julsiebear

The boy I loved was halfway accross the world, and he had traveled to a beach. He drank water all day, and when he had enough, he peed my name in the sand. Then he took a picture and mailed it to me. Couldn't have asked for a more romantic letter. Whoa. That's frikkin' beautiful!

I have to agree with Eva, communication is key! You've got to tell him what you need, even if you don't tell him you've been faking. If he's not letting you help yourself while he's with you, you've got to let him know that you want to try it. I'm sure he'll be alright with it as long as you explain that it makes you feel good! If you're not comfortable telling him these things, you are probably up for a long, hard road ahead.....

I've only done it to the end once - and it was so salty, it burned my throat! I felt like it was hard to get down too, because it was so sticky. Spitting doesn't have to be bad, as long as you're discreet about it. He'll probably be so exhausted or blissful at that point that he won't notice anyway. Good luck!

Your post seemed to imply that you liked being spanked, but I'm wondering if there are many female spankers out there (those who enjoy doling out spanks, as opposed to/as well as receiving them).

Any women out there who like to DO the spanking?

I feel for you, jdalpino, I'm in a similar situation, and it's taken me a year to think this through. If you're an affectionate person, and long to allow yourself to be, I don't think it's healthy for you to have to supress it. You shouldn't have to surpress anything about yourself - this is who you are! It's unfortunate that he is not affectionate, and it doesn't make him wrong, but from your testimony it seems that it doesn't feel right to you, either. The "roomate" explanation may be true, but it sounds a little manipulative, if you ask me. He's got the upper hand in this situation, does he not? I think you've got to approach him, directly and truthfully, about how this affects you. Let him know that, despite his reasons, this is hurting you. If he is unwilling to compromise, as you have already been doing, then I think you should seriously consider moving on. How successful can this kind of relationship be in the future? There may be nobody at fault here, but that doesn't change the fact that your needs are incompatible with his.

Just out of curiosity... how does one deal with sex during menstruation? Does one simply abstain for one week every month? Or is it a bloody mess? Do you need towels? Can the blood be enjoyable? Does it make things easier? Thanks! Just wondering!!