so stupid that i'm almost in tears. like today. I can't tell my mom because she'll just tell me to buck up and take it like a man. I would love to quit, but my dad says that i can't quit a job unless i have one to fall back on. I don't know. I would just like someone to let me know if every job is like this, or am i just really emotional.