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  1. She did discuss it with me before buying the house with me but didn’t know she was doing it right away or serious about it
  2. Thanks for this advice. Yes I’ll try my best to make her feel welcome but will probably discuss boundaries with my gf and her.
  3. Yes I have no problem with her living with us for 6 months to see how things go and see if we get a long
  4. Yup she knows I’m not too excited with her coming but without the mom, my gf wouldn’t be where she is today as she says. The mom did everything for her and sacrificed a lot for her when she was younger.
  5. The good thing is our master bedroom is upstairs and so is the living room. The empty room she will be occupying is downstairs but next to my office room and the kitchen is upstairs. The other good thing is we have a living room downstairs with a tv and another living room upstairs with a tv also
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  7. She’s applying for a green card once she gets here so there’s that
  8. I believe her mom will apply for a green card once she’s here but I do hope it doesn’t go through right away. I want to see how she is the time she’s here since I’ve never even met her.
  9. Not too sure but I think she will apply for the green card once she’s here? Didn’t really want to ask but I do hope it doesn’t happen
  10. Yes we’re from the same culture. Yes she’s the half owner but since she makes a lot more money than me, she’s paying 80% of our mortgage until I’m done with school so she has the advantage here.
  11. Hi guys so my gf and I bought our home last year and she had her friend and daughter stay with us which didn't work out. My gf and her are no longer friends after she treated our home like crap. Now we have 2 empty bedrooms and one is a guest room. My gf's mom is from another country and visits my gf every 2 years and usually stays with her for 6 months. She loves it here of course compared to where she is and has been wanting to come here soon. Ok so I'll get to the point that my gf just bought her mom's plane ticket for November. I was hoping she would only stay here for 6 months but she's actually having her move in with us. I hinted to her that I didn't want her moving in right away as Ive never even met the mom and she got disappointed and explained to me that without her mom, she wouldn't be where she is right now (Great paying job here in America). I do get it since her mom paid for her school and everything even though they came from a poor family but the thing is I don't want her moving in right away. The mom really wants to move here also cause my gf spoils her in every way and pays for everything. There's stuff I don't want to tell my gf cause I feel like she might get hurt. The mom is in her 70s and at the moment we have no kids but I feel like we will be taking care of a big kid. The thing about her mom is that she doesn't work or anything so we will have to support her financially. My gf doesn't mind buying her stuff all the time either but we have mortgage to pay and we like to take vacations every now and then, and also eat out a lot. I feel like it's going to hit us financially aswell. Also, I feel like date nights will no longer be there since my gf would probably bring her with us everywhere we go. Another thing is she still treats my gf like a kid like tells her what to do, gets mad if she didn't listen to her etc.. I also feel like she gets into people's business easy. I feel like I won't be comfortable in my own home with her living here but I made sure to tell my gf know that I don't want her mom touching or moving my stuff around when she's here as she does that with my gf's stuff. Another thing I feel is we will no longer have privacy with her here.
  12. My gf and I purchased a house last year and her friend from another state wanted to move to where we are. She told her she could stay with us since we have two vacant room downstairs. So the house is a shared kitchen. They've been here since November 2022. Its a mom and her 13 year old spoiled daughter. Anyways I had no problem with them staying at all but after 3 months of them living here, I'm super annoyed and want them out. My gf is her friend and even my gf is annoyed with her to the point where they dont even talk anymore and they used to be really close. So our mortgage is about 4300 per month and the tenants pay 1800 which is more than good for a 2 bedroom with their own floor and every utilities/wifi included as the one bedroom apartments in our area go from 2200-2900. My gf and I has been discussing this already and hope they get the clue that we want them out already. Here's what its been over the span of 3 months: -The spoiled daughter has no manners at all (She would just come upstairs, not acknowledge anyone and especially when we had visitors, she took the whole cupcake box for her one time which was for guests) -Spoiled daughter leaves the lights on downstairs even when not in use (The bathroom especially) My gf and I always have to turn it off. If we didn't turn it off, the bathroom light would be on all day and night till the mom is back from work. -In the span of 3 months, the mom has been using our supplies (Water, olive oil, rice,tupperware) and she hasn't bought her own. Its gotten so bad to the point where we leave our cases of water in our bedroom and not in the fridge since they would rather take our water than use the tap water from the fridge. My gf also purchased blankets for guests whenever we have them sleepover and her friend ended up taking them for her use and her daughter's use) -The mom cleans her dishes but always leave residue on the sink like leftover rice etc.. (My gf already showed her how to clean mess like that) -The mom hasn't once cleaned downstairs and their bathroom is super filthy. We were so embarrassed when we had visitors sleepover and use the restroom downstairs cause they said it was so dirty and clogged so we had to get a plumber to fix it. -The spoiled daughter would annoy the *** out of me cause she would order doordash delivery 3-4x a day while her mom is at work and we would get constant doorbells from these delivery guys. Also have to mention, she doesn't even tip them. (Would hate it if our house got targeted) Here's the worst part. The mom had her cousin and the wife sleepover three times in the span of 3 months. The first time was 2 nights, the second time was 3 nights, and the last time was last week for 4 nights. She only asked my gf if they could stay and the last time my gf told her to ask me if it was ok for them to sleep over as Im the owner of the house also. Guess what? She never asked me if it was ok and she let them sleep over anyway. So these overnight guests cooked in our house, used our own supplies, dishes, kitchenware etc. They washed them but couldn't even put any of them back where they belong? And who ended up putting it back? Of course I did. The times they stay over at our place, they would do their laundry aswell. My gf complained to me about all of this and we just vent it to each other but not to her friend. Anyways my gf doesn't want to kick them out yet but she's hoping her friend started looking for another place and move out within the next few months since she senses that they dont want to be her anymore and I sure hope they do find a place soon. Any other advices from here?
  13. Hi guys so my gf of one year and I purchased a house together. We love the house and all and its a 3 bedroom home with us having 2 extra rooms. My Gf's friend wanted to move to our state so she decided it would be best for her friend and her 12 year old daughter to live with us for now. She's giving them the 2 vacant rooms and charging her 43% of our mortgage. They will be moving here soon and of course my gf asked me if I was ok with it a few months ago before we closed on the house. I did agree but Im having my doubts now. I''ve met them before and her 12 year old daughter is a really spoiled brat. She always nags when she doesn't get stuff her way, throws a fit and tantrum when she's hungry, leaves her dishes unwashed in the sink, etc. She also likes to have friends over which won't be ok here since we would like our space. She already told her mom she wants a king bed when they move here and the room isn't big enough for that. The mom seems okay but the 12 year old daughter is my main concern as Ive seen how she acts around people. She was very aggressive with her aunt and would hit her hard even though they were just playing. I have a little dog here also that Im afraid she will be rough with and end up hurting this little one. Ive told my gf all these issues we might have and told me if I should've told her something before she told them they can stay with us. I feel selfish but I feel like them moving in will be an issue with us since I dont like when people touch my stuff without asking. Also another thing is our personal space. They will be downstairs with their own living room, 2 rooms, and restroom but the kitchen is upstairs where we have our living room and our master bedroom. I would prefer them to only come up when they are going to eat and not use this area as their living space as they already have the downstairs. And also dont really want their stuff mixed with our stuff like the food in the fridge, clothes etc.. What would you guys suggest? I guess we will give them a shot and see how this goes
  14. This put me in tears. I wish this is what my ex-gf of 4 years had in mind. I feel this pain
  15. Well she's going to expect it and right now im in debt but i found a better job so i will be able to pay off my debts. She's still with him because I called the mom and she said she hasn't been home still so I guess its over for me and her without no last words. Earlier she had the guts to call me with his phone on private and ask for my friend's number and says bye once i give it to her.
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