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Okay a small update. I sent her a message saying that I love her and want to work on our problems when I get back, but basically told her that I'm not going to put up with this happening again. Then about 5 hours later, she messaged me back saying that she's at her friend's house and wanted to phone me but can't because the music is too loud and other people are around. I messaged her back saying it's okay and asked her how come she's there (this friend lives about a 20 minute car journey away), and she just didn't reply. Now I know something doesn't add up, because there is no way she can't check her phone after something this big for 5 hours. She's at this friend's house for some bizarre reason (they're not that good friends). Either a) She's gone to a party and didn't tell me or b) She's at a different friend's house, lied about going for a meal with her family and she's with a guy. I really hate myself for thinking that, especially after the really sweet and heartfelt message she sent. But things are just too suspicious for my liking. I'm going away later on today, but I hate the feeling that she may be in someone else's bed right now, cuddling up to them like she did with me.

She just sent me a text. "im so sorry about today. but can we forget i was stupid and be together? i cant stand knowing could never be with you again. take me back? im goin the pub with dad now, so just txt me please. you mean so much to me. your the only person in the world who makes me insanely happy...and i just got really scared, i know you won't hurt me, and im so sorry i hurt you. : ( love you loads you n00b xxxxx" Right, I don't know how to reply to that without sounding weak. Any advice? Also...my trust with her has shaken a little too. Will that pass?

She assures me that theres no one else and she joked that she's going to spend the 2 weeks while I'm away just practising games so she can kick my * * *. I really don't know. I'm positive she loves me, and I knew she'd freak out eventually, but I feel so powerless. She really did pick her moment to drop this on me. I want to be with her so badly, but how am I to know that if we get back together its not going to happen? I trust her...but I can't rely on her anymore.

Well today was the last day I was going to see my girlfriend before I went away to Austria for 2 weeks. I was looking forward to seeing her after not seeing her for a few days. Didn't have anything planned, we were just going to hang out for a bit, watch some movies, eat pizza, have sex etc etc. Anyway, we were together in my room, just hugging. She was really quiet and something was not quite right. I asked her and she said it was nothing and started to gently kiss me. She then stopped and sat up. I asked her to tell me what was wrong, but she was deadly quiet. She then came out with "I don't want to be in a relationship." I was stunned, I really didn't know what to say. I asked her why and she told me that it scares her. I asked her what she was trying to say, and then asked if she was trying to tell me it was over. She started to cry and nodded. I was in a state of shock. I began shaking. I love this girl with all my heart, and I'd do anything for her. She took it back soon after and said she just wanted some space, that she loves me too much to lose me. I still couldn't say anything. She left my house, but gave me a big hug and a kiss at the door. I could barely say a word other than "please, stay". She said she couldn't. Her tears stopped and she started joking around with me, acting all calm. I watched her leave, and I'm really scared its for the last time. I don't know what to do. I'm going away tomorrow and I hate leaving things like this. She's everything to me, and I don't know whats going to happen. It hurts too much. I feel all alone.

Okay, abit of an update. She phoned me and was really nice to me. We're seeing eachother tomorrow and she's gonna stay over at mine on Friday maybe. Maybe it was in my head, as she has been a little off in general later. I'm probably reading too much into things, because I've been hurt so badly before, and don't want it to happen again.

I'm going to talk to her about it tonight I think. She's so fantastic when we're together though. It's just when we're apart the problems seem to seap through. Also, she never gets angry, she goes quiet and doesn't talk. I really hope I haven't done anything.

Me and my GF have been together for nearly two months, and she just doesn't seem bothered to meet up with me anymore. We used to work together so meeting up wasn't a problem, we used to wait around until our shifts finish, go for a drink or a movie. I told her that I was worried we wouldn't see eachother when she left, but she always assured me that we would. Anyway, it's only our first week since she left and when will I be seeing her next? Maybe friday if she isn't too hungover from going out with her friends the night before. Now, sure I accept the fact she's going out with friends, that doesn't bother me. What bothers me is the fact that she appears to be totally uninterested in spending time with me. It's weird because right after we see eachother, she sends me sweet messages about how she had a fantastic time, she misses me already etc. I've even asked her if she wants a bit of space, but she says no. And something I've noticed over the last week or so, she barely can be bothered to text me anymore. This morning I messaged to tell her that I wasn't feeling good so I couldn't go to work. She didn't even reply and I KNOW that she has credit. She doesn't reply unless she's got something to ask, and even in her replies, she's being really blunt with me. Am I reading too much into this? I really don't want to become a boyfriend of convenience.

And if she wants to get to know you more first, that means she's interested in you enough for it not to be somewhat of a casual thing if you get me.

I do think you have a right to be a little annoyed at the fact she texted him with the love part, even though it appears to be a mass text. If they haven't spoken for a year and he didn't have her number in his phone book, I don't think you have anything to worry about. Christmas and New Year is when all the ex's come out to play and contact others. They see it as a chance to catch up and become friends again. If she keeps contacting him, then you'd have a reason to be worried. Also, was he drinking that night? Maybe he was too drunk to remember the number. Or maybe he was just saying he remembered numbers to kinda show off in a lame way.