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  1. Hi there. I had this issue personally with my girlfriend. I mean, I was the one that was jealous. Fortunately, I'm not aware of my current or past girlfriends cheating on me so I haven't had my confidence destroyed yet. Its something that I grew out of. I accepted that she was going to find attractive features in other men and there was nothing I can do about it. Its the same as when I find something attractive about another woman I see. As long as she doesn't act on impulse I can live with it. If you are constantly at other guys while at the table with him, then you just need to have some respect for him. You know if you are doing it or not. Something that I found helped for women and it would probably work for men as well, is advertise you are with HIM. When you introduce him, be sure that you add the "my boyfriend " part. Work the fact that you have a boyfriend into your conversation whenever you meet a new guy. Hold his hand, etc. I did this with my girlfriend and her confidence with me skyrocketed. How was the building process started for me? My girlfriend broke up with me and I got better for the next one. She didn't allow me to pull that crap with her. She didn't plead with me, she said it needed to stop. If he accuses you because you glance up cause something catches your eye and you don't continue to stare, call it a day. This is all assuming you have had talks about this.
  2. I did the same thing. The college I attended was only 30 minutes away from my home town and my girlfriend was still there in high school. Truthfully, I feel I ***ed up. I broke it off. There were so many things going on at that time. I never cheated on her, I broke it off before anything happened (Kissing or sex). The first 2 days in college alone, there were new women all extremely friendly walking around the dorms looking to meet new people. You'll see many people in your situation. I bet you if you watch them closely, you see many of those same people with girlfriends/boyfriends back home end the semester with a different person. Even at 30 mins, it was still difficult. She was over there and I was over here. We lasted for a few months, then I told her it just wasn't going to work out. Like I said, I think I ***ed up. She was beautiful, caring, and genuine. I still think about her sometimes even at age 26.
  3. Wolf

    Paranoid!!!

    Based on what you just said, I would break it off. Think about this, if she really didn't have a desire for him then why did she make out with him? Whether she cheated on you or not depends on a few factors. Was she REALLY your girlfried? Are we talking a few weeks or more than 6 months here? Look at one of the things you mentioned. She didn't break off her relationship with him, he got pissed at her because he found out about you. This is the same thing you should be doing.
  4. Bad breath? I guess that would depend how bad it really is. Some people have such bad breath that it projects really far. Ask someone, like your mother what she thinks. Can she smell your breath from more than 3 feet away? Someone I used to work with had such bad breath that I stood 3-4 feet from him and could still smell it. If thats the case, you may need to do something about that.
  5. Well, I'm a 26 yr old male. I can't tell you if it is lust or love, but I will tell you what he may be thinking. I have had similar thoughts. I feel that people from the age of 18-22 are much different from those that are 23-26. Many of us semi-older folk have grown out of the things 18-22 yr olds are just starting to experience. At 18, you are experiencing so many new things and usually the absolute freedom from your parents. By the age of 21 you are freely able to drink in public and that starts a new situation in itself. The club scene and partying always bring the possible opportunity for meeting a newer guy. Especially when he is not with you. If he isn't still going with you, he never got into that mode or is done with it. After a while I found those activities boring/irriatating or whatever. Personally, I would say to take a good look at whether you really miss the friendship or the boyfriend. When I broke off my first year long relationship, I drove home wondering why I even did it. For many days after that I wanted the old things back. She was my best friend and we sent all our time together, but it was just time to end it. You have spent a significant amount of time with this person and it takes time to pull away from that bond. I would admit that after 2 months you should start feeling less attached. If not, perhaps you should give it another try with him. As far as dating now, I think it is perfectly fine to compare your past experience to your current attempts. You are comparing everyone now to your old boyfriend. Makes sense that you know you want at least what your past boyfriend had to offer. Trade up, not down.
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