Sheeps

A few questions... Do you think if your partner looks at porn (and hides it) knowing you DO NOT LIKE IT is a form of cheating? Do you think hiding your friendship with someone(No matter how innocent) is cheating? Answer: No and No (provided innocent). Dont sweat the small stuff in life. Make the most of the relationship and celebrate having a small life to look after - congratulations on the birth of your child

I think there's an American thing going on here - I see absolutely nothing wrong with a girl kissing a girl - its expected in the pubs here ;-) how ridiculous that he should react - i love the idea of being "even" as kissing a bloke. Fab idea.

The huge positive that you can take is that she has chosen YOU. You've jointly decided to save the relationship - she could have made a different choice. Build on that choice and positive feeling. I know it will be hard but the trust has to be rebuilt. Good luck.

Unforutnately I work with her we're in the same management team its tough isnt it - but thanks for swift response

Im married with three children. Im towards the end of an affair with a single woman colleague who we have both fallen deeply with each other. We have jointly decided to end it - but neither of us really want to. She wants more but doesnt want me to leave three kids (which I would never do); she feels enormous guilt (as do I) and we both know its unsustainable. The challenge is how to really move on - we're still texting - we're still very much in love and its still very very difficult. Any views/ insights appreciated.