swimchick03

Me and my b/f have been having sex for about a month. The first few times I didnt bleed but then after he popped my cherry, ever since then I have been bleeding during sex. It is not painful and I dont notice it until it gets all over him and me both. I am 15 years old and I am scared I may have cervical cancer b/c that is one of the symptoms. I need to see a doctor but my parents do not know about us having sex. How can I get to a doc w/o them knowing? Should we stop having sex until I know what is wrong w/me? It isnt a STD b/c I am his 2nd sexual partener and the 1st they were both virgins and he is the only guy Ive been with. Please help me as fast as possible! Im scared to death!

He's still telling his friends that we r goin out so they wont ask me out or whatever. Kinda wish he wouldnt do that-since he wasnt that jealous when we were together lol

I did but I guess he didnt believe me He's acting really weird and I dont get why he wont just let it be and let us be friends for a while.

OK, I broke up w/my b/f on Tues. and he seemed ok w/it and he supposedly by the next period had another g/f. I was like, that's cool, cuz we wont be awkward and we can stil be friends. Well, he told his best friend some crap I woulda preferred he kept to his friggin' self but I was like whatever I'll deny it and forget it. His best friend asked me out but then I noticed he was givin me the cold shoulder a few dayz later. I was like, well, I didnt like him anways. Me and my ex had been talkin b/c I still wanna hang with him cuz he's a cool person. Well, he's broke up with his g/f and telling everyone to "mention" to me that he loves me and misses me very badly. But, I dont feel the same way but I dont want to loose him as a friend, ya know? The reason I broke up with him is b/c we never went newhere and he never called me, and if I didnt sit/talk to him, he wouldnt even bother to come over to me. I got really tired of that, so I broke off our 4-mo relationship. He told me that I was beautiful and if I would give him a 3rd chance he would make up for being such a jerk. But I think that if I have to spell out even little things like calling me, the relationship isnt worth it. What should I do? What can I tell him that will let him down easy and why would he say crap about me then decide me cant live w/o me? Is there any way we can just be friends?

Hey, Me and my b/f have been going out for about 3-4 months, and everything was going good, then he got really depressed and said we needed a break. It hurt me REALLY REALLY bad-it felt like I died inside and all that was left was a throbbing pain. Well, it only lasted around 3 days b4 he realized what a Dumba$$ he was and asked me back out. I was like OK but I told him what he did and didnt hold back anything. I wanted him to hurt like he made me hurt. Well, it's about 3 weeks later and all this anger is welled up inside me and I just hate him for how he treated me. I know I still love him, but happy memories of him hurt. The thought of doing him the way he did me makes me feel like Im in charge and Im giving him what he deserves. He's noticed a slight change I guess-he doesnt say I love you as much but I know when I say it back it sounds so fake. I know this is making him feel really bad, and part of me likes it and part of me hates it. I know I love him but it hurts to think that I may let myself get vulnerable again and have him do this to me again. I havent talked to him about how I feel on this, but its really messing up my head and I dont know what to think-Ive never felt this way before. Please help! What's wrong w/me?! What can I do?? -SC03

I think if it makes you happy, then you should definitely not deny yourself of a good relationship and your real identity. I'm not gay myself, but I think this would be best. Also, dont expect everyone to be accepting, b/c there are people out there that if they cant understand it they descriminate it. Also, the only type of gay people that I do mind being around are the ones that force their ways on you-make sure when you come out oyu do not come accross that way-then people will just get angry. I hope that your relationship works out for the best and good luck to you!!! *Love* SC

Hey, OK, me and my b/f have been together about 3 months, and he has some emotional problems but for the most part he is trying to be a better person. He told me he loved me early on in the relationship, and this is the first time anyone had ever told me that and meant it the way he did. But, him and my best friend, Meg, hate each other. He has hit her befor and it really made me angry. (he hit her accross the arm, not the face or nething) She's hit him and finally, one day he hit her back. Well, he apologized for it nd Meg swears its no biggie anymore that its cool. The next day, he told me we needed a break b/c he was too depressed and he loved me, but he didnt want me to worry about him. He was extremely depressed. (that was on Fri) On mon, I saw him and he says "Im better..not as depressed anymore" and I said "I miss you" and he said to please give him more time, but he would understand if I didnt. I was like OK but just let me know when you are ready and I just went off with my buds and tried to have fun. He saw me having fun and he said it made him miss me so bad, and he started hanging with me again. He told my other best friend, Jenah, about how much he missed me and loved me, and she told me the whole thing. Well, she spilled to him the fact that I was gonna have sex with him and of course he was upset that he was so stupid, ect.. I wrote him a note about how it was true and I did love him so much and so on..but I let him know how bad it hurt me that he just broke it off after saying he loved me and stuff, and he hugged me and said he missed me, and we've started going back out. This time around it is way more intense and we are supposedly "in love". I overheard someone ask him if he just got back with me so he could get some, and he was like "nah man, I love her" and he didnt know I was listening. I really want to have sex with him, but Im afraid Ill get pregnant or we might break up, ect. Im 15 years old, btw, and I know yall are thinking I have no clue what love is, ect and you are probably right but I really want us to do this but I want to be safe-what all can I do to protect myself? Should I do this at all? Always, -SC

I dunno how he gets grounded his mom is never there to tell him~she gets his step-dad to tell him but she wont say why he gets grounded. He asks but he doesnt know. He doesnt see his mom cuz she works when he is home from school. Its not fair they dont at least tell him y he got grounded but o well.

Hey everyone, Me and my bf see each other a lot, but we are never alone. Its either at school or w/our friends, and we dont really have any time to kiss or just be alone to talk. It seems like whenever I can go somewhere, he is grounded or has to go to his dad's. I know its not his fault but its frustrating. Any tips on how we can get some time to do "what couples do" and any ideas where we could go? (We r 15) Thanx! --SC03--

OK, First off, me and this guy, Brian, liked each other at the beginning of the year. I found out he liked me since last year, and we have one class together, and our sitting arrangement is: me, Brandon (later on him) and him. Well, I had a party and this dude I thought I was over came to it and we kissed, so I liked him again (his name is Wes) and my feelings for Brian kinda..went away. Well, I always told Brandon and talked to him b/c he was cool and didnt go tell everyone what I told him. Well, Wes never called me and I never saw him again. Brian didnt ever know about that and he still thought I liked him, but I thought he knew I didnt. So Brandon kept asking me if I liked him and I was like, "noo.." and so Brandon told him. Well, me and Brandon started to like each other and I truly like him now. Well, Brian isnt taking this to well, and he made up this whole stupid story about Brandon being expelled about drugs and stuff. I found out it wasnt true and I kept asking him to PLEASE tell me if he was kidding, but he swears he wasnt. I was so mad at him when I found out I couldve killed him. He gets mad at me when I ask where Brandon is, and acts all annoyed. Cant he just be a good sport and deal with it? Him and Brandon are supposed to be FRIENDS, and he makes up some seriously messed up **** that had me worried sick about him, and I think that was way below the belt. What was he thinking? Was that a last resort to try to get me to think Brandon wasnt right for me?? Cant he stand just being my friend??? -SC03

lol no he isnt a player, he's more of the 1 and only type He's ur typical good catholic white boy

Well, ok: My situation: a lil' country school w/some ok guys and about 40 minutes away from my boy Big Intrest: Swimming , Him AND I know he likes me. His Situation: A big school w/pretty girlz and 40 minutes away from me Big intrest: Soccer, not really swimming, but he "likes" it b/c he likes seeing me OK, we have one more time to see each other b/f school starts, and Im wondering if I should A) just go ahead and get away from him, or B) try to keep it going, and maybe get brave and kiss 'em. He might decide to swim year-round, depending on their money situation. What should I do???? Always, Swimchick

my old b/f dumped me on the phone too, but if you think your phone break-up was bad--he had me on speakephone w/all his buddies there (good thing he doesnt have many friends) Well, he told me he "might" want me back too. I, at the time, really liked him so I was hoping..but anyways, to make a long story short, I found someone who really loves me for me, and I realized I never ever ever wanted to go back out w/that pathetic creep again, and my new b/f would never ever do me that way. So, all in all, forget him. Find that special guy who is so much better and will treat you w/respect and love you for you. -Swimchick03

Killing yourself is not the right way to go! No matter how bad your life is now, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. As far as the girls, I dont understand why they would reject you. Maybe its the girls you choose. Hang in there and dont worry about finding a g/f. Just do things you enjoy and be happy, and they will come to you. Hope thus helps you!! -SwimChick03

OK, for any of you who have read my post about my b/f having an internet g/f (here's the link if ur curious.. link removed ) well, I recently asked him about it...and he doesnt have one..he doesnt even have the internet...Why would his friend lie to me about that? I mean, I know he likes me a little, but he told me straight out he never wanted to be in a relationship b/c he always got hurt. So my b/f got kinda mad at Caleb (the friend) and didnt really talk to him. Anyways, my b/f looks a lot different since the last time I saw him, and I know I still like him, but Im confused on what Im feeling, b/c I met 2 other guys while he was away. 1 of them asked me out and I said ok, but now that everything is cleared up, I wonder if I should still go out w/the other guy.. So basically my questions are: Why was Caleb lying when he doesnt like realtionships AND knew Id ask Wes about it , and why I am feeling a lil detached from him even tho there is nothing wrong, and if I should stll go on a date w/the other guy. Thank you! -Swimmie