rmpavlock
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Oh....the "you're so hot" compliment. I used to get that from my ex...and not many other compliments. It doesn't always sound complimentary, does it? Your boyfriend's "constructive criticism" is not constructive in any way. You have a certain way of doing things, and he needs to back off and let you do them, whether he likes it or not. The world isn't going to end if you do the laundry a different way. That's just controlling.
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Well, how do you come accross on your profile? Do you sound enthusiastic, sarcastic, desperate? A lot of times I think it depends on your tone, not just the information you give.
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Well, if you usually get great reactions from women I wouldn't worry about it. Not everyone can like you or have the same sense of humor. It sounds like last night just wasn't a good one.
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It is a learning experience, isn't it? I think once you are in something like that, once you get out and you regain some of that confidence, it's unlikely you will make that same mistake again. It's something to look out for in other people, and you can have a stronger idea of who you are and what you will and will not put up with. I don't think it's something you should forget, but it is something you need to move on from. I think that takes time, and it's natural to feel angry after you are away from it and start thinking back on it.
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What do you mean by talking "smack"? I always associate that with badmouthing people?
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intentional
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Talking about yourself the entire time, not asking the girl any questions about herself, feeling you have a right to treat another person with disrespect(as though you are above it all), looking down on people who think differently from you
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"Exclusive" Need advice from guys specially!
rmpavlock replied to Magic_star829's topic in Dating Advice
He sounds wishy washy. If he really likes you he shouldn't be afraid to put the boyfriend/girlfriend label on because if he really likes you he won't want to lose you. It sounds kinda shady. -
If you are in a relationship with someone, no contact to get the person back is a horrible idea. To me it's manipulative to try that on someone you WANT to be with because you are not being clear about what you want. You just try to control the other person into doing what you want them to do. However, no contact should definitely be used in an actual break up. You definitely need time away from that person to gain clarity over the situation. If you stay in contact(especially if that person is manipulative), everything remains muddled. People should use no contact as a way of getting used to life without someone that wasn't good for them. It gives the person a chance to realize that they will be okay...even better off.
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Hey...I like short guys! I'm pretty short myself...5'1" and I tried dating someone who was 6'3". It was so awkward, and I hated it. His waist practically came up to my shoulders. I could barely keep up with him walking.
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would not accept my decision
rmpavlock replied to Tj williams's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
Right now you are broken up. That's all there is to it. She has no right to be mad at you. You are a big boy and are allowed to make your own decisions. Don't let her dictate what you do because you are both young and right now you are on shaky ground as is. If you stay broken up and did something just to please her, you would end up regretting it. Bottom line...that was not her decision to make, and she has no right telling you what to do. It's not her business anymore. That's why they call it a break up. "It's called a break up because it's broken". -
Is it possible to make him want a serious relationship with me?
rmpavlock replied to ShaKe__'s topic in Relationship Advice
In my opinion, a guy who wants to be friends with benefits isn't even a friend. He doesn't want to have to deal with any of the difficulties of an actual relationship, but he gets to have the fun stuff. I'm sorry, but someone who takes advantage like that is not even a friend. A friend would care about how you felt and wouldn't want you to be in a position to be taken advantage of. -
Well, it sounds like whatever it is, it's up to her. After all, isn't she the one who broke it off in the first place? It sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. Maybe you should try to hang out with other people and make some new friends to get your mind off of her. You are both young. There is no need to get so serious yet.
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Just be thankful you are no longer with him. There is no excuse for yelling and cursing at someone like that. He could have said, "don't call" or "i don't want to talk to you"...but he didn't. It says a lot about his character. Also, if he said that your email wasn't even worth responding to, why did he? It really does sound like he just doesn't like not being in control of this situation. All of these are attempts are to get him to "win" back control over you.
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It doesn't matter that he apologizes. Apologizing after the fact loses meaning. He is clearly not sorry if he does it in the first place(and then keeps at it!). Please be strong and try to get away. No one deserves to be abused! No matter how much it might hurt to end things with him, you need to think about your safety....because he clearly isn't.