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  1. In my opinion 22 is horribly, horribly young to be considering marriage. You can bet that he was being dead honest when he told you how he felt about it. To explain it away later with some line about car insurance stress is ludicrous. You two might simply consider living and enjoying life for another ten years or so. If you're still enamored of each other after that then consider marriage (if you must). As far as kids, what's the hurry?
  2. Too thought out. Now writing a book at a deafening nightclub...now there's an idea. Your pen would be zig-zagging accross the page as the bass slams you.
  3. "It is still hard though when the person you love most is the person you can't call." That sentence is so beautiful it hurts when I read it. I wish I had more to say, but I don't. What you wrote just really affected me, that's all.
  4. I agree with you astaro; temptation isn't cumulative. It's a choice.
  5. Caro, frankly I'm exhausted. As I stated, you may believe what you want to; I don't have an issue with that. I simply disagree with you and Sophie. I'm not trying to change your mind; that's not my job or desire. I was simply trying to suggest that people look at things more critically.
  6. Caro33, I disagree with your opinion. That is what it is, an opinion, just as mine is. You will believe what you want to, and that is fine. I would, however, caution anyone to not let these sorts of gross generalizations color their perceptions and interactions with actual people. But unfortunately they will and do. I simply believe that by harping on "men do this more than women" we all lose sight of the fact that people should be looked at individually. I promised myself I wouldn't post again! Darn it.
  7. I guess I'm missing the point here. People seem to really want to believe that men cheat more than women. I respect anyone's right to believe anything they want. I just happen to not agree with that belief. Whoever wants the last word can have it. I was only stating my opinions, and I'm not on a mission to prove a preconception. I simply truly think that by myopically looking at the whole blurry picture we miss the actual details of individual people and cases. Sophie, there are more women than men so by your logic women have more opportunities to cheat by simple virtue of their numbers. The fact that there are fewer men overall wouldn't hamper the fact that with females making up the slight majority of the population they would possess as a group more overall chances to cheat. I'm using your logic but I thinks it's flawed (and I say that respectfully).
  8. I was simply stating my opinion. I was not ignoring you. But I'll try to address the opportunity theory. Again, I think that this would be a case by case basis. Generalizing is counterproductive because it ignores individual incidents. ANY employed person, no matter their sex, I think would be presented with opportunities to cheat. By the same reasoning, ANY person in any social interaction could find a way to cheat if they chose to. I don't believe that men cheat more and I don't believe that the proof is that they have more chances to. Women have just as many opportunities to cheat as men (work or otherwise).
  9. I'm not saying men and women don't differ; what I'm saying is that promiscuity and cheating are choices that people should take responsibility for rather than shifting the blame to something "wired in." I have known of just as many women as men who have cheated and slept around. This may not gell with that website's "statistical proof" but it is reality, at least as I've experienced. The Aristotle blurb was just to illustrate how incorrect information can be posited as "fact." Statistics are inherently flawed. Flawed in so many ways that one measly post could only scratch the surface. But here goes: Reporting errors, data entry errors, under reporting, sampling bias, the way the question was phrased, etc. etc. etc.
  10. Relying on website statistics for our perceptions is pretty darn dangerous. There are websites out there that can "prove" anything. I really do find it amusing that people actually think one gender is more prone to something than the other. I recall that Aristotle thought women had smaller brains than men and possessed less intelligence. I think I read that on the web somewhere, but it's balderdash, not truth. Oh well, people have their minds made up and generalization will prevail again I suppose. Shame.
  11. Whether the relationship is "perfectly good" is completely subjective and varies per individual. I might think, "This is going great, she would never cheat." She might just as easily think, "This is awful. My needs aren't being met." A psychiatrist might provide insight as to why you choose to behave in a certain way, but it still all boils down to a choice. But, like I said, making logical choices that others will perceive as "normal" can be very hard when you're suffering from a psychological disorder. Yet we should still look at this on a case by case basis. Generalizations simply aren't productive of any kind of true understanding.
  12. Not sure I follow you, bud. Once we start saying that people are "psychologically inclined" to act a certain way we may turn around to see that we can't climb back up that slippery slope. Some women CHOOSE to be unfaithful, just as some men do. Many (if not all) people have pschological issues, but we should be careful how much of our own personal responsibilty we abdicate. Now sure, if you had a raging personality disorder or a mental condition making wise choices might be difficult as your perspective could be skewed, but ultimately how we behave is our own individual choice.
  13. Each human being, regardless of gender, is potentially capable of cheating & promiscuity. Let's not blame evolution, society, gender or any other red herring. This is an individual choice. Sure, people who cheat and are very promiscuous will seek to justify or explain their behaviour (most often when they get busted). Each individual chooses to act in the way they do, and I've been around long enough to see that both men and women have an equal propensity to act in this manner. ClementineOrange: You posted that, " to be equal to a man, then you must behave like one. Violence, aggression, promiscuity and sex as a weapons." All men don't behave in this manner no more than all women behave the opposite way. The terms you used are traits that anyone, man or woman, could possess. Painting with really broad brushes obscures reality. Just a thought.
  14. For some Unnamable reason, when I read your poem the story At the Mountains of Madness instantly sprang to mind.
  15. There's a possibility that what she assured you of when you were breaking up was to make her feel better rather than actual fact. Don't contact her: you'll boost her ego at the expense of your own sanity. As you said yourself: you did nothing wrong, so don't let this latest brush with her throw you off balance. Let her be cold and ignore you; you'll heal and if she ever contacts you in the future your wound'll be closed, and you can decide at your leisure if speaking with her at that point suits your interest. And if she never contacts you again then it won't matter, because she'll have shown you she wasn't worth the pain anyway.
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