michshelly

Hey, My friendships never last. They always die out. I can't work out why. I am always nice and sweet, giving and caring. At the moment i have a female friend and we have been going out dancing for a year. I am feeling annoyed at her but she doesn't know. But i suspect the friendship won't last much longer. We have had these great conversations where we talk about men and which ones we would like in bed and how we want someone special in our lives. But I have heard her tell people how hard up she is for sex and how she is in a drought (of no sex). I used to find this amusing but she is now bringing my name into it and i find it extemely embarrassing. She also is envious of me cause I make more money than her ($10 000) more a year. I feel she rubs this in and I don't like it. She makes comments about how I can afford this and that and she can't. I feel that she is jealous too cause I'm also much more attractive that her. I am 38 and she is 33. It has been annoying me now for a couple of weeks and I can't sleep well because of it. I thought about telling her but am afraid I may end up abusing her and then the friendship would most probably be over. Also, i look at other people in my life (like sisters, work associates) and they have a heap of friends and yet I don't. What is wrong with me??? I am that way now that I don't trust everyone and people don't really care about it. Man, I'm starting to feel that I'm going nuts. All I want in life is to be happy and have a wonderful relationship with a man and have friends. I don't feel I am asking much at all and yet these things get further and further away from me. Can anyone help me please? Also, does anyone have any good affirmatins for keeping friends, loving, caring friends in my life. Thanks so much, I really would appreciate some replys? bye

Hi, I have a lot to say, but I will try to make it compact. Rejection: Their reason is irrelevant. Your reaction is what's important. Consider this: If you are constantly getting rejected by potential partners, think of it as an opportunity to look at the vibes that you are sending out to other people. Are they anger, sarcasm, insensitivity etc etc? If we are sending out positive vibes, as a general rule we get positive vibes in return. If you are always getting rejected, it is a signal that you have some work to do on yourself. What is important is that you see it as AN OPPORTUNITY FOR GROWTH, NOT AS A FLAW FOR WHICH TO CRITICIZE YOURSELF. Do you what you enjoy doing and the dates and friends will follow. Speak kindly to yourself, praise yourself, love yourself. words and advice from Susan Jeffers, 'Dare to connect'.

Hi, If this is you (and it's me) most of the time. I've got a poem that you say as a positive affirmation. It is by a woman called Louise Hay. Here it is: In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. My unique creative talents and abilities flow through me and are expressed in deeply satisying ways. There are people out there who are always looking for my services. I am always in demand and can pick and choose what I want to do. I earn good money doing what satisfies me. My work is a joy and a pleasure. All is well in my world. I have started saying this recently and believe things will come out of it. I discovered this woman and her book, 'You can heal your life'. Her other poems and affirmations that i say fairly regularly come to me when I find life and its situations difficult. They are really heaven sent and give you a peaceful encouraging frame of mind. One more line from another poem: I am constanly increasing my conscious awareness of abundance, and this reflects in a constantly increasing income. My good comes from everywhere and everyone. All is well in my world.

I say tell you friend and explain your feelings to him and tell him how you have delayed your willingness to enter this relationship with his ex. I don't think he will care and if he did, he is not very nice. He does not own that girl and has no right to claim he does if they both agreed to the split. Good luck.

Join a group that does something you enjoy. If you like tennis, join a tennis group etc. If your frightened, swallow your fear and to it. I've had to do this. I came to a new town and had to go out and meet people. Sure, it's scary but you sure become a stronger person and you believe in yourself too. Also, I've read a few lines from a book called, "Dare to Connect" by Susan Jeffers. Do you reach out to people for the sake of yourself or to help and care for the less fortunate than yourself? If you reach out for yourself and hope that somebody can 'FIX' your low self-esteem, loneliness etc then you will never get it. Noone cane fix our problems - only ourselves. ' If you reach out to help others this is great cause it will make you feel better in yourself and happier. It is doing the other person a favour and creating love in this world. You'll will find other people there as well and you can socialize with them. How about getting that book and reading it!!!!! All the best

Hi, I have a poem that you say to yourself as an affirmation. It may help you. I know that they help me. They author is Louise Hay. Maybe you should read some of her books about your problem. I have heaps of problems and I work on them and very slowly things are getting better. So I hope that will be the case for you. Here is part of the poem, that may help you: In the infinity of life where I am All is perfect, whole and complete. The past has no power over me because I am willing to learn and to change. I see the past as necessary to bring me to where I am today I am thrilled to be in the middle of this adventure, for I know that I will never go through this particular experience again. I am willing to set myself free All is well in my world. They sound a bit corny at first, but believe me when you say these affirmations over they come at times when you are stressed. The book I got it from is called, "You can Heal your life" Good luck

Hmnn, It's a hard one. I think it is all up to him. He is taking on a lot if he does go back to you. I think let him make his mind up. Goodluck

Hello, What I have to say may come accross as immature but I have to get things off my chest. I am in my mid 30's and am not in a relationship. I've never ever been in love and don't think anyone has been with me. I doubt if even some of the guys I have been out with have like me very much at all. Tonight i was reading a web page about how to catch men. One of the things it said was to make sure you didn't have bad breath, body odour etc. Well I smoke and feel a horrible taste in my mouth so I guess i do get bad breath. But what I'm wondering is does a bad breath really turn a guy off. I can't think if any of the guys I've been with have had a bad breath. My mother says that no one is perfect. Also, i see couples together and they smoke or one of them does. Surely they must get bad breath but yet they have a partner and they are in love. What is it? Is it the bad breath possibly or is it that I just haven't found my soul mate? Could someone please advise me? Thanks.