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  1. thelonelydoll
    spaced - there will be some bad days like this, as NC is difficult for most people, especially in the beginning. But by 30 days, you should feel so much better. See Knightm's post above yours. Stay strong - you have all the time in the world to "talk things through again" later on.
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    ^^ Congrats Andy - knew you'd make it this time!
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    Whether it's him or the memory of him matters not - you have a shared past, and now you're starting up something altogether new after all this time. It sounds really fun - enjoy it!
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    Cindersam: I "dumped" him, but the issue was forced by his alcoholism; I knew he wouldn't get sober unless I let him hit bottom and get help on his own - and my mental health was suffering from it too. That was in mid-March. I sent a text in mid-April to see if he was ok. He replied, but I resumed NC until I got to a point where I felt healed enough to forgive myself as well as him, and about ten days ago, I answered the phone and we talked about a lot of things in a very clear-headed way. He knows he wants me in his life and doesn't want to lose me, and for me it's like getting to know a new person. So we're enjoying one another, but are going about this very carefully and rationally. There are no firm plans, but he might meet me in Croatia next month to go rock climbing. Whether or not we see each other, we have a chance to build a positive, healthy relationship as long as we don't rush things and keep our eyes wide open.
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    ^^ Hey, Knightm, you're doing really well!
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    It's a slight possibility in my life right now, contact has been re-established and a brand new friendship with a completely different way of communicating with each other. Most importantly, I have reconnected with myself, and he is forging a relationship with himself that he has never had. And that's where the love is coming from. What we have is rather undefined at the moment, but we both know that we do love each other - made possible only by loving ourselves.
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    That's the spirit! I lost my hair from chemotherapy a few years ago - it all fell out very quickly, in maybe two days - but I actually loved being bald. And of course, some important style icons have also had alopecea - Princess Caroline being the most glamorous example. Whatever age we are, we have to love ourselves above all!
  8. thelonelydoll
    Sorry about your auto-immune disorder - but I am happy that eventually you moved on and made it through such a hard time!
  9. thelonelydoll
    Well, I'm not a rule maker, but even if you don't talk about the ex, you are still indirectly staying in her life when you stay in the lives of family members. I would suggest you disappear from the ex's life entirely.
  10. thelonelydoll
    Yeah, the phone stuff seems fine. When any issue regarding the phone comes up again, you'll likely be so healed that you'll switch it over to your own name or not be bothered in the slightest. For now, done and dusted. It's really time to move on now - just in time for summer, andy!
  11. thelonelydoll
    Yes, Rosie007, you are the gold medalist in the NC Olympics! You are a rock and you rock. Congratulations on getting to 90 days!
  12. thelonelydoll
    Today is his birthday. I'm off to a spa appointment.
  13. thelonelydoll
    ^^ Go You! Definitely take the one day at a time approach - like most of us, you're addicted.
  14. thelonelydoll
    No, his birthday will go unacknowledged by me. I was originally going to send a parcel with all of our photos and mementos and the gifts he gave me. But I decided instead to throw it all out. Thanks for thinking I'm doing well - I'm doing just okay, really. Repeated efforts at contact from his end have been tests of my strength and commitment to NC, and then I just feel kinda hard and cold for a bit. Andy, some things are made easier by the fact that there's an Ocean between us, so meeting up would require flying. Why don't you try to beat your own NC record and see what happens then? sandyv - I hope he doesn't knock on your door, either!
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    Day I Don't Know - not counting I had my phone off for the last 24 hours, and in that time, the ex left me voicemail and sent a text asking if we could talk. According to the voicemail, he's off working for the next three weeks, so things should be peaceful for that time. His birthday is Wednesday. Wonder how he'll do - he really has nobody aside from his parents and brother. Oh well. I've got a spa day planned. I do wish he'd stop trying to contact me, though. It still throws me a little. Maybe he'll stop trying after this 3-week period....
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