NmaeZero

Yeah...I don't feel too much like arguing my position here anymore. What's going to happen will happen and that's it. In the the mean time I'm going to enjoy being a young, and perhaps nieve, teenager and continue doing what i've been doing. If it aint broke why fix it right? So to all you worry-warts.

Thank you Honey, finally someone not on a witch hunt. I hear what you two are saying Budman and Hope but you two made up your minds before you gave me any advise; I could sense it. Circumstances aside I think you two are missing the key ingredient in the situation, FAITH in people and the ability to give ppl the benefit of the doubt. Why else would I be involved in such an extreme situation unless I had some sort of feeling that I was doing the right thing? Of course you guys can only go by statistics in this case because you don't personally know him or me. I'd like to reiderate what Honey said, he was honest about where he went and why. How do I know? I did my homework, I have the custody record to prove the charges and his age (btw he's 19, he'll be 20 this Feb) and all of that other stuff. He hasn't lied to me about anything important thus far, period. I don't know about you, but I can't condem someone just for making a mistake and screwing his life up by going to jail. I sure as heck wouldn't tolerate it if he kept doing the stuff that got him in trouble but he isnt. In fact is he's starting community college for a major in web programing THIS monday. His financial aid got reinstated under strict conditions, he ordered his books, and just yesterday he informed me that he just got a pretty big job recommendation for a site. Am I making my point here? Yes he's made mistakes, BIG mistakes, Felony mistakes; but he's actively fixing them. And Budman, I'm sorry that you don't believe people are capable of putting themselves in harms way for others, even at the risk of screwing themselves over. When did doing that become such a shock to ppl anyway? Anyhow, I'm not worrying about the outcome and I suggest you guys don't kill yourselves thinking about it either. What's going to happen will happen. Life does go on.

Oh and btw, I think ppl's theories are who they are, so if I'm attacking those it's easy to see how it could be taken as a personal attack.

He was 19 when it happened so it's not a clean rec, but he can exponge it in like 10 years or something. As far as attacking you goes, I dont think I am. I'm merely stating my own opinion and views confedently. If I have something I feel needs to be said I'll say it, that's just how I am. I'm sorry if you guys feel attacked, but I'm not going to sit here and pretend like I agree with you when I don't. We'll call it a friendly, yet heated, debate and leave it at that.

All I can do is really laugh at this situation. You guys still blow my mind with your advise, it's duelly noted though. First of all, how can you say the circumstances of a crime dont matter? Life is nothing but circumstance, and I hate to tell you this but sometimes ppl actually have to make difficult choices. Ever heard of the lesser of two evils? I think most of you are coming from a closed-minded and bitter point of view b/c of what you've gone through. You want to assign the Red Flags that popped up in your bad situations to mine. I can understand why you do it, it's human nature...but I can't agree. What's the biggest thing I should worry about here? Should I fear this experience because it has some technicalities or road bumbs (because that is all any problem is, BUT a road bump in the larger scheme of life). Yes there can be some bad out comes to this situation but I've thought of ALL of them, and hahaha I don't fear them. I'm confedent enough to accept whatever the outcome is. What I do fear is ppl's fear, ignorance, and judgement. As for a violent history, you guys are too quick to assume, and it's a really a shame b/c you can't live life like that; you miss out on so much great stuff. Anyhow, you're more of the same comments are noted and stored. I'll keep you guys "posted" on the outcome. Oh and if you should happen to see my story on America's Most Wanted, girl found dead and mangled in Oregon woods, then all I can say is Ooops! My bad lol. That's all I care to argue on that point; Good day

well since everyone keeps hounding me about it, he went in for Attempted Assault III. Does that really affect the advise I'm going to get? I mean honestly, everyone in here has made it dead clear that i'm wasting my time here, so what is this extra piece of info going to add? An extra (!) on the RUN FOR THE HILLS statement? Besides you guys don't even know the circumstances. I'm sorry but life is not a TV show or a movie here. Things don't play by a script, although I'm sure that's the way most ppl see it. I'm tired of worrying about the A-typical reaction from ppl. I'm just tired; so there you have it. Is there anything new to add or more of the same?

If you feel uncomfortable talking like that around him then don't do it b/c it's not helping you or him... sometimes it's hard to say no to guys but it's something every girl must learn how to do. Remember, he's just another person; there's nothing wrong w/ saying no.

Well that's food for thought. I really would like to be certain, but for the time being i feel like I have to shelve it all. We're in a predicament here what with the parole and all, but hopefully I wont have to wait too much longer. I'm thinking about a trip to Cali to check out a college campus i'm considering transfering to my second year of school, and well it's right beneath Oregon (where he lives) so I'm planning on figuring out the f2f chemistry then. Have any advise on intial meetings in these situations?

I've figured as much, but I try and look at it this way. Regurdless of what happens there's always something to be learned. I've come to realize (after many years of thought lol *sarcasim*) that it's worse to regret than to mess up. My dad always says that so I guess I'm taking it to heart. Lol, and if everything does go bad then hey I have a pretty awsome story to tell. I'm trying to get into the habbit of looking at the bright side b/c life is too short. But tell me, what do you think I would stand to lose by continuing the way I am. I'm curious.

I wonder though, does everyone think that I'm too invested in all of this?

lol, I know that, but you asked long term remember? I was just saying what I honestly felt, but at the moment we're on friend mode here. And we are focusing on school and so forth. No worries, we know better than to rush a good thing.

Long term I can see, mind you I'm not for sure, but I see a future together with him. Married, kids, the whole thing lol. A bit much for a 17 year old but hey I'm being honest here.

I'm sure I am looking for validation, b/c I know that I have already made my decesion. I suppose I just got tired of keeping it all to myself. Venting perhaps? Regurdless, I don't plan on making hasty decesions with him. We both agreed that we shouldn't rush anything. And personally I wouldn't want to move in with him at 17-18 anyway, i'm smart enough to know that wont work too out well. But yeah, I have to at least persue this experience b/c I'm sure I'll regret it if I don't. Thank you for your advise though, I have considered what you've said even though I might come off as a pig-headed teenager.

I understand what you're saying, and i'd most likely give the same advise to someone in my current situation, but i can't help but feel like the rules don't apply here. Seriously, all of this goes alot deeper than I care to admit b/c it crosses some of societies taboo topics....and honestly I don't think alot of ppl, perhaps not even you, can grasp the mangnitude of what's going on here. Now, going back to your questions: No, I am not purposely attaching myself to him because I want a "pet-project." I don't want to be his savior, in fact i'd prefer he save himself because I'm a firm believer than only you can save and help yourself. The main reason I like being around him is because he's inspiring. He makes me want to be a better person, isn't that suppose to be a good thing? As for my parents knowing, they know about him to a certain extent. They know his age, where he lives, the basics; he'd (the guy in question) would prefer they know everything about his record and so on but I'd rather not disclose everything all at once. I think there's a time and way to introduce things to ppl and then there are some things that I think should just be between the two of us. In the case of the felony I do want my parents to know, but I want him to tell them b/c i don't think it's my place to do so. We're working on that now. And finally to address the being a "minor" issue, I turn 18 in 2 months. I feel that i am mature, but for those who still believe in the law when I hit 18 i'm legally responsible for myself anyway so I don't think it's at all relevant at this point. I've taken a detailed and close look at this situation, from all types of angles, and so far my instinct tells me i'm not in the wrong here...but still I'm trying to search for outside approval. I'm beginning to arrive at the conclusion though that a really mature person would stop searcing for justification and accept the responsibilities of their actions; good or bad. So perhaps i'll take my own advise here lol.

So you're saying that because there are too many obsticles I should just give up? I'm just a little bit daunted here at some of the advise i've been recieving. Dont get me wrong I want opinions, but I want opinions with real reasons not cookie cutter "he's trouble" statemnts. What exactly are these red flags that I should be cautious of? The fact that he was in jail or the fact that he lives sooo far away? All I really have to say here is that ppl don't come perfect, not even internet ppl, and if they do then that's when you should worry; when they seem too perfect and too clean to be true. I think ppl expect WAY too much from other people these days. Everyone is so busy looking for Mr. Perfect that you skip Mr. Real, I guess ppl prefer Mr. Perfect though b/c he = less work. In the end I rather be aware of the "red flags" than be oblivious to them. *sigh* I don't even know why i'm here trying to defend it anymore...whatever happens is going to happen regurdless.