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  1. chocos
    I totally agree with princess... and i guess i healed pretty fast for a past relationship that scarred me pretty badly... sometimes, we can be in self denial but i guess we all need to just spend that quiet solitary moment to step back and think again...
  2. chocos
    well.... time for an update... as far as i can remember.... we are not friends... he said he was too guilty to be friends... well i do dream of him sometimes... but i am glad that the worst is over... i miss him, i think about him.. but it isn't that hurting like before.. in fact, never really hurt now anymore.. But... ya, still tear when i talk about him.. still tear and long for him... and yes... i am glad that i took the time off to mourn... but somehow or rather.. can't seem to accept anyone else in my life still...
  3. chocos
    Just a question, if it is because of a third party what happens?
  4. chocos
    Just another thing... do you have feelings for this person? afterall, having sex with someone is not a game for some. Sometimes, it just gives you an emotional attachment that you cannot get rid of. But i do agree that you should talk to him about it. But i do know how difficult it can get.. Wishing you all the best. Take care and pm me if you need to talk
  5. chocos
    Yes sher, i agree with you.. what comes around goes around. He has been rather mean to do that to someone he said he loved Just a question to people out there... how do you know when he really means it when he says he loves you?
  6. chocos
    well, for me, he told me he needed a break (time out) and then ceased all communication. My bet would be not to contact him at all. Why? because by him avoiding all your calls and messages etc, clearly shows that he doesn't want to talk, and even if you message or call him 100 times, he wouldn't bother. In fact, he might just feel so irritated that it might just as well push him further and further away from you. I did that and somehow i pushed him away. So i have learnt and am sharing it with you. Give him the space he needs now. Let him take a breather and space to think things through if he wants to. Let him be. When he is ready, he will call you or contact you. But do remember, do not be too optimistic. Just occupy with friends and things so that you wouldn't call him. PM me if you want to talk.. okie? take care
  7. chocos
    he loved her. He said he didn't as a defense. That is what most people say. "Oh well, i left that relationship because i wasn't really happy and i didn't really love her" - this sounds all too familiar. I really don't know if it is immaturity or something else. But i really do hope that adeius, you would learn to know what it takes to be alone sometimes. Find out yourself what you really want and not take the influence of others. Find out what is it that makes you go round.
  8. chocos
    You know, sabena, the exact same thing happened to me a month ago. the exact same thing. And i really wondered how it was like to really love someone when all you want for that person is happiness, even if you are not part of it. He did the exact same thing to me, and soon after called it off. I was devastated. Until i found out that he had found someone else. And that girl had actually encouraged him to leave me. I really wondered how he could abandon everything. Like you, we had some quarrels, and i guess he just didn't let go. He still bore the grudges in him, even though he could still look at me and tell me he loved me. Well.. it still hurts and i know how hurtful it can be. I admire you for your courage of letting go, letting him have his space to think and bear the hurt of the fear of losing him all by yourself. I feel so silly, i wish him all the best with that girl. and i would stand there forever, if forever's what it takes because he was my forever and forever always waits. I still love him, i know he would never turn back, i wish him all the best and nothing else more.
  9. chocos
    PM means to private message him And no, i have not read the book before.
  10. chocos
    yes it is normal. me too. I love him still after a month he cheated on me and broke up with me.
  11. chocos
    Hi afterd I support in your decision to not let go. But you must understand that the final and ultimate decision of going through all these is hers. Whether you have another chance or not, really depends on her now. I admire your courage to admit that you were wrong to leave her. I really do. The most important thing in life is to be able to see your mistakes and learn from them. I wish you the best and do keep us posted!!!
  12. chocos
    Just a guess, You didn't buy any ring for your ex of 3 years because you took her for granted. You didn't buy her one because you thought that she would always be there for you You didn't really love her though you told her you did, just so that you could cheat her into having sex with you, with no strings attached. Maybe not in such a bad light, but you did so because you were not sure. even so, after a week or so you were so sure about the new girl. Worse still, you were just using her as a training ground and making use of her for 3 years. Just a guess...
  13. chocos
    I know what you mean. I know that people have been telling me... But i don't know why deep within me, i don't hate him. I wish i could, but i can't. I still love him and still care for him. Must be very silly of me, but i really don't know why.
  14. chocos
    Hi... Honestly speaking, it is a traumatic experience to share some most intimate moments with someone so trusted. and when she got pregnant, you ran away when she needed you most. What can i say? It is already a traumatic experience to share intimate moments with someone you loved with your heart and soul and only to realise with that person telling you that he was never happy and did not love you in the first place. Let alone, you running away. I am sorry, but i really cannot see the point. If you really think she is the one, these are the things that you really have to put up with. Not because she has become like that, but because the heartache you caused her made her to be like that. She wanted a beautiful future with you, but you just ran away. The trauma of that and the trauma of the heartache and pain can never be described. It can heal, but it would never be the same. It can forgive, but it would never forget.
  15. chocos
    Yes, i am exactly like you. I wondered, but i didn't do it. He left me, for some other chick who told him that he wouldn't be happy with me. I still love him and care for him. But i do it from a distance. I do it through people i know who would not betray my trust. I am letting go and recovering, but i would never be the same person again
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