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day 29, mutual no contact. for me, it's gotten harder rather than easier in some ways. because after the first week or two i wrongly expected him to get in touch with me. i wasnt' grasping that the relationship was over. so now reality is hitting me, but i'm really proud that i haven't given in. i've been journaling a lot, making plans with friends, etc. no contact is becoming a habit now, and i don't have any major urges to call/write. adore

ahh. my ex broke up with me 12 days ago and so far and neither of us have made any attempt to contact the other. i had broken up with him early in march, but he im'd me a few days after that and started emailing me with 'oh, i messed up. you're right, i want to work on this.' i was trying to be distant, but that encouraged him. finally, we spoke on the phone and agreed to give it another shot. for the most part things were good until about a month ago when i realized that i'm not a big priority for him. granted, we're in a long distance relationship and he just started a new job (and is quite stressed about the latter), but he seems so cold all of the time! it finally became too much and i called him on it. he said he loves me but we're incompatible (we are) and that there's a lot of friction between us that bothers him. these words are nothing new, and i suppose i didn't take him very seriously. i'm so confused about my feelings for him. i have an itch to call, but it's not overwhelming. do these things get worse? am i in denial? why am i not freaking out? i'm fairly conflicted on what to do next, but i hate to give in since i've been soooo good thus far. i guess i'm just curious why he isn't calling at all. *sigh* i guess we always desire that which we can't have. help! i need encouragement.

you're absolutely right. i feel so irresponsible for not going on the pill. thanks for your reply. adore

hi all, perhaps i'm being very paranoid, but i'm so afraid i may have become pregnant. i just had sex for the first time in august, and none after until this month. i'm in an LDR and my boyfriend was in town for a week and we slept together several times. each time we used spermicidal condoms and he never ejaculated inside of me. we never had any condoms break or split. my period was due either yesterday or today and still hasn't arrived. i realize it's not very long, but my periods are *very* regular. i feel so terrible for not going on birth control. the past few days i have had my usual "pms symptoms," but i haven't officially started bleeding. i'm not sure what to do and i think i'm driving my boyfriend nuts. he said i should relax and give it a few days at least. help! adore