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  1. hmmm....what is your situation?
  2. Yes, I'm a presumptuous little... but that's besides the point. (I'm dead tired right now, but I'll try my best to type up something coherent). I've had a few bad observations lately, and this was typed by myself (my own thoughts and opinions on this). Feel free to add or argue. 1. Do NOT tell them their problems are insignificant or that others have it so much worse. We all have our problems, they wouldn't be problems if they weren't difficult according to each individual. Rich people can kill themselves, beautiful people can kill themselves, famous people can kill themselves and hell, even rich, famous and beautiful people can kill themselves. It is not helpful to point out how others have it worse then them. I recall Andrew (mylastwords23) clearly stating this point: "If the [knowledge] that people suffer worse than I do makes me feel better, then I'd hate myself even more than I already do." A suicidal person is often full aware that others have it worse than them, but that thought just makes them feel more guilty and terrible about how they're feeling themselves. It wouldn't be a mental illness if it made sense to feel that way. Telling them they shouldn't feel a certain way because so and so has it worse does not help. Saying you're giving them 'perspective' is just patronizing as it clearly insults the intelligence of the person you're talking to. 2. Do NOT get angry at them. Okay, this frankly saddens me. If you cannot summon the empathy to feel for the person and treat them fairly without accumulated bitterness over their condition: Don't even bother trying! What could you possibly achieve by getting angry at them? Just remove yourself. If you get angry at them, and try to make them see sense by aggressively attacking them, you'll just alienate them. Or worse, make them feel worse about themselves. 3. Do NOT tell them they're selfish Do you honestly believe mental illness is a choice? Do you think these people wake up in the morning thinking: “Today, I will become depressed, writhe in agony and hope to hurt the people I love the most.”? Of course not, this again, is insulting towards their intelligence. They don’t want to hurt anyone, but they feel extreme agony in their lives. Telling someone how horrible they are for not caring about hurting those closest to them is taking a high-horse position when it is clearly not helpful. When one becomes depressed, they can’t help but be more focused on their own pain. When someone loses their leg in an accident are they more concerned about their parents mourning for them or are they more concerned about the agony in their leg? When someone is under physical torture there may come a point when they rather die than continue living with the horrible pain of being tortured. Just because the pain is mental it doesn’t mean it isn’t there. Of course, there are cases where suicide is revenge, but in this context, those cases are irrelevant to my points. -Dil
  3. Do you remember anything about the questions? I have no idea how I could help in that area, but I guess I'm just curious now (well I could try..but that'd be like the blind leading the blind..hehe...or I could ask my brother, he's good at psychology)
  4. I agree. I'm utterly disgusted with some of the responses on this thread. If you have a personal vendetta against suicidal people who don't 'deserve' to be suicidal or sad about their life, take your angst elsewhere. Some of these people are just kicking a man when he's down. Stop it, it's ridiculous.
  5. Awww, I always like a happy ending...
  6. When I used to feel horrible about being bullied, I usually turned to my parents or friends for support. A * * * *ty day at work? No problem, just live for the weekend! Go out and have fun with friends, it's very therapeutic. If switching jobs is an option, try it, I doubt every workplace is filled with nasty vultures. Maybe find a workplace with a more balanced sex ratio (men/women).
  7. maybe it's your resume, if you want I can look over it. Send it over. my email: email removed
  8. hmm, I'm not a a fan of kantian ethics, I'm more of an egoist. Everything I know about philosophy is self-taught and I can hold decent conversations and even debates with third years. I think that field has my calling. but it has turned into an all-out shouting match with my parents..
  9. Haha, you sound kind of like me. What schools of thoughts have you studied? Were you ever a nihilist? You sound like you had some serious existentialist angst....but you should read existentialist literature, some of it is pretty depressing, but it's the ultimate triumph of the individual. Heck, you want a challenge, you got one..but I suspect you probably share similar views to myself being a determinist and all, but determinism isn't an excuse to do nothing. Determinism is a statement about 'what is', not 'what ought to be'. Pretty confident in your ability if you have the balls to say you have 'great insightful wisdom'. I have spent the last three years of my life arguing with philosophers over the internet, so you won't be disappointed. Albert Camus spent most of his philosophical career trying to figure out if life is worth living or not. So it isn't a set issue... There is no reason to fear death (it is natural, it happens to everyone eventually and if you're dead you don't have the ability to care), it's a non-comparable experience so one does not know if death is better than life or not. Given that every creature on the planet will die eventually, we deduce that life is most probably a limited time offer only. So you might as well live life, because existence is fleeting while death is eternal. If life is pointless, then death is probably just as pointless if not more. Boredom...I never feel boredom, I am always occupying myself, starting arguments, hell, I live for conflict, I fight for my ideals I try to tackle the great philosophical questions in life: materialism, morality, god, politics. I have to admit, I think the 'meaning of life' is a pointless question. 'Meaning' is arbitrary and different for different people. Something may 'mean' something to a particular person, but mean nothing to another. Pull an existentialist: Meaning is what you make. I like to say: Life has no reason, but meaning is something one creates. Better start making it for yourself, you're intelligent enough to, you're an individual who's not afraid to attack the establishment. I suggest: conviction|thirst for knowledge|self-directed purpose|conflict instead of boredom| Here are some of my positions: Rabid atheist, existentialist, materialist (thus a determinist), moral subjectivist (yet still a moral realist who subscribes to some of ayn rand's objectivist philosophy) Politics: market anarchist (you get to have so much fun with controversy if you're both a rabid atheist and anarchist...trust me, you don't get bored fast with that stuff). I spent the last while dealing with market anarchy, it's replacing my 'strong atheism' fixation. Rolemodels: Ayn Rand, Nietzsche, Stefan Molyneux By all means, tell me you've explored all of philosophy, I'd really like to see you try. Life can never be boring, there's still so much you don't know. *note*: I'm also 18 and freakishly intelligent, but have recently lost direction in life resulting in utter neglect of my studies.
  10. really? What schools of thought interest you? me: moral subjectivist (yet still a moral realist/egoist), existentialist, materialist (determinism follows), and rabid atheist.
  11. You look like a regular guy. Not ugly, at all. But looks don't necessarily get you anywhere. I'm not badlooking myself, but my relationships are non-existent. Then again I need to go outside and talk to people, so that's my problem.
  12. LOL, here's me: ugly - no shy - not really christian - NO (but not being Christian doesn't mean casual sex and drugs..geesh, nor does it imply atheists are morally inferior) boring - no I've been single for a very long time. So this isn't a measure of anything. Why isn't intelligence on this? I'm sure dorky, shy, not-so-goodlooking guys who are really smart have girls pandering to them. Add 'poor' to the list and you may have something.
  13. I'd chose A) in a heartbeat, but I've been B) all my life. What the heck is the point of being pretty if you can't seem to find a decent guy? No point at all.
  14. Follow your dreams, do what you truly want to do, or you'll end up depressed like me. Luckily I have caught myself now and I still have time to rectify my error. Basically, I did science at university because I thought I wanted a career with money and I thought it would make my parents happy. They wanted me to become a doctor. I was good enough to get into a science program at a good university, but it didn't make me happy at all. Because I wanted to do philosophy or art. My story: I have just sent an email to my parents who are in Australia at the moment. I have told them about career opportunities with a Philosophy degree. My mom would probably support me going into a career as a lawyer. I've had numerous existentialist experiences this year all pointing towards the fact that science is not right for me. I'd make a flipping mediocre scientist, that's for sure. I've been to a chemist's workplace, my friend's dad works for foods canada (for the govt), and when I went there, it just looked horribly tedious. Since I'd be a mediocre scientist, I'd be doing the same tests all day, test some things, put it in a machine, put figures in a database. I'd rather die than live like that. My talents lie somewhere else, they lie in logical reasoning, not just memorizing facts and figures. My eyes are tearing up writing about this, it's just so much pain that I've been suppressing all year. I just wanted to make my parents happy with what I'm doing and I thought maybe science would be okay for me, but I betrayed myself so utterly. I'm sorry I wasted their money this year, but it's wrong. I'm a coward for not realizing this earlier. I haven't worked hard at all in sciences, I will not admit this to them though, I truly fear my parents more than death itself. I also fear failure more than death itself. I thought, if I fail in life, at least I could blame my parents, I couldn't deal with placing the blame on my own shoulders. The plan was to get a science degree, get a good job, and retire early. Then spend of the rest of my life persuing what truly interests me. But the plan isn't working, I can't cope with this denial of passions. I can't bring myself to sacrifice my youth in this manner. I tried to find something that interested me in science, evolution, but I'm more interested in reading about evolution VS. intelligent design than actual evolution. If I was really interested in evolution, I would have finished the selfish gene by richard dawkins by now, but I find it hard to read. I was paralyzed with fear because I don't like change. But I don't think I can carry on like this. It's hard to face up to the fact that I made a mistake. It's time to stop deluding myself into thinking my current position in life was a good choice. So right now I'm trying to face my fears and my parents, but I don't know if I have the strength to live my life for myself. I have pictured my death numerous times.
  15. Breaking up over text messaging....welcome to the 21st century. Tell her how you feel, buy her flowers and ask for forgiveness. If she really means something to you, you can't let her go without at least some sort of struggle.
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