teenmom

Thanks, both of you, for your reply. I know Alyssa very well, they've been friends for years already. I also know her parents. If their kids cut school or take drugs, it's okay with them because according to Alyssa's mother "I did it, so if I told them not to do it I would be a hypocrite." Aside from the parents, who are losers, I don't even hate Alyssa. I don't. I told him I didn't hate her and that I didn't mind him hanging out with her, which I don't. I just asked him to spread himself around a little bit more and make some new friends because it's not good to devote his time to just one person. You're right, my son definitely does relate better to girls and I'm fine with that. He's not a "manly man", doesn't do sports and that's fine too. He's a great kid, he's funny and smart. SItting inside this girls house all day is just not healthy. I could ban him from going there but I hate to do that. I want him to do it on his own. She's definitely NOT his boyfriend. I know this for a fact. If she was, I would understand his obsession with her. He doesn't even TRY to meet anyone else, that's what's got me so worried. It's her and only her.

I have what I perceive to be a big problem. I have a 15, almost 16-year-old son. He has a female friend on the block named Alyssa. He also has a male friend on the block named Cory. My son spends 99.9% of his time with Alyssa. My son and Alyssa are not boyfriend/girlfriend. Alyssa has a boyfriend and my son and her are just friends. She calls here nonstop, sometimes 10 times a day. It drives me insane. If she calls and no one answers, she hangs up and tries two seconds later. I told him to please tell her to stop doing this. The only time she doesn't call is when he's there, which as I said is 99.9% of his time. Alyssa doesn't like Corey so my son basically dumped him. The only time he spends any time at all with Corey is when ALyssa isn't home so basically he uses him which I told him NOT to do and which he insists he doesn't do. From the moment he wakes up, he's down at her house. He comes home for dinner and goes back down again. I asked him what he does there all day. He says "nothing much." A few weeks ago a new family moved in next door. Really nice family with a girl his age that he already knew from school. He told me she was really nice and I was SO happy that maybe, just maybe, he would start socializing with someone besides Alyssa. This girl calls all the time and I have to say "Oh, he's not home, he's at Alyssa." Alyssa is his entire social life. Not one friend from school ever calls nor does he call anyone. No one from school ever comes over nor does he go anywhere but Alyssa's house. Alyssa, I might add, is a little bit of trouble. She loves to cut school and had him doing it one day. She loves to eat and he's gained 10 pounds in the last year. She is not a scholar by any means and he's been lazy, not doing his schoolwork. I told him that he needs to start expanding his horizons and find some other friends. I told him to stop hanging out at her house all day long and to try to be somewhat nicer to the new neighbors instead of saying hi and walking away. As soon as I finished my speech, guess where he went. Right back down to Alyssa's house. Yesterday all the kids were in my pool with my daughter. Where was he? Sitting inside Alyssa's house on a beautiful day. He didn't understand why I called him to come home. He thought dinner was ready and it wasn't. He then proceeded to go downstairs to get on the computer to talk to Alyssa. I am at my wit's end. I want him to have another friend besides this girl but yet, can I force him to stay away from here. Anyone have any answers for me? Thank you.