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  1. hi, i picture a title like "Closing the door", something similar to that. : ] I'm not sure if that's a good suggestion, but it's what came to mind.
  2. Oops, i just realized this is a much older thread, but i thought i would write something anyway. Well, i personally don't see much wrong with lightly padded or molded bras/push-ups. For many years i wore seamless/regular ones but i didn't feel that they were flattering for me / provided enough support in the end. I found out that it's pretty common to wear ones that are padded/molded, so i don't really feel weird about it anymore (i used to think they would feel uncomfortable). I don't think it is really false advertisement though. It just tends to accentuate a person's shape a bit more, and it also makes some shirts/sweaters fit a bit more nicely. There isn't so much of a difference that it seems fake though, so i wouldn't see it as a bad thing.
  3. thanks guys. you've made good points, but I just have such a hard time putting it into practice. What I do is not congruent with what I know about bullies because inside, i still seem to believe that it's all my fault if someone targets me. If i can stop believing that, that would change things. But I dont really know why i blame myself as much as I do. Anyway, thanku again.
  4. By this time, I wanted to be asleep, but I just couldnt fall asleep. I just lay there, and all these feelings came over me. Feelings that I am always familiar with. Im really sad inside, and i still am dealing with the same issues as before. My first post was about dealing with bullies, and instead of internalizing all the good advice, i just feel worst than before. I feel like i have so much that i want to get out... I feel like a lousy person deep inside. But i dont know why. I respect everyone around me. I dont talk bad about people. I dont judge people on what they are wearing or anything trivial. I seriously dont do any of that, because i know what it feels like, and i want to respect people. But, do i respect myself? I guess not. I want to tell you something: after all of my previous experiences with mean and judgemental people, i feel like i am taking an exam everytime i meet someone. i feel like i have to be extra careful, with my body language or facial expressions - because if i dont, they will dislike me. I feel that way when i am in class too. Every new class i go to. I have to try really hard now, to maintian a neutral facial expression because i am afraid that if i dont, someone will attack me for looking rude or something - even though i am not. But, sometimes, i am feeling so crappy, and all i want to do is walk around and frown - but i feel like i can't, because some other bully will get on my back if i do. I feel so sick over this. Im just so scared that there really is something wrong with me. My head says "people are just insecure" but my heart says "you must be doing something wrong". I hate this so much. These are things in life that some people just step right over. These are not mountains - these are pebbles, no? And yet, i can't get over any of it. No matter what people tell me. It's hard when you know you are a kind person, and you would give anyone a chance, but they dont seem to see that. They want to judge you on something small. If you look at someone the wrong way by mistake, they dont want to think that you had a bad day and just happened to glance at them. They want to declare war against you. Blah, i am out of it - im sorry for sounding melodramatic. But this is really how i feel inside. How can i confront bullies, when i cant beat my own inner bully? Why do i feel this way about myself? I am so afraid of being misunderstood by people in every situation you can think of. I dont know what to do anymore. It's eating me up inside, and i dont know where to go. Tonight, just about every situation where someone was rude or whispered about me came back. And it hurt sooo much. I felt the sting of all these experiences that I so desperately wanted to let go of.
  5. hehe, i know, not the most exciting thread, but anyway, here is my little update: I started using eye makeup remover, and my lashes seem to be growing back! I guess using a gentle remover is very helpful and it seems to be preventing breakage while removing the mascara I have one with pro-vitamin b5 in it, and i dont know if that makes much of a difference in general, but at least, my lashes aren't breaking like they were before.
  6. thanks guys. Hmm, well, i think the first thing i want to try is switching mascaras. I dont mind having one more anyway lol. I think i will try one that has a conditioner in it. Also, maybe i will start using remover as well. I never really saw the point in remover, since many mascaras say that you can simply wash the product off with soap and water - but i may try it anyway. I dont know if i will purchase any sort of lengthening product - im very confused about them, and also, about where to get them - and how expensive they might be. I have actually tried applying vaseline to my lashes at night, but i find that my eye lids become a bit irritated when i do this - maybe its just my imagination - but it doesnt feel totally comfortable - and i dont apply a lot - or go too close to the eye lids. Oh well, i will try a new mascara - and see what happens. I love the one i have now, because it was one of the only ones that never irritated my eyes. but anywho, i will try to be optimistic about the next mascara and let u know how it goes lol.
  7. hi thanks for your replies so far. The thing is, I don't curl my lashes after i apply mascara, ive read that its not a good idea. So i curl them before applying mascara. And even then, i dont hold the curler in place for too long. Also, I eat well so i dont think that its about my diet. i never use remover - because water and cleanser seems to work well enough. But, like i said, i dont tug at the lashes, i just wash normally. So, im really confoosed :S
  8. Hey everyone. I just wanted to know if those of you who use mascara everyday lose a lot of lashes in the process? I really like the mascara i am using now, but i find that my lashes are actually a bit shorter now - i think that the mascara is causing breakage. i was just wondering how you guys deal with this - are there any mascara formulas that keep your lashes soft without drying them out? The kind that i use is really smoothe, so it really surprised me to see that it's causing breakage Any suggestions? What kind of mascaras work well for you? thanks more info: ive already read that water-proof mascaras can be overly drying or hard to remove, but the kind that i use is regular. so i guess its not a waterproof issue - and also, i never tug at my lashes when i am removing the mascara - i just wash my face and it comes off pretty easily
  9. hi, i really know how you feel - but it sounds like you've accomplished so much ! you sound like you can do anything you put your mind to - but you basically just want to know what that thing is that would make u happy. well, you wrote that it feels as though you've wasted some time - but i've always been told that education is never a waste - whatever you've studied will always hold value - dont underestimate it - knowledge is great !. and maybe it's unfolding this way for a reason? im still trying to figure out what i want to do myself - because in recent years i started to feel pretty much the same way - i started to wonder how i ended up doing what i am doing now...But, what i want to say is, maybe there are options that you've over-looked. maybe you're still looking too closely at what others tell you that you might like to do; or maybe you have un-consciously tied yourself down to certain ideas about what you ought to do, but not what you really want to do. i did the same thing too. i had tied myself down to certain ideas, but since then, i have now crossed most of those things off of my list. and it wasn't me giving up - it was just me realizing that i was changing, and the thought of doing those things wasn't so exciting to me anymore. maybe you've forgotten a little about the things that actually make you happy. think about things that bring u joy, without judging and placing restrictions on yourself and write those things down. sometimes, we think of something, but then we tell ourselves that we're just being silly - but maybe we're not. maybe we need to follow that idea, you know what i mean? i dont really know if any of this is helping, but i think you'll definitely be okay. none of my friends seem to be sure about what they really want to do - we're just trying different things out for now, but at least, no one - including yourself is giving up !! best wishes. p.s. again, you have not wasted your time. this happens to everyone ! there are many people who love what they do now, but if you ask them how they got there, you may be surprised ! most of those people had to try on a lot of different hats before finding the right one - i know everyone says it - but it is true !
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