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  1. Relationship Coach, I know there are lots of books on time managenet. But go through my post again-- Hence pls give me an advice right here. If I plan to read the book, the plan may even not materialize.
  2. Can anyone give me some suggestions regarding an efficient time management, particularly, when you have a rigorous and regular outdoor work requiring you to halt outstation for almost 20-25 days in a month and requiring you to do all the household work single-handedly? After all these, I hardly find any time and energy to concentrate in anything else other than some occasional binge and movies. But I am feverishly falling short of accomplishing any hobby like reading good books or cultivating newspaper stories and articles. This is giving me a depressing headache all the time.
  3. I was diagnosed with Anorexia and my doc told me I lack calcium. That will eventually lead me to bone related problem when I'll be old and have andro-pause. He prescribed me some calcium pills blended with vitamin-B complex. But I had to discontinue it as I went through unbearable side effects caused by this vitamin factor. Oral vitamin pills never suit me as I lose appetite, have constipation and acidity and the sense of taste goes down. The doc says I have no other option but to tolerate these side-effects but I must consume vitamin and calcium pills. Can anyone suggest me any solution to mitigate these side effects?
  4. Some days ago, I was surfing through the pages of the Oxford Dictionary. Suddenly, my eyes stuck upon a word, "Soliloquy". That means "Talking to oneself". This word is perfectly applicable to me. I do talk to myself. I know everyone does it sometimes or others. But I find myself doing it repeatedly, time and again and from my childhood. The habit is increasing with rising age. I always murmur or whisper while talking to myself. Most of the time, I do it unconsciously, even, in presense of other people, without sensing that I am at all doing it. A number of times my friends laughed out loud noticing me murmuring in this way . Even strangers e.g. my co-passengers in a bus or train, pedestrians in roads give me a strange look noticing me doing this . This is so embarrassing but I can't help it.
  5. U r right. The sticky sweets are harmful 4 yr teeth. But r nt d chocolates sticky? There is a possibility that After eating chocolates, sediment of chocolates may get accumulated inside the teeth. This will cause either tooth decay or bacteria formation inside teeth. Well, darkblue , chewing gum is a good idea.
  6. I love eating chocolates so much that I can rob a bank to buy it or kill for it. But whenever I feel the urge to take it, I hesitate to eat it ultimately. Because it is not possible for me to brush my teeth every time after taking chocolates. But everybody suggests that chocolates are very harmful for teeth and if you don't brush your teeth after eating chocolates, your teeth will decay. Hence though I feel the strong urge to eat it, the idea of tooth decay scares me off so much that I cancel the idea of eating chocolates. But this suppression of the urge is frustrating my soul and making me feel like I am missing some very important and interesting thing in my life. Can any one suggest what can I do to eat chocolates?
  7. I am 29/M and I feel I am suffering from Social Anxiety Disorder. Though I haven't consulted any psychotherapist but I feel that may be I am suffering from it because it has gone beyond my control. The main symptoms I have noticed in myself are as follows: Whenever I understand that I'll have to be in a social situation of informal type 1. I get nervous. 2. I loose sleep from a couple of days before the scheduled date. 3. I loose normal appetite. 4. I get a stomach upset. I get flatulence, loose motion & repeated urge for toilet. 5. I loose concentration and my daily work schedule is hampered. 6. I try my best to find excuses to avoid attending the invitation. When I arrive at the place I do the following: 1. I keep a low profile to avoid attention. 2. I talk either less or talk decent but rude words so that people avoid talking to me. 3. I sweat profoundly while having informal talks to people. 4. I find excuses to leave the place early. 5. Social situations makes me mentally tired very easily so much that my fatigue becomes visible. The following things happen when I have to meet a girl: 1. The mere thought of interacting with a gal makes me nervous and makes me sweat like hell with a stomach upset. 2. I loose sleep, appetite and concentration. 3. If I have to meet any gal for professional reason, I try my best to make the meeting short and to-the-point. 4. I try my best to avoid informal interaction with gals. 5. I avoid going to those places where there are a group of gals e.g. shops, streets, rooms, railway compartments etc. 6. If I have to sit next to a gal in a public place, I pretend to read something or to sleep so that she doesn't get any opportunity to talk to me. 7. I smoke and use slang languages so that gals prefer to keep distance from me. 8. I avoid making eye contact with gals as much as possible. 9. I try my best to avoid being a part of any team having one or more young female members. 10. I pretend to ignore the presense of any gal nearby so that neither she has to talk to me nor I have to talk to her. Even if I look at any beautiful gal, I do it tactfully so that either she doesn't realize it or she feels that it was a casual look. It is not that I enjoy doing the above things but it is a psychological obligation. The social situation and interaction with gals make me so stressed that I do the above to avoid stress. Currently I am leading a lonely life because of these but I can't help it. I just can't tolerate the stress. I can't afford to be a object of fun after being dumped by anyone. I don't have that level of mental strength.
  8. I am a 28 years old guy. I am 5'11" and 150lb with a lean body, not much macho. I prefer short haircut, clean shaved face. I wear spectacles. I have a tall face. The problem is my face looks much younger, than my actual age, particularly when I am cleanly shaved and with a trimmed hair. I need to look matured. I prefer to look matured. So please suggest me some steps regarding this. I have noticed that my looks improve if I don't shave for 2-3 days at a stretch. But thereafter it looks ugly. If anyone can come out with any more ideas, I will be thankful.
  9. Well, you may be right. yes, there are some problems which are affecting me psychologically. But almost everyone faces such problems. The problems are related to my workplace where the environment is full of tension and stress and that is mainly because of some dirty office politics. Other problems are related to everyday life. So these are not something which are extraordinary ones. Everyone faces these problem nowadays. In fact, I tend to get tensed over petty and everyday matters very easly. That may be the reason for the problem. But I am unale to find any solution.
  10. I am 28/M. I am currently having serious concentration and memory problem. When I am reading something I am being unable to concentrate and lots of other things are coming in my mind at a time. Hence either I am unable to remember what I am reading or I have to read that time and again, which is, very much, time wasting. This is also leading to performance lapse at my workplace. Another problem which is quite general for me is that I am unable to remember numerical figures whether they are related to my work or not. I am also unable remember names a number of times. Can anyone suggest any remedy? Nemo
  11. A couple of days ago someone asked me whether W. Somerset Maugham wrote any poetry in his life. I was not sure. Can anybody reply?
  12. Thanx 2 all of u who replied to my post. The problem was something which I was not able 2 discuss with anyone. I particularly appreciate the postings of "thePuma" and "hazlcha". Both of u reasonably wanted to know about my socio-cultural background. Well, let me tell u that my society and culture strongly rejects feminine characteristics in males. Though, things r changing in higher classes of urban metros but in general, my society doesn't accept this. Hence my womanliness will continue 2 b a closed door affair unless I become a rebel and agree 2 leave the mainstream society. Now Mr. thePuma, I also fit in the second group. I enjoy 2 feel the way a woman feels about something but I don't want to be a woman. The gorgeousness of women's grace, attitude and posture tempts me 2 feel and act like them. But I don't agree with ravens_folly. Even I hve a female partner, I'll continue 2 feel in this way. Presense of a female partner may make me feel it in a better way though I'll take care not to tell her about it. Thanx 2 muneca also who, along with others has suggested that there is nothing wrong in it. From now on I'll b able to enjoy the feeling without any feeling of guilt or inferiority complex.
  13. I am going through a very strange problem. I am a 27 years old male. But I feel that there is a hidden feminine side in me. This feminine self is usually dormant but sometime it wants to come out particularly when I am alone. Truly speaking, at that time I really want to nurture it. Then I just want to act like a female e.g. to walk, speak, sit like female. Even several times I acted like I am in bed with a man. But in front of others this side of mine is strictly dormant and in practice, I'll never like to act as women. Please advise, is it wrong to nurture my feminine self even in loneliness. Sometimes I feel guilty for it and suppress my feminine-self even when I am alone. But this only leads to frustration. If it is not wrong, then please advise me so that I can nurture it in a better way.
  14. I am 27/M. The problem is I hve moobs which are both physically and emotionally uncomfortable. They always result self consciousness, and low self esteem. I cannot bare chest in front of others, cannot go for swim and cannot wear T-shirt or tight shirts. I was suggested lyposuction and plastic surgery but I want to keep the treatment secret. If I go for lyposuction and plastic surgery I will not be able to keep it a hush-hush. Moreover plastic surgery is also very expensive. Pls suggest what should I do to get rid of this problem.. Nemo
  15. hi Derek u hve mentioned that avg penis size is 5-7". My penis is 4" long. Will I be able to satishfy women? I think the avg girth is less than 4".
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