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Just my opinion, he is happy with his new girl, and just wants to keep his options open, just in case. If he cheats on his girl, then he is no prize, if he remains faithful to her, then you lost a great guy due to you "pushing him away", if he never trusts you again, i wouldnt blame him. after all everything was "progressing" until you just happened to see a new kid. I think he is lucky.

have you made a commitment with your net partner? have you declared anything to one another? if so, than distance is not a factor. You see, it really doesnt matter if he is one block or 1000 miles away, love is a feeling inside, and yes Internet romance can be and is just as real as person to person. The internet is just a communications tool thats it, a long time ago, people would fall in love by letters or messengers! sometimes months to get a reply from a person never met!, then came telephone, and then the net. its just a means to find a person and cover more area. after you make contact, it can have all the problems then "regular" dating. the only disadvantage of course is the distance part. dont get me wrong though, i know the importance of physical contact, and if your cyberdating someone and not planning on meeting or eventually being together, than its not gonna work, Let me put it this way, the net is very useful in finding a good match and partner in your life, Id say better than in person. but the net is very bad at keeping the relationship going, so. , Search, Find, get to know each other, decide, then get together.

Hello BRY Hey you came to the right place! I , like many others know exactly what your going through, and its not easy at all, it was very very tough on me, and in a way still have difficulties in accepting that it could have come to this. No matter who is at fault, or if you kinda knew it was coming to this, breakups, are hard! especially when you have shared that much of your life with them, they are a part of you, and you of them. Dont fight the feelings your feeling though, its all part of the healing process that you do need to go through, anger, sorrow, sadness, and fear, these come and go throughout the healing. to help get through all this, make plenty changes, get rid of stuff that reminds you of her, pictures, stuff she bought etc. re-arrrange the furniture, get a new hair style, go to a city or place you have never been to. hide all the music you listened to while with her, get some new CDs, paint the bedrooms a different color, do something you always wanted to do but couldnt before. change your cologne, by new clothes. etc. go see some silly comedy movies (non romantic). Doing all this stuff really helps.

Hello QTpie If you get depressed for no reason at all, or little things get you really depressed, I think your doctors advice is probably best. get a second opinion though. As for the feelings of insecurity with your b/f, its a "what came first the chicken or the egg" situation, your depression makes you feel insecure, and that insecurity also is depressing. There could be other issues here, but only a professional would really be able to bring those out, because as you said your not sure why you feel this way. take care!

Its not at all odd, anger is a self defense mechanism, its actually easier to keep then sorrow, sadness, and guilt. My ex also is angry with me, lol the weird thing is she was the one that broke up with me and was the abusive one, i never did anything wrong, but finding something anything to hold agaisnt you is better than feeling guilty etc. I assume she is still in your life somehow, maybe children? if not, id try and find a way to distance myself from her if you can. I mean if she really is interfering in your life, and you dont have children , ask her to let up, if not, i would really consider getting a restraining orer against her. Think, if the tables were turned, you dont think she would do this to you? BTW, my ex wife was also a Lawyer, but we are still friends.

hello Jose You cant expect everyone to like you, its sad but true, in a way you had it easy, at least you found out from the start that it wasnt going to work, The ones that hurt really bad are these girls that dont really care for you but string you along, use you to build their self confidence and egos, and then dump you like yesterdays trash once they have it back. Its not just girls, guys do it too. Count your lucky stars you didnt waste more time with this girl, you need the attitude that she just not the one for you, its not about getting the girl at any cost, its about getting the "right" girl. This girl wasnt right for you, Its a numbers game, you will find the right one soon enough, just be yourself always! so that when she does appear, she will recognize you as the one for her!

Hello Aloneforever I do agree, about long distance relationships that go on "long term" the whole idea is to Find that person, I have no problems relocating to any part of the planet, money, and possesions mean little to me if you dont have someone to share them with. Maybe Iam an Idealist, but still believe that nothing is more important than Health, and Love, the rest is all vanity and creature comforts. So Internet is great for "finding" not good for maintaining, i totally agree, there has to be physical experiences to go along with all this eventually.

Hello Dyinginside You truly are going through a terrible period in life, these are the times when you need to reach down deep inside you for every once of strength. Your husband is standing beside you in these difficult times, dont betray the man please, dont have the attitude that you have nothing to lose, Id give all the money and every possession in the world to have a partner that would stick with me in these times. There is something that can bring you both through all this, and that is the love you have for each other. dont think about what you dont have, think of the precious thing you do. Dont risk losing that, to a fling that will not resolve anything and only make it worse. My best wishes go out to you and have faith, be strong, think of this as a test, a challange, you will get through it, sometimes you have to weather the storm to see the rainbow.

I believe Cyber-dating or finding your mate through the internet is a very good way to find your partner in life. There are many reasons for this, First off you can be more selective, because of the fact that you can make so many contacts over a period of time, you can invest interest and time to the ones that fall within the attributes your looking for. Second; No need to pretend to be somebody else. Ok let me give you an example, There is this girl(or guy) you like, you take her out, no matter how much you want to just be yourself, we all "adapt" a little, first off we dont want to sound too contradictive or confrontive. we try to impress her and feel the pressure to make it work at all costs. Third; In physical dating, you feel awkward and a little uncomfortable just saying no more, i mean, you take the girl out, and realize she is very sweet and kind and she likes you a lot, but she is just not what you expected, ok now what do you do? you tell her hey your not my type, a little uncomfortable to say that to a persons face. Cyber-dating is a bit different, because its not the same kind of dating your just chatting, as friends, "testing the waters" if shes not what you were expecting or hoping for, you just dont take it further than just chatting over daily events, no one gets their Egos bruised or feels guilty. (for the most part). Forth, Cyber-romantics communicate more, they are people that are interested in more than just a physical relationship, they communicate their thoughts and feelings in words. Fifth, youll be able to meet people that under normal circumstances would have a hard time finding, again an example, Me for instance, I dont Club, or do bars, and not interested in having a girl that frequents these places all the time, I mean. my perfect partner, is probably the girl that lives a block away from me, that ill never meet because her lifestyle like mine doesnt take them to places where most people meet. Cyber-dating automatically filters out those that are less patient and serious, todaymost people want instant gratification, they want fast food, fast cars, and they want a "perfect" relationship now! if any little inconvinience comes along, they dump their partners and look for the next "perfect" guy/gal and try again, seems no one wants to put much effort into a relationship nowdays, cyber-daters are patient people, they know that if they do find their match, distance is an obstacle, but its that obstacle that separates those that will put effort into a relationship from those that are more likely to breakup at any little sign of difficulty. cyber-dating or finding a loved one on the net is not perfect, people can and do still lie, you still have to be careful as in physical dating with those that are just looking for company, or to satisfy their egos, they could be on the rebound and just want to feel good about themselfs and try to win over some hearts. But for the most part, it wont take long for you to find out where their heart is and what their real intentions are. after all, my whole purpose of cyber-dating/chatting is to find that special someone to love and have in my life forever. others may just be looking for just "chat". I have had only two online romances, one about 5 years ago, the first didnt work out, but nothing to do with distance or anything. the latest one, well not sure on the verdict, its still pending, but doesnt look good, a case of rebound on her part. she needs her "space" and "time" to think, we have all heard that one, so you know what my chances are, but then iam a hopless romantic, and maybe she will think, and realize that forward not backwards is the way to go. but thats a whole other story.