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Yeah, i was going to wait for the next opportunity to do that. Also, she IM'ed me while i was at work I don't think this thread is necessary anymore. thank you for all that helped

if it helps, I think this qualifies as her having interest in me. I met her on link removed and sent her a message. She didn't have a membership so she couldn't reply or read the message. What she did was google my link removed name and found my AIM address. She then IM'd me. I think that might count as something.

I asked out a girl i was interested in to the movies last Sunday. A few hours after that, she said she couldn't go out because she has a sorority mtg. to go to. I just told her that we can reschedule and we can get to know each other until then. At first, we had good conversation and we sent each other texts. Since Monday though, she seems to be acting different. She didn't reply to the last text message I sent her a few days ago and hasn't sent me any yet and our conversations online have been about nothing and kept very short. I was wondering if she was losing interest in me, even after going out of her way to find my screen name, but she brought up that she was under a lot of anxiety because of all her work and she's been really stressed. Could this be the reason we aren't talking that much or did she genuinely lose interest in me?

Well, today is the last day of class. Today is V-Day. I now sit behind her in class. God help me if I don't ask her out today.

They say that 8 out of 10 women relate how the rest of the relationship is going to turn out based on the first kiss. I read this really great article a few months ago about how to make the first kiss perfect. I forgot how it went though. What is a perfect kiss? What would make that kiss soooo special that you wouldn't forget it for the rest of your life? What are your guys thoughts?

don't guys feel that way too? I know I do. I agree with Ninako. I found my first true love when I stopped looking for love in everyone I met.

I left her for someone else then a few months later i regret it i come back to her but she is in another relationship

I was not feeling well yesterday while I was at school . I decided to leave early and it just so happened that my ex was leaving at the same time. I take the bus to school every day which is about a 30 minute ride + 20 minute walk. It was an extremely hot day and could not stand it. I tried asking other people for a ride but they all seemed busy. Regretfully, I asked my ex to take me home. She told me that she couldn't because she wasn't going home (we live relatively close to each other, but she was going to her new BF's house). We ended up talking on the phone for 20 minutes, getting on each others nerves and saying things that would hurt each other. 30 minutes later, she called me and apologized for being rude and she was sorry. I told her it was fine and I didn't really expect anything out of that conversation so I wasn't let down. she seemed a little sad and hung up. then I unblocked her on AIM and she messaged me. At first, she was doing her " * * * * *y towards the ex" attitude and tried her best to ridicule me, especially when I was talking to her about how the girl i asked out had a boyfriend. She even said It eventually faded, like it always does, to the point where she feels bad that she did that and acts a little nicer. We talk as if we never separated. I sign off first online and she signs off 9 minutes later (I was only invisible). She calls me at midnight, sounding as if she was hurt or feeling bad. She called and said she just wanted to say g'night and hope you're feeling well (since I was still feeling sick). I said thank you and I really appreciate that coming from you. I tried my best not to show that I still think about her and care about her. That didn't work out too well because we ended up talking on the phone for an hour and thirty minutes. During that time, we nearly had phone sex (something we've done before while she was with her current bf), talked as if we were still together (or both of us not being * * * * *es to each other), I sang her to sleep, and hung up. If she ever does separate from her boyfriend, and i'm single, I would want to try our relationship over again. I know I shouldn't even be talking to her now. I know I have to take care of MY healing process before I consider talking to her. I also know that if I want her back, I shouldn't be acting the way I would be acting if we were together. If I acted like we were in a relationship while we were still friends, she would have no reason to be in a relationship with me. She hasn't been online yet and she hasn't called. I was going to start NC today, but I guess it doesn't matter since she started it. I guess I gave her too much that she doesn't have to use me for a long while. What are your opinions on why she's acting this way? Why does she stay on the phone for so long and allow me to do this to her when i broke up with her and when she has a new boyfriend? Oh, she just signed on. I wonder if she is going to message me.

ya know, i tried that with someone else recently. I just casually asked if she wanted to go watch a movie on a certain day. Later on I found out that she has a boyfriend and didn't consider what I said to be a date. The way I worked it through, I can make sure it makes it seem like a date if I wrote it out online instead of tripping over my lines in person.

5 times a week, not day. My bad I guess I just have this fear of getting rejected still

I want to ask her out, but I have so much trouble dealing with face to face interaction when it comes to asking someone out that I asked for her email. I see her 5 times a day and when we talk, we do connect. I do know that I make her laugh. But we don't really get a chance to talk. We always manage to sit a few desks apart and we don't leave the classroom at the same time. We don't really have time to talk, except for a few minutes a day with the class filled with other people. It makes sense that I can't ask her out, right? There's no opportunity for me to ask her privately. So would it be okay if I sent her an email to ask her out on a date? And if I do ask her in an email, how should I ask her? Should I make the message long, should I mention why I didn't ask her in person, or should I send a few short emails first.

also, another question. I recently asked her out to the movies this Friday. Is that a sign that she is interested in me? If not, what other signs can I look for?

At first I was doing really well with all my conversations, but lately I've been having a lot of trouble. Her name is Carolina and she is in my Spanish class. We sit next to each other and we have conversations. Today though, I could barely keep a conversation going. I used the excuse that I stayed up all night, but there were times during our conversations where she kept saying "what?" because she couldn't hear or understand me. One of the biggest pet peeves I have is people who don't understand me when I'm talking. It's not their fault, but it annoys me. I'm soft spoken and hard to understand sometimes. When that happens though I feel self conscious and don't know what else to do cause I'm getting tongue tied and tripping on words. I hate it when they say what. I hate it so much. I just wish I had a better accent. What am I supposed to do and how should I make up for this horrible day of barely talking to her? When it happens, it gets worse and worse and I get more self conscious. I know what it's like to be confident, and I was yesterday. I kept the conversation going like nothing. Once it starts though... I just mess up. I don't know how to keep conversations going and how to keep them interested. I fear that when we go to the movies, we'll stay quiet the whole time. I realllllly hope the movie gives us a lot to talk about. I just don't know how to talk to girls without making it seem like its an interview.

Telling an ex you still love that her current boyfriend is cheating on her might not be the best idea. She might take it the wrong way, as in she might think that you are trying to break them apart. It's possible she thinks that the only reason you are telling her this is because you hold some sort of resentment against her and are jealous of this new guy. Although that may not be true in this case, there might not be anything you can do about it. Leave it alone, she will eventually find out. I mean, the guy was silly enough to go dancing with another girl the night before. Also, it isn't any obligation of yours to tell her anything anymore. If you are going to do NC, you have to stick with it. Don't give yourself another excuse to talk to her.