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  1. I've been listening this song all night long. I screwed up, I know that eventhough the breakup was not my fault, I did most of the damage. I got what I was due...
  2. If you read my story, the girl was in love with me, but even then she married someone else. That was because she got tired of me not doing anything. And even four and a half years later, she wanted to be with me. Doesnt' that tell you anything? At this point I don't even think you're reading other people's posts.
  3. Assuming other person knows what you feel for them is the worse mistake you can make. Yes, for you everything you said makes sense, but that is from your point of view. From their point of view, what you said can mean several different things and even then, none of those would have anything to do with your true feelings for her. Old story. I met this girl, she was wonderful. We became very close and I would have given my life for her back then. But I never told her how I felt for her, I was as coward as you're currently being. So, I lost her to another man. She got tired of the situation and started looking somewhere else... She even married him. Doesnt' matter that they divorced three years later... The point is, eventhough we were very close, we talked on the phone for hours everyday, I would hug her and she would sit on my legs, etc. I never told her about my feelings, and that was my mistake. You're even closer to this girl than I was to that girl, but nothing will change if you don't tell her anything. YFI. I met that girl 4 and a half years later. Guess what? She told me that back then she was in love with me, but she thought I was not interested as I never told her anything. Basically by not telling her anything I drove her to the other guy. Last time I saw her she wanted to be with me, after everything that happened (she had one kid, divorced, etc) even told me she would dump her current boyfriend for me... Happily I've moved on, but I be damned if I dind't learn the lesson. That is something I'll NEVER forget.
  4. Hate to break it on you, but 213 posts since December? Come on, thats about 2 posts a day. And don't know how much it takes for you to write a post, but to me, those two posts don't take more than 10 minutes. As for getting a girl, why would I want another? I have a girlfriend, 1 year 1 month, and I'm extremely happy with her, thanks for asking.
  5. Based on that post alone I can see your maturity level when it comes do dealing with opininons. Seriously, if that's the way you deal with an opinion, I don't want to know how you deal with your own sexual idenitity issues. Oh and it seems that you did a good job tracing your SO's steps, down to this and other site. Goes to show the strong trust that relationship was built on.
  6. There are way too much lies and half truths in this thread that I'm overwhelmed... Common to have "homosexual" experiences in the early teens? They say so, I have never touched someone of my same sex, as I find my same sex disgusting. Obviously, homosexual porn is twice as disgusting for me. At some point, because of my lack of success with the opposite sex, I entertained the idea, but I snapped out of it almost inmediately, because, other than being disgusted, it wasn't me, it wasn't what I wanted and I would have been doing it against my feelings and for all the wrong reasons. So I do think that some of us, if not all, at some point of our lives, can have thoughts about homosexual experiences ... But a 1 year "booty call" relationship, with another person of the same sex, that is a far cry from the early teens homosexual experiences. An experiment happens once, and there are only two possible outcomes, you like it or you dont. If you don't, then you never do it again. If you do, even if you feel guilty and go in denial, sooner or later you'll do it again. So, anyone that can sustan a one year relationship with someone of the same sex and does it willingly, is homosexual or bisexual, no way around it. So if Carleneandrea's only worry is if he is bisexual or not, I'm sure she should start packing and leave, as he is as bisexual as the earth is round. What I don't get, is why Carleneandrea is so worried about proving if he is bisexual or not. The only fact that matters is that he loves her and he is with her. If he is bisexual it doesn't mean he will go out there, everyday, looking for a man to cheat on her. Also, if he is bisexual, it does not mean that he loves her any less. Either way, I can't see that relationship working in the long term. There are so many lies, insecurities, lack of communication, and the little there is, seems to be awfull, that sooner or later, it will blow up.
  7. That is exactly the same thing people told her a long time ago. But she won't do it. At this point, it's quite clear she rather lose her than telling her how she feels. Unfortunately, I'm sure she will regret it for life, or until she finally tells her friend about her feelings.
  8. LOL! When heavy and deep emotions are involved, it is quite easy to change the focus on those emotions. Simple fact, someone you are truly inlove with can hurt you beyond anything capable by someone you don't have feelings for. I see love, I can see pasion I feel danger, I feel obsession Don't play games with the ones who love you Cause I hear a voice who says: I love you... I'll kill you...
  9. Humans are social animals, so get that belief out of your mind, because it is not true, and stop using it as an excuse to reinforce why you haven't done it. Everybody is capable of hooking up to a certain extent, by design.
  10. Two things: a) Back then she wasn't with you, and probably didn't even knew about you. b) Everything she did before, turned her into the person you love. I know this will be rude, but don't get her into a guiltrip about what she did before, as I'm quite sure that back then, it was a reasonable, maybe good, option to her. Getting her to regret what she did before is asking her to regret who she is today. Now understand this, as it is quite simple. Jealousy is nothing more than fear, fear of losing her, fear of being abandoned. There is only one thing I can tell you for sure, other than the fact that you'll eventually die, she is not with them anymore, she is with YOU. So, tell those ghosts inside your head that she is with you now, that she chose to be with you and not with them, and repeat them that until they finally shut up. What are you afraid now that she chose to be with you? And thank those guys because, they helped her to turn into the person you love.
  11. There is more to the story than what you've said on your post. The signals, the way you felt, there is a reason why you felt that way, and there might lie your answer. Come on, spill it, get it out!
  12. Being friendzoned is the least of his problems now. The only time being friendzoned turns into a problem is when you actually manage to get the courage needed to ask the girl. If he is not getting to that point, there is no case in worrying about the frienzone, at this point the important step is to learn to deal with that fear. By the way, the best way to avoid getting friendzoned, or getting to know early (before wasting your time) that you were, is to make your intentions quite clear from the start.
  13. Of course you can fall out of love with someone. There is a thin line between love and hate... And there is no timer for people to cross that line, it all depends on the dynamics of the relationship. But this situation is entirely different, being the dumpee... It will take time, no one can tell how much, but basically it will happen when you stop longing for the good times, and acknowledge both the good and the bad, so you can see him as a person and not that unreachable being that dumped you. I bet no one can say that after a relationship they don't care for the ex, unless you are some sort of lunatic, every human being creates a bond with other persons, specially a person you spent part of your life with. So you will always remember them, you will always care, to a certain extent, for them.
  14. Everybody is afraid of rejection. That is a fact. You have to understand that the more times you try it, and the more times you get rejected, you increase your chances of not getting rejected. As for how to handle the actual rejection, well, I gess you get over it after you crash and burn several times. You learn that if she rejected you, then likely she was not the right person for you, and saved you from a lot of trouble. What got me to that point, where I rather be rejected than wait forever, was a girl that got tired of waiting, and found someone else. That girl wanted to be with me, she was honest about that back then, and now after her divorce, but I screwed up because I was afraid of being rejected. So I didn't missed that oportunity because she rejected me, I rejected myself from that relationship by not doing anything. That is in the past, now I think it wouldn't have worked, and as of now, I do not want to be with her (even after she asked me), but back then... Oh God, I would have given my life for her. I can tell you that hurt MUCH MORE than being rejected, took me several months to get over that (maybe years).
  15. At this point I think it would be pointless to even try to think if the relationship would be worth relocating, for any of you. The only way to find out, is to let yourself go into that relationship. I'm from the "rather know that it didn't work, than wonder forever if it could have worked" mindset.
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