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dont waste time make a decision and stick to it - if you dont want to get married with this girl and she isnt the one get rid asap dont mess her life up to due to how you are not feeling happy with the relationship all the time

physically you dont match -

Okay so we saw each other and it was fine joking etc usual stuff then he sends me an email - I am so very sorry about everything. It is all a big mess and that is down to me. But I know you and I will both make things work out from here on. We have to now. There is no other choice but to make it work. I am finding it very hard without you. Why and what for! I dont get it! what does this mean! we had to part of course as we had no future with his ma being the way she was and his utter lack of thought for me - is is regreting it or is this just he way not to make him think i hate him! What does this mean! I know we shouldnt look to much into what they say but i cant help it - and i know nor can you guys so over to yu!

yeah sorry you feel so low but think you have a wonderful family and have great friends and a great life - discover who you are!

if she loves you she will understand and to keep it any longer from her is not a great thing to do

thing is about sex you do it if it feels right - nothing about pressure but cause you just want to -

you are ready - dont hold back give it a go you are young what you got to loose you like him he likes you so why not

you are not thinking of you now instead you think of getting back that is not gonna work is it

no dont do it or face another sleepness night - you will regret it and it iwll be worse tomorrow - go see a movie or something instead

look i dont want to be a dampner on what friscodi said but listen sometimes things outside of the relationship when it comes to marriage can really hurt and make or break the situation. SO here goes - i to was in a long term relationship and the guy was up for marriage then decided to go away and when i pushed it on him as we had to get engaged before we went he panicked asked him mum again and she flipped and so i had no choice but to break up - a mamas boy who still doesnt know why we broke up and thinks in a year we could be together The reason i simplify my story for you is that this boy is not going to change he isn ot mature enough to get married and his family issues play on his mind - if you had kids how would they react to the kids i mean his family and do you always want to be ostracised rather then let into the family ? Greeks are very family orientated and you should respect that fact - he wants you but doesnt and these games could go on forever and you arent getting younger - i let my ex play these games with me for the same time as you did but i am now 32 and have to start again - i suggest you move on and find yourself someone with out such insecurities etc if someone wants to marry you they will let you know an dyou will know it is right - This is not a good way to spend your time and it is time to let go and be you again and find someone who wants to be with you without conditions - marriage is for life and all the outside influences are really not going to be of a help to you in the future or now - sorry to be so harsh but i just dont want you to make the same mistake i did - if someone isnt ready let them go he was not ready twice what does this say to you? Sometimes if you love someone you gotta set them free right? this family issue of unacceptance is a big one in asian and greek and irish cultures and the low down is the boy will go with the parents most of the time and life for you if you did go together will be very hard and worse when kids get involved

i know it is your first relationship but if it aint right then leave it alone - so break up with her and stay that way dont go back and do NC of course you feel sad but without this you wont learn - i agree with the one above have some spine and stick to it or you will regret the wasted time Move on now and do it if you wanted to = stop going back of course all will get hurt but it is better now then later

I met up with the ex to say goodbye and it was fine - we chatted and laughed and ithought i would feel bad he kept saying maybe in a year we can be together and he doesnt know why we split - i do and think it was the right thing to do - i feel happy with the decision his ma would always be an issue and i had the balls to do something about it - better to feel bad now then in the future Thanks to all for your help with this - i am going to be strong i know i am alone but it is for the bestnow

you have a wonderful chance in this life - why blow it and cop out early. I alsways thought that suicide is an easy way out and it is - almost selfish what about your family and friends - what abou thtose who you may meet come on you deserve to do better then be a cop out - you have so much to give dont give up on yourself due a man - grwo up you can do better and one day that person will come be strong lots of luck

God never takes something away from you without replacing it with something much better!! i love this idea - i did not do nc but not my fault he kept a rouse to see me so i did do nc in terms of not letting him come to see me and i ignored calls etc and it helped immensely - he wants to see me today and i think it is better we dont again - it has helped me not to see him to move on to other things - yeah i miss him but i have other things more important to deal with

sorry to hear how you are feeling - i spent the first few days on my own really then three months into nc began to tell everyone why it happened and it is getting better. I think you need to change her name on the phone to a name that reminds you why you broke up and as you work with her i think you have to start to think only of work and what you want to be not about you and her - you are on your own now not a couple and it is impearative you are happy - do whatever it takes - good luck and we are here for your rants