desert_rose26

I'm 26 and a virgin..and I'm darn proud of it. hehe. I'm a traditional girl...and I believe in saving myself for one guy who will love me enough to marry me. my co-workers asked me what if I don't ever find that guy would I remain a virgin forever? my answer would be I have no choice but to...I would never sleep with anyone who is not my husband. I can't even imagine. And yeah..people get surprised...when they find out..but oh well..

this thread is very useful for me too! learned so much by reading already!

I forgot to follow up on this post. Turned out that he wasn't mad or avoiding me at all! ha. I forgot it was a Saturday over there. He later told me when I called, he heard the phone ring but rolled over and slept. It was around 7am. LOL...I was pretty embarrassed that I got so worked up for nothing. lol,.

Oh, I completely AGREE! I've said some stupid stuff too just to fill the pauses. But now I am learning to be confortable and not immediately putt off by it.

Me, same problem, am trying to join one of those city interest meetup groups.

staying on the phone until she fell asleep? OMFG. sorry. but it sounds really stupid. I'm not surprised you didn't want to call her anymore. Who'd want to? She was selfish to take up THAT much of your time just for herself. She should've thought about YOU more. But, you should've told her early on that you didn't feel comfortable doing it any longer because you get bored. She should've understood it.

LDR's suck. But I'm in one because he's worth it.

hm, anyone here who doesn't celebrate anniversaries? I just think it should be more appropriate and realistic for married couples. Of course I'm just "rambling" here.

hm..I also believe that it IS the manly thing to do to visit a girl first. I'm in a similar situation right now. Fortunately, he doesn't mind coming to visit me first. I just explained, I would visit you but I wouldn't feel really comfortable doing so first. I'm lucky he's able to do it. (I feel extra uncomfortable because I've NEVER travelled bymyself before.) so, have you decided?

yes, tell someone and find out the location for emergency purposes. Right now, the most important thing is her safety. You are a very caring friend.

You could start building a loving relationship with yourself now. A quote I got from a friend "It's only after you've lost everything that you are free to do anything".

Yes, you must try it at least once. I've used it several times and it definitely helps to feel closer to him and also to some point lets you see the details of the person..how they act, facial expression, etc. You might also find out something you don't like. I honestly can't think of any cons of using the webcam to learn more about a person you haven't met. The above suggestions are good but I agree that some people are better with this sorta stuff than others. There is nothing to lose when it comes to actually seeing the person when you're chatting. Also, I have to tell you from experience, if you haven't met the person before and are worried about having chemistry in person, the webcam actually helped too. I actually felt the chemistry there! wow. Now we are going to be meeting soon, and it reassures me that we at least will have some chemistry if not a lot. I should also add that my experience is slightly different because we had a long period of time until we would be meeting (different countries). If you are doing "online dating" which I'm NOT, of course saving the first impression for first date should be good enough!

wow, that's really unfortunate! sorry to hear that. I was wondering one thing: is it a popular thing for bf/gf to celebrate yearly annivesaries?? Isn't that a bit pointless?! I thought only married couple have anniveraries!

..or..find out only when it's too late? For example, the idea of not knowing how much a person means to you until you've lost them? Just wanted to hear your opinions. Has anyone experienced it?

5% in love, 45% in lust, 30% accuracy, 18% doubt, 2% tired