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  1. Okay, first of all I was out like normal friday. Then this big guy, mind you, I'm 5'4, 125 lbs and this guy is like 6'0, 300 lbs at least tries to trip me in the bar. Well, I'm not a punk. So I turn and stare at the dude. He comes pounding up to me and starts talking junk. Well, I didn't back down cuz that's my style. After a while he starts acting like he's my friend. I guess he gained respect for me for not backing down or whatever. But I don't care cuz I don't even know the dude. But it's sad that he has to pick on the smallest person in the club who is about a quarter of his size. He may have knocked me out with one punch but it wouldn't mean anything cuz of the the size difference. Wow he' such an awesome person for woopin' on someone smalller than him. But whatever... Anyway, the main concern is that my buddy and i went out on the floor to dance, this was later. And i got behind a blonde chick and he was behind a brunette. Well, the brunette is kind of this leader chick. I've seen her out befor with other girls and they just follow her around. Well, she saw me dancing with this girl, looked at me, shook her head, and pulled her away from me. I'm like "what? are you serious?" And this brunette has flirted with me before. A few months ago. But now my confidence is shot. I figured i'd give it try and see what happens. i've never been good in bars or clubs. And normally I don't put meaning to stuff like that. But I don't even know what to do anymore. It's sick. Yes, i look like i'im 16 even though i'm 23 (in fact, i got carded twice), yes 'im smaller than the average person. So is this my fate? Like i said I don't know what to do anymore. I want to change this so bad. And I know most of you who will give advice will say not to care what they think. And that's true. But when it happens ALL the time, you can't help but believe it.
  2. There's some information out there that can help you. Go to a search engine and type in David DeAngelo and see what the search yields. Also you can type in "David DeAngelo: Approaching women and starting conversations"...There is a lot of info on the site but for the in-depth stuff, you have to pay for it. There's no secret to the approach. Say whatever you want just do it with confidence. Make sure she doesn't doubt you. You can even offend her a little, just make sure it's funny and not rude. And yes that's possible. lol
  3. Never tell a girl you have feelings for her until she does. It's too risky. If she does have the same feelings, it's fine. But if not, you'll blow it. She's already attracted to you or she wouldn't be going out on a 2nd date; and you don't want to blow it by seeming 'needy' or too much of a 'feelings' guy too soon. Opposites attract and most women act on emotions. And men act more on rationality. Just play it cool man, it will work out.
  4. I know this is short but I LOVE lesbians and I think every straight guy will agree with me on this one. lol
  5. No sweetie, it's not about being a jerk. you can display confidence without being a jerk. But what I'm saying is that most women get freaked out if the guy gets attached too fast. I'm saying just play it cool and if something happens then it happens but not to stress about it. If he worries about getting into a relationship everytime he talks to a woman, he will become stressed everytime and become figity and nervous looking. And you, being a woman, know that you can pick that up immediately and it will make you not trust the guy. He just needs to be confident and comfortable. And he needs to be a jerk sometimes. Not all the time, but sometimes. If he's nice all the time he'll come off as a 'nice guy' which is horrible. Those guys give into everything and never stand their ground. Also, here's something i do. When i first meet someone, i say something off the wall. It sounds kinda mean but when said right, and with a sly smile, it works wonders and people, not just women, love it. For example, the other day I was sitting talking to this woman and another woman came up and was like "Can I sit with you two?" and I said "no" with a serious face. She looked at me and when she did, I cracked a sly smile and she laughed and said "Well, i'm sitting with you anyway" all sassy. lol it was funny and she knew i was just being a jerk but in a fun way. I find doing stuff like that is the easy way to break the ice and help the person get comfortable with you; show them your sense of humor.
  6. Because u need to break away ASAP and I'll tell you why... NEVER tell a woman you love her before she does. NEVER NEVER NEVER!...now lucky for you, i have a solution. Tell her when you said you loved her, you meant it. But that you are not IN LOVE with her. But you love in the sense that if something bad ever happened to her, you'd be extemely pissed. Only say that if you want to save face. Now by breaking away (and do this slowly, don't just stop talking to her like some jerk), it will make her realize her true feelings for you. If she misses you, then she'll pursue you. But if you're around all the time, it's not a good thing. Have you notice how different people act when they haven't seen a good friend in a while versus seeing them every day? Much more exciting... Also, by breaking away, you show her that u are ur own person and u don't need her. This is also an attractive feature. When it comes to women dude, u have to be counter intuitive. Do stuff that doesn't make sense. Women are more emotionally lead and we are more cognitively lead which is why we can't totally figure them out. Hope this helps.
  7. I went to the comedy club the other night and if you've ever been to a comedy club, you know that they talk about sex almost exclusively. Well, this guy made some comment about 'not getting any' or something like that. Well, I had two female friends with me and one has a boyfriend who was also there. Well, after this comment, both of the women looked at me and one even made a joke about it like they assume that I haven't been getting any lately. Well, have the comedians were done, one of my female friends and I had a conversation that somehow inevidently came to me. Well, she pretty much said that i'ma confident guy and that the only problem with me is that I don't make moves or something along those lines. Well, I do make moves just not on her. I like her, she can tell I like her, she flirts like hell a lot of the time. But we've already been through this. But is there a hidden meaning behind her telling me this? Also, just for a little background, I like this same girl A LOT about a year and a half ago. And she found out and didn't want anything to do with me. I was the typical nice guy and she said she didn't want to hurt me. But the problem lies in the fact that she flirted with me all time and would hold my hand and lay on me, etc... Well, since then i've changed who I am. I act more confidently, I don't watch what I say around her, but I just can't bring myself to make a move on her because of the previous rejection. Well, now she's even more into it with the flirting. She holds my hand and kisses it, and kisses my neck sometimes and my cheek, and everytime I talk to her she brings up why she wouldn't sleep with me; like i asked her or something...lol And she talks about her exes a lot which is also a major turn off. I guess my second question is is she just playing with me again or does she actually sound intersted now? Like I said, she's doing the flirting thing again, holding my hand, and hugging on me when we walk and she even brought up the fact that I never opened the car door for her (which I've never done before, so I'm kinda getting used to it) Oh...just so you know, she's really been doing this stuff ever since I told her I was interested in this other chick. What gives? lol
  8. Dude, it's all about you. This is going to be harsh, just bare with me. The message you wrote makes me think you are a wussy. People say that you shouldn't change yourself and that's BS! If you want something you have to change yourself. If you want a career, what do you do? You go to college, get a degree, hang out with different people and ultimately change your entire life. why is this important? Because if you want a woman you have to change yourself to be able to talk to them. Online personals are also a dumb idea to meet women. They are, however, good for practice on what to say to them. You need to NOT CARE what the outcome is...let yourself go. Say whatever you want around the woman even if it offends her. And if it does offend her, depending on the extent of her offense, you can chose to appologize or laugh at her for getting offended. And once you get to the point where you don't care whether you meet someone or not, then that's when you meet them. It's weird. Women are attracted to one thing (for the most part). And that one thing is confidence or lack of insecurity. Like I said before you can say or do whatever you want just as long as you do it with confidence. Watch the movie 'Hitch' and look how bad Will Smith messed up in that movie on his first date with Eva Mendez. And what did she say about it? "He failed miserably "but he did it with flare""...with flare dude! Flare = Confidence. In other words, work on yourself first. A good thing to do is just talk to EVERY woman you see without wanting something in return. Don't ask for numbers or put yourself in a position that puts pressure on you. And you can't be asking questions "why can't i get a g/f?", "how come no girl is attracted to me?" etc....That's so unattractive. You'll scare a woman off so fast it will make ur head spin if you even show the slightest inclination that you don't believe in yourself or that hints to those questions. You need to just not care. Do what you do... if you need more info, pm me, i can give you a ton of information that will help you. But I hope this reply helped some how.
  9. First of all, I'd just like to say that the term 'dating' is used way too loosely. To me, 'dating' a person means you are going out on actually dates but are not together per se. However, I more often than not hear people say "they are dating" or "we are dating" as being 'together'. But I digress...There is this girl, C, that i've been liking since the first day I saw her. I think she originally had a boyfriend but now she's single. I made a point that I was going to get this girl; which I've never done before. It was actually kind of funny because she started flirting with me first. She works at the same place I do but not in the same department, in fact I hardly ever see her there unless I make a point to. And she would be walking in and then suddenly drop her keys or something like that when she knew I was behind her. So we started talking and we've been out twice. Just after work we'd go out for a drink or two. Well, on our second date, which was last thursday, I leaned in to kiss her. She put her head down and smiled. And I go "What?" and she says "I'm just being shy." Well, I just took that as an invitation to try to kiss her again. lol Well, she did it again. She put her head down and this time she kind of giggled. So I go "What?" with a smile. She's like "Don't take it personally." And I'm like "Don't take it personally? What? You don't like me like that?" And she replies "It's not like that. Don't take it personally." And she said something about it being too soon. And I didn't want to press the issue so I said "Oh ok. Normally though, if a man leans in to kiss a woman and she doesn't kiss him, it means she doesn't like him." (Actually, I'm not real sure where the 'it's too soon' comment came. I was too caught up in the momment. lol)...So after my latest comment she goes "fine!" And grabs my shirt and pulls herself to me and pretty much sucks my face off. I'm thinking 'woa! I just wanted a soft sensual kiss and here she is sucking the lips off my face after she rejected me twice' lol But anyway, she's already mentioned she like to take it slow. But I've never done that before so it's just weird to me. I saw her yesterday for a few minutes but other than that, I haven't talked to her much since last thursday. She was supposed to go out with me to a Comedy Club saturday night but she had to baby-sit. I guess I'm just looking for some encouragement and if this seems like a natural progression? Like I said, I've never really done the whole 'dating' thing. It was always, meet, talk, go home, yeah..., and then we were together. lol But I really like her so I don't care how long it take I just don't want to get to the point where we start drifting apart because we are taking it TOO slow. Any words of encouragement or advice on what to do next as far as progressing the relationship but not pressuring her to take it too far too fast for her part?
  10. Well, the reason why I say they are different is because THEY say they are different lol...S, the girl from above, said in her country and most Latin countries, the people are just different and here in America we like our 'space' but it's not like that where they are from.
  11. I'm a white american male and I have this thing for Latina women. I don't know what it is, they just fascinate me. But it's hard to figure them out. For example, I met this one girl, we'll call her S. Well S...she's a total hottie. She has a beautiful face, awesome voice, amazing eyes and very nice body. And she's cool too. I feel as if I can say whatever I want to her and she won't get offended; or if she does, she'll let me know or just give it back to me. I call it playful antagonizing. lol It's fun. Anyway, I digress...She would flirt with me, tell me how 'cute' I was, hold my hand, hang out and just all kinds of stuff that one would consider flirting. But then I find out she only liked me as a friend. And i'm just like "ok..." Because American women usually aren't like that. They won't do stuff like that with a guy unless she likes him. Well, I just started talking to this other Latina girl, We'll call her C. C is also gorgeous, sweet, beautiful voice; i love her accent. Well, she doesn't really do all that other stuff but the other day we went out to eat before work and somehow the conversation came to why we had never talked before. And she goes "You were always with S". And i'm like "No...You were always with Z" Z is some guy she used to talk to all the time at work. And she didn't really reply to that. But she did mention, before hand actually, that she wished he'd quit asking her out. So I took that opportunity to ask her out and she's said yes every time. But other than our dinner date, she'd not answer her phone and then say that she was sleeping and that it would take her an hour to get ready... Well, she then proceeded, after we ate, to ask me out to a club. Well, I'm not much of a clubber, and I told her that before. And she goes "See, I'm asking you out and you're saying no." And then she said something like I'm playing hard to get. I know this is really long and I hope someone reads it tells me what they think. Because these latina women are so hard to figure out.
  12. lol...here's an idea. Go play put put golf...first dates should be fun and give you guys a chance to talk and get to know eachother outside of your usual interactions. I personally like to go walk on the beach during sunset, or go to a park, put put golf is fun, or even and this will sound dorky, go to a wal mart or a toy store and just play around. It's about enjoying your time with the person and having fun.
  13. He is being who he is. Just before he didn't have the confidence to be who he is so he was hiding his personality. He was afraid what others would think of him.
  14. Don't ever go to a movie or out to eat on a first date! Some people are uncomfortable in an eating scenario and movies you can't talk.
  15. If a guy is shy and doesn't say what is on his mind and a woman senses this *which women are really good at this lol* and doesn't have attraction for him. Then there is n/c for a while. And when she talks to him, he's totally different. Says whatever he wants, even if it will offend her without worrying about it. Just pretty much being himself and not caring what others think of him. Can that cause her to have attraction for him? Or is it once the guy is in the woman's "friends" category, then that's it!?!
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