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  1. I would love it and DO love it. Giving him an erection is like a trophy I won for my skills at kissing!
  2. Traditions of ritual and ceremony are behind the purpose of the wedding. It is completely and logically unnecessary to have rings and white dresses and witnesses and boquet tosses, but these little rituals and others like it are things are part of our society, are part of long standing traditions of hundreds of cultures around the world, and are important to many people because it is something tangeable that marks their commitment to each other, for each other and those close to them. You can pray without rosaries, you can meditate without incense, and you can commit yourself to a lifelong partner without the ceremony of marriage. It's just comforting and special for a lot of people, and that is the point.
  3. we've had an LDR since October 2005. I wouldnt be in a LDR longer than three years, after that, I think you two have too many excuses for not being together.
  4. I think she's hiding something from you. Too skinny? Eat a burger and meet up! There's something else that's bothering her.
  5. Sounds like you're both messed up. Just stay away from him and his girlfriend. He is none of your business. Stop trying to get revenge on him, and get a restraining order if he can't stay away from you.
  6. it may have something to do with the oil glands in your areola. what have you tried so far to get rid of this problem?
  7. I don't trust anything that doesnt allow my body to have a normal, regular period every month. I was on depo-provera and that was beyond disturbing. I was suckered into using that can of worms by the promise of "no periods". I ended up suffering from never-ending periods. I don't think it's a good idea to be a guinea pig for anything new on the market. The website says this and that? who cares. They have their own agenda. Also I was on tricyclene lo and it made me really depressed. I also started my period a week early, so i guess this "triphasic" thing is not a good idea for me. "lo" was too low, apparently.
  8. Yes, this coming summer we're going to discuss in detail the idea of moving, since our graduations after that will be in the following January (one year from now). Both of us agree that moving in together right away isnt a good idea. We can't go straight from an LDR to moving in together. We decided that we should move to the same city first - we'll decide where and how in the summer - and after we get to be a REAL couple for a time, then we may move in together. Even though we still both look to a common future goal and wish to spend the rest of our lives together, we want to take things slowly - one step at a time. One thing that has really helped us is planning little "dates". Our lives are very busy and it's easy to get distracted on the phone - especially because he has a room mate. We planned once a week to get together for an internet date. Maybe we'd just sit and talk just the two of us, or we'd watch movies together that we both had on our computers. Taking time for just each other once a week made the distance not so hard to manage. But then the internet problem struck and we had nothing - not even the interrupted or distracting conversations. Another thing we found that helped is not only having a concrete future goal for the long term, but setting little ones for the short term. If we constantly have planned get-togethers to look forward to, it keeps our spirits up. As soon as we finish one get together, we start planning and looking forward to the next one. Right now we have christmas break to look forward to, and after that, we will start planning our spring breaks (they are at two different times, but that just means TWO times we get to see each other!) Thanks again for listening, Ilse. I'd better get to sleep now.
  9. Well no, the LDR is not the only source of my depression. I have started taking some birth control pills that seriously affect my moods. I'm switching to another brand, now that I realise what is going on. I noticed that I would be happy all day, then just an hour after taking the pills (which was at 11pm) I would become so cynical about life, and would stay awake all night. So I will change those, and see if I can be optimistic again. Of course the situation is the same with him and I, but perhaps I will feel more optimistic about things. Yes I do have a normal phone, but I am still charged for air time for incoming and outgoing calls despite having a cheap calling card. Perhaps though, I will still give it a try now and then. It is difficult to get a cheaper hotel because we are both students, and any extra money we have is spent on paying for gas or train tickets to visit one another. By your suggestion, I will talk to him about asking his room mate to leave for a night perhaps. I think that is reasonable. I will bake him cookies. Thank you so much for your advice, Ilse. I feel so much better now. I already feel so much more optimistic about our relationship compaired to yesterday. He is coming up to visit me in just three days now, too!
  10. I met him in October 2005 while I was on exchange in Helsinki for a year. He called me over skype and we talked for months online. He is from Pennsylvania, and I'm from Ontario. We fell in love with each other and talked every single day - for hours and hours sometimes. The time difference and distance was difficult, but he eventually came to see me in Helsinki for three weeks! It was the best three weeks of my life. I've had my life planned out for myself for a while. I've been going to school, completely passionate about what I'm studying, what I want to study for my MA, what I want for my career. I've been working towards my dreams, completely in paradise. Then I met the man of my dreams. We officially started dating in June when he came to Helsinki to visit me - even though we've been devoted to each other since we met online. We wanted to make it official when we met. I moved back to Canada in July and we're a seven hour drive away from each other. He's told me he loves me with his whole heart, and that he never has a doubt in his mind that we can make this work. He said he'd come to see me as often as possible and find ways to get me down to see him. I moved to Toronto in September and it's been all downhill from there. I moved into a place where the internet is terrible. I mean TERRIBLE. I can't use skype anymore to talk to him. We try and try and try and it's so frustrating. We can't call each other on the telephone because it's too expensive. I can't afford a proper internet, and his internet at school is terrible too. He's tried talking to the tech guys about it, but they haven't done anything. I've seen him about once a month since I've been back in Canada, but they haven't been good visits. We don't get any alone time - we're either at his parents place, sharing his room at school with his roommate, or we're at my parents place ... and the only time he was in Toronto here with me he was only here three days, and he got sick. I mean, I absolutely LOVE seeing him. Every time I see him, I don't know how it's possible, but I fall in love with him even more. I feel like seeing him recharges our relationship battery. When I leave PA or when he leaves Toronto, I feel like we're going to be just fine, and I will wait as long as I need to for him. (we both will be finished school one year from now and were planning on moving at least into the same city at first, and eventually moving in together, and ... yes we've talked about marriage too). But then I don't get to talk to him ever. EVER. And now recently I've been going through a depression, and the fact that I can't talk to the man I love about it makes everything worse. I dont want to be a burden on him, but at the same time, I really need his comfort right now. I am suffering from insomnia. I cry all the time. I try not to let him know these things, because our LDR is hard enough as it is. I want to be a good girlfriend to him because we live so far apart and its hard on both of us. Even when I do decide I want to talk to him about how I'm feeling, our internet doesnt work, or I can't hear him or he can't hear me. It's so horrible. In a nutshell, I'm falling apart at the seams and I can't even TALK to the one I love. I'm depressed so I push him away. I won't let him comfort me so I get worse. When i do feel like letting him in, the internet doesnt work anyway. I rarely get to visit my boyfriend, and when we do visit, we have ZERO alone time. I'm ending it. I can't do this to him anymore. I can tell I'm frustrating him, and I'm completely ruining such a good thing that we had. If I was a good girlfriend I'd let him try to help me. He continues to tell me everything is going to be ok, and that we'll get through this. And still I'm alone. I still can't talk to him. I still cant see him and touch him. I want to quit school, because my academic and career dreams just seem so .... bland and boring now. Like they don't even matter anymore. He is such a good man. I've been in at least one other serious long term relationship (it wasnt an LDR though), but the way this man makes me feel is like no other. Sure we have had our problems, but he really listens to me when we have problems. He is so sweet and caring. So affectionate and attentive. I just want to have a normal relationship with him; cuddle and giggle and laugh and fight and cry and hug and kiss and have sex and go to the movies and all those things that normal couples do. But that's the sacrifice of an LDR, and I was fine with that, until our only means of communication was messed up. If I could just talk to him like we used to, everything would be ok. It has escaladed to depression for me because we dont even have any opportunities to sit down and have a heart-to-heart. We simply can't talk.
  11. Well, I still say ask her. It may not be as bad a reason as expected. But... you may be entering a mine field if you two do date with your religious differences. I got my behind handed to me on a silver platter by a Chrisitian who ultimately decided he couldnt date a non-Christian (despite the fact that we'd dated over a year, were REALLY close and sweet to eachother, and spent almost every moment together. He went away to this Christian camp and got himself a fresh dose of brainwashing and was convinced I was going to hell). So.... watch your step. It may just be good to cut your losses with the religion thing if that's what it turns out to be.
  12. Yep, that one is DEFINITELY the best. I've been around the mascara block a few times and I always go back to that one. It's awesome. your lashes could just be suffering from winter dryness that gets the rest of your body and hair with the change in seasons. Try moisturizing your lashes somehow (you can buy lash conditioners). If you want to save money, you could even try the same conditioner on your hair, REALLY gently on your lashes so you dont get any in your eyes! good luck
  13. You should ask her, straight out. She seems to like you a lot. If it is religion, and if she's christian, remind her that according to the old testament, Jews are God's chosen people and are pretty precious in his eyes
  14. I have no idea if popping cold sores will do anything (are they even blisters or just scabby circles?) Anyway, IF you decide to pop a blister with a needle, always pop it from the side, not the top.
  15. First of all, take some deep breaths and try to give yourself a few days to calm down. It hurts so much because you love her so much. Then decide why she acts the way she does. People will often attack things about other people (real or imagined) that they hate about themselves. She obviously has money issues, and is trying to justify why you're doing better than she is. Next you need to sit her down, and tell her exactly how she's acting. Don't ask her, TELL HER. That's always worked well for me - otherwise they'll just continue playing the denial game with you (and themselves). I've always said, "this is how you act, this is what you did, this is how you made me feel, and it is not under debate and I wont listen to excuses. I'm letting you know how you are". The other important thing to remember when confronting people is to sandwhich it between nice things (as hard as this will be cause you're so mad). Really reach inside yourself and be truthful. Tell her you want a good relationship, that you love her, and having her as a sister means the world to you. Express this stuff to her at the beginning and and of your convo, and be honest and sincere. Again, try to be as calm as you can, try to see things from her perspective, and most importantly, really aim for sincerity in expressing all of your feelings. My mother has always had a very abusive relationship with her sisters. She finally cut them out, but I can tell it still hurts her. Be careful what you wish for. We can choose our friends, but not our family.
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