Jump to content

Tellin It Like It Is

Members
  • Posts

    26
  • Joined

Tellin It Like It Is's Achievements

Apprentice

Apprentice (3/14)

  • First Post
  • Collaborator

Recent Badges

1

Reputation

  1. Don't mean to be rude, but excuse me, your current boyfriend decided he wanted to be with you. The current climate is based on someone who is erratic, and unpredictable (your ex). That isn't your fault. You know it isn't. So, if someone stepped on your current boyfriend's toes at work, is it the whole company's fault? What about if it someone at the post office was a jerk? Is he no longer going to send mail? He better grow up and realize that there are people out there who make a menace of themselves, and it's no one's fault but the menace. You also, should stop picking partners that don't treat you like the goddess you are. This guy blames you for things that aren't your fault, and I bet the last guy did too. You deserve more.
  2. Hi. Yes, you should look for love in your own age bracket...but honey, we ALL had crushes on teachers in our teens. You got all these hormones freaking out, and you're turning into a young woman. Don't make a move on your teacher....trust me, it'll just get weird. Look at him more like a father figure, and maybe he'll end up being an important part of your life in a HEALTHY way. You didn't say he's touching you. I disagree with the poster who said the hugging has to stop. Hugs are normal, and everyone should be entitled to them. If he ever gives you the indication that he wants to be romantic with you...THAT'S BAD, and he knows it. So, enjoy your crush. I was heartbroken when my homeroom teacher got married when I was 14...but then I went back to visit him when I was 18 and lookin' good...and he was bald and skinny. HA HA HA. Sometimes it's good to not get what we want. Your dad's not around? Maybe you can get in touch with an uncle or cousin and spend some quality time with an older male figure. I wish you luck. Just remember, crushes are normal, so don't freak yourself out.
  3. I have so been in your shoes. Well, the thing is...when a relationship gets older, it's so easy to crave the newness feeling. How was it when you and your wife started? Electric? Exciting? That's what the beginning of a relationship is all about. Those super charged feelings are not the lasting kind. Think about this. IF you were to leave your wife and pursue this woman, eventually your relationship with her would become "everyday" and predictable like the relationship you're in now. The only way to get out of this without hurting anyone is to realize you cannot have a friendship with this woman, and commit to channeling all of this pent up lust into making your marriage exciting. Time for some outdoor sex with the wife. Time for spontaneous flowers for the wife. Time for love letters for your wife! You won't believe what a little effort can do to recharge your current relationship. Do it. Get out now, because your whole world is about to get really yucky if you don't. Also, you'll notice that your on-line friend likes your attention, but isn't reciprocating your feelings...so stop dangling the carrot. Good luck.
  4. Hi. What if you printed out the saved conversation you found, sat down with her, handed it to her and said, "I'm not looking for excuses. This hurt me a lot. Do you want this relationship, and if so, what are you prepared to do to start working on it?" Start there. You sound like you're actually hoping to get through this with her, and I wish you the best of luck.
  5. Well, I like what Sister Lynch had to say, as well as the non traditional advice from the poster above her. Listen, she is living in some sort of escapism fantasy world. Whatever she is doing is because she's bored, or anxious. This will sound weird coming from ME, but confront her. Print the email, tell her it isn't appropriate to carry on like that with someone. "Wishing it was more" is evidence enough that her head is up her rear end, so you don't need much more. Tell her she can take it or leave it, but if she takes it, you want to work things out in counseling. It's not too late, but you guys will have to commit to alot of work to get out of this setback. Good luck to you.
  6. I'm thinking you have done all you can do. If your sister will not accept your help, you can't make her take it. That's the sad truth. Perhaps talking to a counselor yourself can give you some insight in how to deal with this. You're very courageous. Thank you for sharing.
  7. it was even excessive cheating. I happen to know. Turns out, if you marry him, you can expect more of the same. I'm serious. Nothing is worse than calling off a wedding except going thru with a wedding and realizing your horrible mistake. Take heart girl, you don't have to go through with it, and in the end, you'll be happier.
  8. Alcohol is a tricky thing. People drink it for a variety of reasons and the fear your mom has is that you will get into trouble. (Obviously). Since you are just starting to drink, may I suggest that you teach yourself NOW what your limits are. If you feel like you want to have two beers, then have them. If you say two though, stop there, if you can't stop there, then you shouldn't drink until you have some self control. Do you want to spend Prom puking? Do you want to remember Prom? (Drinking can cause some of your precious memories of this night to vanish). Easy does it, always. BE CAREFUL NOT TO FALL INTO THE MOST COMMON TRAP OF ALL, to drink to have fun. That's total B.S. and half of my friends (ages 21-35) cannot for the life of them have a good time sober and that is sad. Really sad. You will experiment, but is Prom the right night? It's up to you, but be the smart girl that you are.
  9. Pengui has all the right moves, read his post over and over again. I just have one thing to add. The french kissing part needs to start out as just soft little pecks, please don't just shove your tongue in there. A few pecks (3 or so) and then a gentle tongue. Also, how does one really spell tongue? I think I need a spell check, jeez!
  10. Maybe she doesn't want to be with you because you are hostile and angry. She has picked up on the fact that you are able to conceive of hurting her, and she is outtie. I would like to congratulate you on not actually "busting her in the mouth" but you need to deal with the fact that you would even CONSIDER hitting a girl. When you turn yourself around, you'll get a good woman.
  11. Um, I don't dig the fact that he won't be honest and apologize for what happened. You are rightly angry. IF he shows some remorse, then MAYBE you can hear him out, but until then, as hard as it is, stay away. This sounds lame and I know it, but girl, so many other guys would love to have you. Also, hang ups and stuff sound like it was a little more involved than what either of them are admitting to you. PLUS, HER boyfriend would not have called YOUR boyfriend out just to make his day more exciting. He was pissed, and you should be too.
  12. Well my dear, let me start off by saying, any decision you make to honor your feelings is valid. HOWEVER. You need to take into consideration that you have made promises before and have been unable to follow through. This girlfriend, or the old, could you just have a problem with commitement? I know that sounds obvious, but you seem to make up whatever excuse you can at the last minute. Not pretty enough. Worrying about old girlfriend. These could be variations of your fear. Regardless. You gotta let the old girlfriend go. You used the word "fantasy" and that is very true. It is a fantasy. You don't remember what you were uncomfortable with in the relationship when you were in it, and even if it WAS great, she's different now. Namely, because time has elapsed, so how do you know you want to be with the girl she's become since you've been apart? Secondly, don't guilt yourself into staying with the now non virgin. She made her decision based on the available facts at the time, and facts change. That is a really lame part of life, but it's true. If you need to not be with her, fine, don't. But if you think the reason is because you might be able to rekindle something that is past...you may want to evaluate it further. Good luck. Don't end up pining for THIS girl.
  13. Baby girl, I wish I could relieve your pain. It's hard. You'll do your brain wracking, and then, hopefully, you'll start to heal. (Of course you will!) I've had plenty of boys tell me sweet things like houses, and children, and sometimes it's because it's what I wanted to hear. I dunno. I didn't mean to be harsh, it's just that such a sudden change means SOMETHING is happening. I'm really sorry. Seriously, I know what it feels like to cry your guts out, get some new kleenex, and start bawling again. Good luck.
  14. It is clear that this man has some sexual issues. Has it occurred to you (this is awfully blunt, so don't read on if you're gonna freak out-I'm sorry in advance) that he might be gay? It happens. A lot. To my neighbor, my friend, and my boyfriend's buddy.
×
×
  • Create New...