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Hi, I've been having this pain, its not really that bad but just annoying and slightly there on and off. Its around probably my waist line to the left of my belly button. Its kind of like a pulse wen it hurts, not a constant pain. I realize it mostly when I'm sitting down. I was just wondering if anyone out there knows what that could be. If I keep gettin it I'll go to the doctor but I'm just curious cuz my bf said it could be an ulcer but I dont believe him, cuz he knows just about as much as I do about medical stuff, and thats not much. I hate doctors so I was just looking for some idea before I absolutely have to go.

Hi, recently I've noticed a lot of things are changing with a good friend of mine. We've been best friends for almost 4 years now. But lately I can't stand being around her. She thinks shes the center of the universe, and every guy is looking at her and wants to get with her. She got her first kiss this year, shes 19, and now all she talks about is hooking up with guys and wanting to have sex and all that. Ive had a couple serious relationships and I havent told her nearly all the things that have gone on with my boyfriends, thats more private to me. I dont know how to handle her actions anymore though, I can't stand being put down by her all the time. We will go to the mall or out somewhere and she'll tell me every guy that walks by is looking at her. I can never express my feelings to her like my other friends, cuz she turns the subject to herself. Or if she does listen i can tell shes frustrated so i just let it go and talk about her. I just need to vent really about the things that drive me crazy the most. Having some feedback and some suggestions on how to handle her would be really helpful! Lately I havent told her nething thats going on in my life. I met a new guy and Ive been dating him since before Christmas and we are getting pretty serious, but I cant tell her because she always seems to pick them apart and try to break us up. And she thinks everything should revolve around hooking up with guys and God forbid I actually care for this guy and want to have a lasting relationship revolved around feelings instead of the physical side alone. She came on vacation with my family and all week long she talked about my parents and my older brother, saying how annoying or boring they are. She told one of her good friends who is dating my brother that she was going to hook up with my brother on vacation just to make the girl scared and jealous. ( My brother has no interest in her whatsoever, and she was completely head over heels for him for two years straight. ) She constantly calls herself a * * * *, a homewrecker, easy,..shes obsessed with being mean to people and breaking up relationships to give herself some sort of a high. She thinks shes better than everyone else because shes in school to be a nurse and thinks shes going to be making 50 dollars and hour when she gets out of college in 3 years.....and thinks the money makes her a better person. Shes only been in nursing school a year and acts liek shes been a brain surgeon for 50. Recently Ive just been thinking back on the times before I met her. I had so many friends in my life. A group of friends that I had so much fun with all the time, but when I started beign friends with her I changed also for a couple years and they all didnt want to deal with me. i regret that more than anyhting in my life, and I went back to being my old self thankfully, btu i will never have those friends again. She liek to cause conflict wherever she goes and stir trouble so everyone thinks shes tough and in charge. I like to act more classy and not draw attention to myself, but if someone forgot to give her a penny in her change she would cause a scene and want the manager right away. She tells me all the time hwo much more mature the two of us are than everyone we went to school with and who we are friends with now. And I just see her backtracking to high school, where how popular you were really mattered. Just mainly Im so sick of how everything revolves around guys. She will flirt with any guy she sees. If they have a girlfriend or are married thats even better to her. Not to be mean but all my guy friends dont even think shes that pretty, she just has a really really big ego. And since she does she puts me down all the time for it, Im chubby and i like it....but i dont need to hear it everyday, or hear how short I am...im 5'6 thats not really short for a girl, shes just really tall. Im just venting.....should I try to deal with it and see if she changes? Completey ignore her so I dont blow up someday and makes things worse? Or try to talk to her about it ( which will just make her extremely mad and defensive and start a huge fight ) ?

Hi, I've been dating my boyfriend for awhile now and I am completely in love with him. We used to fight alot and broke up twice over it but always got back together. We havent fought in a long time and we have been better than ever. Well recently its changed to a long distance relationship, and neither of us can find a way to be together. He's stuck there on work and cant quit because he will lose everything. I'm here in school with 7 months left so i obviously am not going to leave either, because this has been my dream my whole life. Tonite he called and said he's sick of being alone. He's sick of not being able to kiss, hug, hold hands, hold eachother, etc.. Basically he told me he can't wait 7 months till Im done with school, he's too lonely. He says hes 25 years old and needs to start a life. My heart is completely broken. I didn't know where else to turn but here, because I can't turn to him, he's against waiting for me. He says he loves me more than anything, and he was crying on the phone, but he just needs to start a family. I told him it was a little unrealistic that in 7 months he will find someone whos going to marry him right away and start a family, and that if he waited for me I would leave everything to be with him. But I cant leave school now, because its my dream and I need a job to fall back on in life I dont like being supported by someone else. I need help getting over this, I believe him this time that it is over. I just dont know how to handle this. I'm a complete mess tonite and it feels as if my heart was broken into a million pieces, because it happened so suddenly and unexpected. I dont know how but please someone say anything that will make me feel better, im tryin not to take my sleeping pills tonite just to forget this...because I dont want to rely on them like i used to. Thanks in advance for any help that anyone can give.

Hi everyone. I am seeing this guy who has a 4 year old daughter. She is beautiful and the center of his world. That is why I feel horrible about my "problem." The thing is, tomorrow my guy and his ex, are taking their daughter to the beach for the day together. I understand it's very important for them all to be together for the sake of their daughter. But I am still jealous and nervous. His ex was the one he wanted to marry, then she cheated on him. I've only been his gf for a few months. I care about him so much, and all I keep thinking is that him and his ex will want to work things out. Whenever he talked about their relationship, he said it was awesome and he loved her more than anything. I feel like I am being so selfish, because the little girl deserves to have both her parents together for the day with her. I am so excited for her to have that day, but I am so jealous and so nervous that I will somehow lose my boyfriend. What should I do to get my mind off of losing him?

Im 19

Yeah he called me a bunch of times on Sunday and I was at the beach. Then yesterday I started thinking about things and thats when I really started feeling bad about the whole thing. I talked to him online and he told me I had to do better the next time, because I didn't do my best at giving him oral. Thats when I got mad. Then he asked me when I was going over his house next, and i said I dont kno...because I didnt know what to say to him at the time. Then he said I was too shy ( which Ive always been aware of and wish I could change ). That made me cry lol, and we havent talked which we usually did everyday before. Even tho its only 2 days.

Hey everyone, this past Saturday night i went over my friend Jon's house. In an earlier post I explained how I had met him online. We were very close for a few months, and I finally decided I'd meet him. He had been bugging me and bugging me, and I felt like a liar because I had turned him down a few times before and not showed up. Well I finally went. When i first got their we had a couple cigarettes and drank a little. Then we went inside and watched some tv. He started to kiss me and we made out for awhile. Then when we stopped kissing I noticed his penis was out and he asked me if I wanted to give him oral sex. I said I didn't because I was nervous and scared, since it was the first time I had met him. He kept saying, "yes u do". So i layed there with my head on his shoulder and still he kept asking me if I wanted to. Finally he just put my head down there on him and he used his hand to keep my head on him. After a couple minutes I got him to stop and told him I didn't want to do this, and he told me I had nothign to be nervous about. So at points, I would just take over because I didnt like him pushing my mouth so far down on him because I couldnt breath, but other times he made me. Then as we were laying there he kept trying to put his hands under my skirt. Im a shy person and I didnt want him doing that, I convinced him that I would do it if he wouldn't put his hands there. But it wasnt enough for him, and he kept asking me if he could put a condom on and just have a little fun. He didn't end up doing that though, I kept telling him I wouldn't let him. So all in all I ended up giving him oral sex 2 times. I feel disgusting about it now. He used me so bad. I feel like trash. I cant talk about it to my friends because they will be mad I even met this guy. Hes older than me, about 7 years older. The hard part is that recently Ive been consumed with the thought of having broken up with my boyfriend, so I was just enjoying kissing him at first. I liked him alot before we met. Now I cant get the guilt out of my mind for doing what I did. I know he made me, but I still didnt get up and leave. i could have tried harder to leave I guess. I just can't believe I did what I did. How can I forget what happened? For the past 3 days I cant get it out of my mind.

Ooo his new thing...he just called me again. He goes.."Do u want me to rape you, to have sex with you even when you say no?" ...I think i just got my answer if I'm going to go see him or not.

Hi, long story short....I met this guy online about 3 months ago, and have been talking to him on the phone for about 2 months. He's always asking me to go over his house, and when I say no he gets all mad and wont let me get off the phone. So finally last weekend I said I would go over this Friday if he would stop asking me. This morning he called me and I told him I was scared he wouldn't like me, because with his personality he seems like he could get anyone he wants. I expected him to say he didn't care what I looked like, all he said was "Ive seen your pictures and I like them, but how about you go get a webcam and I will tell you if I like you or not. If I do then you can come over tomorrow, if not you don't have to." Should I be mad about that? It seems to me that all he wants is sex and oral sex from me, thats all he talks about. Also he lied about his age to me at first. Which I know a lot of people do online, but he still hasn't ever really told me his real age. I found out myself because he put it on one of his webpages and forgot. He told me he was 23 at first, then on the phone i surprised him adn asked him he said 25. And on his webpage it says 27. And I am 19. I dont know what to do. Any advice is helpful. Thankyou.

Long story made short. I met this guy online and we started talking on the phone after awhile. He lives about an hour away from me and has been asking me to spend some time with him. Trusting him isn't the problem, the problem is now I really don't want anything to do with a relationship with him. I like him alot, and he says he likes me too. I was talking to him and when we were hanging up I could have sworn he said I love you. Which is way too fast for me. I want to be single right now, because I have been through a lot lately. I want to know how to tell him we shouldn't meet just because if we meet I kno i will fall more for him. I dont want to hurt him or drag this out more, I just wnat to end it and take all the blame myself. Even if it means he goes away upset with me, I wouldnt enjoy that but I dont want him to think I'm doing this because of him. What should I tell him?

Hi, Ive like my friend Tim since last summer. My friends thought at one point that we were going to get together, and I thought the same thing. It was very evident that he liked me, and I had told him that I liked him. Then we stopped talkin for awhile, I dont really know why. But now, things are back to the way they were before. We flirt like crazy all the time. Recently we were jokin about me giving him oral,and it got into a whole long conversation. Well I told him I would give him oral and he said that he would also like to do things with me. Do you think he likes me or just wants some. I dont want him to think of me just as a friend with benefits, Id like to go out with him.

I have two guys in my life and I dont know what to do because I like them both. The first guy is my boyfriend, who lives accross the country adn I have never met. We have been on and off for almost a year and i love him, but its hard to not see someone or to have never met him. Plus he has 2 children and would never be able to move here and I dont ever see myself moving there. The second guy is the one who lives here and who I also like ALOT. He has told me that if I break up with my boyfriend that he would love to go out with me. Im so confused because I love my boyfriend and dont want to hurt him, but me and the new guy seem to be more compatable and at least have some long term potential. In a way I want to break up with my boyfriend because then he will also be able to be happy with someone closer to him, even tho I hate to think of him with anyone else. I just dont know how to go about doing it, because I know anyway i break it off with him is going to hurt him. Also he holds grudges and may never talk ot me again. How do I tell him that I need a break, but that I still want to keep in touch because I honestly dont know how I would live without him even as my friend. I dont want him to resent me adn never talk to me again. Is there anything I can do? And by the way, he knows about the other guy and he asks why he calls me and spends time with me, and I shrug it off, even though I feel terrible when I do.

Hey, I'm back with my boyfriend that I broke up with for cheating on me. Tonite he called and we were talking and he said, "by the way Im not going to be able to call you after work tomoro night because Im going to the strip club and its going to be so much fun." ANd then he said, "are you mad?" and i said no and gave him an attitude, so he knows i was mad. Then he said he had to get back to work and he would call me tonite. Should I be mad? Is it ok for guys to go to a strip club when they have a gf? I dont kno if Im wrong in getting mad.

Hi, I got back together with my ex boyfriend last night very unexpectedly. Theres no problem with that, Im so happy. the problem is this guy online. He is 30 years old and im 19. At first I didnt know his age and I just talked to him because he was really cool and funny, and fun to tlak to. Well he has become very obsessed with me to the point where when Im not talking to him he says he misses me like crazy. I didnt see ne harm in talking to him, but now im scared. He has asked to come see me and I said i dont feel comfortable so he said that was fine and he wouldnt ask again. But he DOES, he asks all the time. I have to say that I was part to blame, after I broke up with my bf i was very vulnerable and liked that he was into me. I now think that i led him on, because he was SERIOUS about everything. There have been 2 times where I flat out told him i wouldn' t be interested and nothing would ever come out of this, and he has left me alone for a couple days. Then i go online to find messages that say he doesnt care if nothing happens he just needs to talk to me, then after awhile hes syaing he loves me again. I HATE hurting peoples feeligns, so i dont kno what to say to him. I have thought of just changing my screennames and disappearing all together, but then i think what if he tracks me down? He works with computers and has told me it can be done if the right person knows how to do it. Should i instead make myself seem so mean and gross to him that HE just stops too? My ex, which is now my bf again is going to tell me that HE wants to talk to him. My bf has a very bad temper when it comes to stuff like that, and he HATES that guys talk to me. Which is one reason we broke up but tahts another story. What do u all think I should do? Im scared and im nervous, and now that i have a bf i dont want to even talk to this guy because its not fair to my bf to have some guy saying I love you to me. I just brushed it off adn dealt with it before, now i dont want it. Thanks for ur help, I know I was a fool to allow him to talk to me, but now I just need to get rid of him.

He knows Im not easy.....but ne ways ok ill think about my "mental block"....it seems many people are very very opinionated and if you dont agree with them, then they jump all over you. From reading everyones responses I realized teh guys that each keeps talking about, is not like my friend at all. He's not like that , so I'll probly just take that from there. Thanks