Knctrnl22

There are some cases where somebody isn't into sex as much as the other person and sometimes people change and want it more and more. It sounds like you have tried a few approaches I think talking to her about it might help the situation a lot at least you can come to some sort of an agreement. On the other hand you could talk about different kinds of sex that she might be willing to experiment with or perhaps she doesn't want to have any kind of sex at all. That is not an easy task to kick up her sex drive and I wish you good luck.

sometimes it takes a while of pain in order to grow as a person just because we feel pain one day doesn't mean that the next wont be better. I really helps if you give yourself time to learn about yourself perhaps talk to others couselors, friends, etc. I don't know your age but depending on the activities you like to do you should try doing something constructive with you time and hopefully that will make you feel better. Sometimes we think that alcohol or other substances will help ease the pain in moderation they are good but once we abuse them then that doesn't help either. I know you didn't say anything about that but just in case. I know you say you have an anger problem but I think that you should find a way to be stronger and not give up and keep going until the end atleast you will know that you tried and you didn't give up. One day your son or wife might need you you never know what the future holds unless you live it and if you prepare and make good decisions things will most likely get better.

This is going to seem very bad but its the truth I have a signifant other in my life but I can't help but think about having sex with other women. I do not think about other women as to wanting a relationship with them. It happens to me when I give in to looking at women out in the street, I was doing really good when I would just not even look but lately its out of controll. I am not saying that I would go out there and cheat because I wouldn't like it if it happened to me. I want some advice perhaps from people that are married or have a signifant other in their life. any advice would be appreciated

I don't know why I care so much about what others think of me. I don't know why I am such a perfectionist with myself? Is it common are there people that just don't care about the world around them and would like to share a story? I worry too much about not being able to make it to class on certain days and about failing at work and impressing my girlfriend I guess my mind in just thinking pessemistic thoughts because my rought weekend triggered it. I am happy sometimes but for some reason now I am just sad and pessemistic. I don't like it I wish I never had to have worries or negative thoughts about my future I need to think good thought. I wonder if there is anyone who has managed to find some way to think positively most of the time and someone who doesn't care about what others think and could share their story. Thanks Knctrnl22

I have to tell u that from experience if you stay friends with this guy your past will allows haunt you but if you start fresh then you will have a better life.

Sheyda I never thought that a person could be confident and then loose their confidence because they were bullied. Hopefully your confidence is still somewhere inside you. Hopefully you are comfortable with who you are and thanks for your advice. Knctrnl22

I have a problem with what I say Sometimes I feel that I talk way too much and say stuipid things I think I shouldn't worry about what others think so much. I don't know why I do? I just need to control my impulses a little more? I say whatever is on my mind sometimes and it leaves people guessing or I say things just to answer. I guess I am just wondering a lot about why people speak in certain ways some people are quiet and only speak when necessary others are in the middle and some speak way too much I think that I speak all over the place I don't have a set way but most think that I am normal I guess.

I don't think she is being completely honest with me that is what I think. I know she knows what happens if you put a ring on that finger because she does it when she doesn't want other guys to hit on her. I think she just thought that I was going to leave the ring there. I would really like to but not right now I haven't decided that yet To me we are still getting to know each other Like I said I told her today " I am only going to put a ring on that finger when I am married" she said "that is your choice" what does that mean? thanks for your help lynch you are wonderful

no problem good work

the relationship is going good and we have been together for three months we have a lot of things in common and I like her personality.

I am 23 and my girl is 19 About two nights ago I was sitting on the couch with her watching a movie and I was taking off one of her rings on her thumb. After I took off the ring on her thumb she put it on the left hand on the fourth finger. Later that night I went to bed and was going to take the ring off because I usually don't wear one and she didn't like that she got a little upset. When I took the ring off all that she said to me was that she wanted me to keep it on and that she thought I was going to take it off the next day. I didn't uderstand what the big deal was to her, then I went to work the next day and I got a lot of dumb comments about it and was told that she was trying to cut off my circulation or in other words make sure everybody new I was taken. Later that night I went to go visit her and she noticed that I switched hands on the ring and was upset I told her that I had gotten a lot of comments so that is why I swithed. I told her what people thought about it and she got mad and said that it wasn't like that she just simply didnt want me to take it off because she never took it off. To me it is a big deal because I feel that I let her down in a way because of what other people think. I told her that I wasn't going to wear the ring where she put it because I think that a guy should wear a ring there when he is Married. She replied with "this is turning into a huge deal" I haven't commented on that all day because I do want this to blow over but I don't know how to deal with it because I should have just told her from the beginning I also told her last night that I was going to put it back where she had originally put it but this morning I changed my mind and told her what I truly felt and that is that a guy should only wear a ring there when he is married. Having trouble understanding this situation and help would be appreciated I know it might not be anything to take seriously but I do.

Thanks yorkrose I just needed a good start, later!

I don't know what to call it sometimes but to me it seems like I get down sometimes, bored and just don't know what to talk about. I don't understand how my girlfriend can call me all the time and always have things to talk about. I guess I just don't have that much to talk about sometimes. I don't know if it is normal for me to not want to give her a call because I know that there isn't much to talk about, so what is the point. I was wondering if someone could explain to me why I am not that good at finding things to talk about and she seems to have no problem.

This is the way that I see it, I think that you should just tough it out and wait and that when your current boy returns it will be well worth it. It is unfair that your current boy is out there on the line with terrorists and you are only thinking about yourself. Nomatter what he says I'm sure that he would want you to write to him frequently and wait for him. The time will pass and you would have wished that you would have waited for him. The decisions that you make today will decide the future. For every action there is a reaction- I hope u get what I am saying and think about things carefully and take the time to do so.

All u have to do is think about who you want to be or what you want to be like and be like that. I use to not like my voice and then I just figured that I was going to act the way I want to truly be. I hope this makes sense to u later. p.s. the other option is to just accept who u really are. Later