SilenThunder

How is that a problem... Your cats go with you... If you are not allowed to bring them with you to a friends or something like that... See if someone else will hold them for a while... I'd suggest a kennel but I guess you can't offord that... If someone has a house you could see if the cats could stay in one room only... Then when you or the cats move out you just promise to clean out the cat hair and what not... take care

Uhm I'm very sorry to hear your current situation. About the keys... Give them to the land-lady and tell your roomate you dont want them in the apartment just in case they get stolen. Then just leave it at that. If he wants an explanation just repeat yourself. As for coping with it... There doesn't really seem to be much for you to do other than moving out or talking to your roomate... You've seemed to cover your angles. All you can do is pressure your roomate... Personally, I would find somewhere else to live regardless of my money - I would just find away... No way I'd put up with that crap... Is there anyone else you could live with temporarily? A friend? Family? Thats another option --- I'm sure they would understand. Best Of Luck

Here's the story: Last year I met a girl named Emily. She was new to my school, it was our grade 12 year... grad of course... I had a girlfriend, but I became pretty good friends with Emily over MSN. She was also pregnent at the time with her baby boy. It was accidental, the father wanted nothing to do with the child so she is raising him as a single mom. Emily, admitted at the time she had a huge crush on me... We didn't see eachother often, mostly talked on msn but once in a while we saw eachother in the hallway and said hi. Well I'm single now, I'm past that relationship and I'm moving on with things. Emily has changed her life from something bad to something wonderful, she dedicates herself to her child and I am extremely proud of her for doing that. I have a bit of a crush on her, but I'm keeping my distance because -- she has a 15 month old child. I'm not sure that is something I want to get involved with, that is of course --- if she would want to date me anymore. She says if she meets a guy she doesn't expect him to act as a father for her child or anything of the sort, if the relationship got extremely serious then of course something would be expected. But my thinking is... Dating her I would some kind of obligation to take care of this kid or at least help out... I dont know... I've never known anyone in that kind of situation. Well she is a very sweet girl, who seems to have a great future ahead of her now that she has turned her life around and I dont know, some part of me wants me to be in there with her...? Is that wrong? Is that ok? I'm so scared to commit myself to something and especially as this kid is getting older... If something happens in a relaitonship between us it's suddenly ... where did mommys friend go... or where did daddy go ... if thats how he thinks it... I dont know?! Anyone been in a similar situation that can offer advice or... Guidance as to maybe how I should base my decision? I'm so lost but I have strong feelings for her...

My girlfriend did this to me as well... It came to a point where I told her she doesn't talk to my friends, she doesn't talk to my family and she definitely will never talk to me again... If she continues to contact me I will block her, email, phone number, cell number ect. She made 2 attempts after that, I just repeated myself and hung up... Then she finally got the point, I haven't heard from her since... Seen her a few times but could have cared less...

I think like bobo said, he's keeping his options open... I would be careful with this, dont get your hopes up too high then realise he may have a stronger thing for this other girl... But He does sound interested... So play along, take things slow -- Friendships first - Then relationship...

Cool Thanks... She's so amazing!!!

Background Info... This girl and I have had common friends for the past 5 years. We never were friends ourselves but only saw eachother and maybe exchanged a few words when our friends got together for a group event. We are both 19, we both have broken up with an ex not too long ago. We've both moved on nicely, I have been single for 2 months while she has been single for 1 month maybe a little more. You see where this is going? We started talking, for the first time we had a conversation. We knew nothing of eachother until we had this conversation and I am amazed at what I found out. We are just about the same people... I can not believe that in the years we've known of eachother we have never been close friends like we should have been! Everything we talk about, we have the same opinions, view points, interests and lifestyles... I am simply amazed by this girl... I worried at first it was a rebound but I find myself doing just fine being single and while I am not ready to move on at this moment (neither is she as she has told me) we are both giving eachother so much attention. We plan to go on a camping trip (alone) this summer... We've hung out a few times, this weekend we are getting together. My worry is, does she have an interest in me or is she just being an extremely great friend? I have no problem being her friend in the meantime (it's probably best right now) but I feel if I let her go, if I dont take a chance at having her more intimately in my life I am going to miss out on a wonderful opportunity. Wow, I simply can not get over how amazing she is and what I would give just to know what she thinks of me. That is my problem right now, I dont know what she thinks of me and that last thing I want is to freak her out by explaining how I feel about her. What do I do... Just wait... Dont do anything? Maybe she is waiting for me to make some move? Maybe not? Ah! I dont know! Help! lol

Cool Thanks everyone!

My Girlfriend and I have only had sex once. This past month she started the pill so she is due for her period. She was supposed to get it last night, however, 1 night later (today) she still hasn't gotten it... Do I have any reason to worry she may be pregnant? We stopped not even halfway through because we didn't have a condom and I did not ejaculate in her or on her. But who knows, I just want to know if this is ok?

I talk to my ex about my relationship, she helps me out alot with it too... My ex loves her relationship with that jerk of a guy... Unfortunately I will probably never get back together with her because of it. She knows I regret breaking up with her because I've told her that and she just said "I kinda figured that out" So I dont know, I'm stuck here... I have good moments with my girlfriend but I know we wont last for very long... If we make it 1 year I will be surprised. So i just dont know... Thanks for you advice... Anybody else have any?

My Ex and I have become rather close (not too close) since I have had troubles with my girlfriend. Little Background Info: I Broke up with my ex about 14 Months ago Have been dating my current girlfriend for 8 monthsSince I have had troubles with my girlfriend, I confided in the only person who would talk to me or pay attention to me without freaking out - my ex girlfriend. I felt she understood me and thereforeee could provide good advice based on our past relationship and such. Well, I soon-after realized how much better of a relationship I had with my ex than I do with my current girlfriend. I had it all with my exgirlfriend but I became confused after our 1 year and I had no idea what to do so I broke up with her thinking I didn't love her anymore. It hurt alot, but I figured that was just how it was after a breakup so I just pushed through it. Well, My ex and I have come a long ways since then and now can sit around and have fun, make jokes and such without anything be uncomfortable. The only thing between me and My ex is my best friend who started dating my ex 5 months after I broke up with her... It infuriated me and I expressed that both to them, actually I shouldnt call him my best friend, I denounced our friendship and now he just treats me like garbage wheneve ri see him ... jerk Anyways, aside from that being a problem I feel like my ex never wants to confide in me if she has a problem but as much as I want to be her friend... She never really talks to me about whats going on her life - like good friends do - so what should I do about it? Should I even be friends with my ex? Is that okay to do? I guess my third problem here is my current relationship is crap, I'm constantly getting sick and tired of my girlfriend complaining about everything and always getting stressed out over nothing. We always fight and because we're both so busy we rarely get to have good moments. Because of this, and reflecting on my past I realised I made a huge mistake with breaking up with my ex because It really was probably the happiest thing that ever happened to me and... as much as I want to tell her I want her back and I made a huge mistake, I know I could never and should never say that. We've talked about our breakup and we both came to the conclusion it could have worked out if we both went about it differently and we'd have found ourselves happy here today. But I find myself confused because I feel liek I want her back or... Not even her, I want that relationship back.. I was so happy, everything was great (aside from the breakup) and I dont know, iw ish I could have that with my current girlfriend but my current girlfriend comes from a mentally (not literally) messed up family and that goes about everything in a messed up way. I dont know... I could break up with my girlfriend, but that still leaves me alone and having to find someone else... I can never find a girl to make me as happy as my ex did, and I dont want to feel like i'll regret this the rest of my life... I had what i ever needed, what the hell is wrong with me to have let it go like that? I'm just about 19 year old... I"m not immature, I do my best to approach everything in a mature manner, I realize i will meet other people and life will go on, but I have alot of trouble socializing and it feels like non of my interests match other peoples... My dislikes seems to be within every girl i find, excet my ex... Who was well - perfect with one exception (she was whiney and dependent which I didnt mind too much).... This post is really confusing I think.... But If you can make any sense of any part of it and can throw any advice my way i would very much appreciate it... I know I have life ahead of me, But I want to find myself in a secure relationship in my 20's... Not be single in my 30s... I dunno, I want to be happy is all...

Thank you for your replies...

So the other night I was extremely ill, and I waited all night to talk to my girlfriend but when she finally called (she was busy that evening) she barely talked to me and showed no compassion or gave any attention towards the fact I was in a horrible state and very sick... Afterwards I pointed it out to her and she went on a rampage about how she just isn't good enough for me. How she is just a failure at everything and can't do a single thing right... She said alot more and it went on and on so she left and I haven't talked to her yet... My problem is when we do argue, she always makes the argument about her... She makes everything turn into how horrible she is and she does her best to guilt me into being sorry when really I shouldn't be... My 2 best girl-friends have been pressuring me to break up with her because they think I can do better and they apparently have this friend lined up for me and stuff... But I haven't really listened to them. I'm frustrated with how my girlfriend lashes out when I raise a point that something is bothering me. So, her mother talked to me today and explained to me how her and her husband have been pressuring her about school and such and I should just wait a few days to let her cool down. (her parents are on my side) So I'm just not sure what to do and I feel like I want to break up with her, yet at the same time I dont... Some people are pressuring me to break up with her while others are pressuring me to stay with her and I myself have no idea what I want to do and I'm absolutely frustrated... The last time I hinted that we might break up she again went on a big fit and a huge argument broke out. So I dont know what to do... frustrated...

Thank you for your responses...

She keeps no secrets from me, if I ask her any question she will provide me with an honest answer. So, in a sense I should not worry too much but I guess it is just my nature to worry and be jelous... Thanks for your replies.