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People who act this way don’t go into the friend column. Former friends, maybe, but that’s all. They are giving you space to grow, so move on from them. Your time with them is ended and it’s time for you to move on to better and more beneficial relationships.

The feeling isn’t mutual. Accept it and let it go for your own well being and self respect. Holding on to it is just self inflicted torture. Don’t do that to yourself.

Follow your gut. If you’re not comfortable with the way things are going, then you’re not. Don’t get stuck in your head or get overly invested. Keep your options open.

Know yourself, accept yourself, know what you want and listen to that and don’t listen to anybody else. You steer the ship that is your destiny. Stop letting other people take the wheel.

I’m sorry you’re in this pain. Life has pain in store for all of us. It also has joy and pleasure. Life is an illusion inside of a paradox. Even a so called long life is over in a flash in the span of eternity, but we all go through it. I recommend the next thing you do is find help from people who can help you navigate this journey we are all on together. It’s just a ride. You only get to do it once and some beautiful things will come from it along with the painful things. Take the ride. Love to you.

Nice work, congratulations! Enjoy! 😎 🧑‍✈️

It’s sounds like you’re both in agreement that he’s currently unavailable, so I wouldn’t spend more time turning it over in your mind, it doesn’t really matter at this point. Just move on. If he calls you in the future and you’re still interested, great. If not, then life goes on.

As I said, I have no interest in pursuing it. It’s weird at best and borderline creepy at worst. I’m done with online dating altogether. It’s been an unpleasant experience.

A friend of mine who I told about this called it emotional incest. Doesn’t sound too far off to me. Online dating sucks, lol. I was doing it for about three years and all I found were people who were broken, lonely, didn’t know what they wanted, or some combination thereof. I had stopped logging in unless I got a notification. I’m not even going to do that anymore. One of my subscriptions lapsed last month and the other one will do the same next month. I’m done.

It’s kind of a rhetorical question, because I already know what my answer is, and it’s a yes. But I’m curious to see what other people’s opinions (not reactions) might be about it. I recently met this woman online and we went out twice. She seems to have what appears to me to possibly be an unhealthy attachment to her 18 year old son who lives with her. On a recent phone conversation, she told me that her and her son both have locks on their bedroom doors and they each have a key to each other’s room, in addition to their own. She told me that the other night, her son came into her room and wanted to sleep in her bed with her, and she allowed it. She said the next day she asked him why he did that and if anything was wrong and she said his reply was, “no, I just wanted to be near you and to hug you.” I found this to be a bit chilling. Especially when I add it to the fact that I work on weekends, and I’m willing to go out to meet her, but she can’t meet me during the week because she has to be home to cook and clean for her son. Super weird. I’m not going any further with this one. Just wondering what anyone else thinks. I’ve never heard anything like this before.

Digitally is the way people have seem to communicate by and large these days and it is isolating and insulating, imo. The art of communication and socializing in general is degrading because of it. Maybe people will wake up to it and start changing their habits. Or maybe not. Time will tell.

Sounds like you’re highly incompatible. Don’t waste your time. Thank her and move on.

Who knows? No point in analyzing it. An app is just an app. You have to take it at face value and not read anything into it. Otherwise, you can make yourself crazy. She was interested, now she’s not. If she’s interested again, she’ll reach out again. If and when that happens, you can decide if you’re still interested at that time. Don’t torture yourself. Just move on.

…because you’re comparing her to your ex…

You say your interest level is high and you want to impress, so be a gentleman and pick up the tab. It’s not complicated. Don’t overthink it.